A blog post from a conservative Christian mommy blogger is taking over the parenting corner of the internet, a place that often has more discord than the halls of Congress. Lori Alexander, a.k.a. The Transformed Wife, posted a chart titled “Should Mothers Have Careers?” in which she compared her thoughts on working moms vs. stay-at-home moms—and it’s really something.

Alexander is a full-time homemaker who has been married for 39 years and has four grown children and nine grandchildren. Her About section on Facebook reads, “Learning about marriage, raising children, homemaking, and being a godly woman who desires to be transformed into the image of Christ!”

In the flowchart, she directly compares and contrasts her perception of the lives of working and stay-at-home moms. For example, in the SAHM column she writes of dinnertime, “Dinner is from scratch, nutritious, and delicious” whereas with working moms, “Dinner is usually fast food or microwaved.” She also says working moms lack time for intimacy and that their lives are “falling apart” whereas SAHMs spend weekends at the beach and are totally fulfilled.

It’s easy to see why people are angry—and the ire coming from both sides of the mommy aisle. (Not to mention that staying at home is not a financial option for many families.) “Motherhood is not a competition. Moms in both groups have challenges to face that are not more important than the other,” wrote one commenter on the Facebook post. “Also- welcome to 2018 where dads are like, fathers and stuff now, who also help with domestic duties such as cooking, cleaning and! (Are you ready for this? Clutch your pearls) help take care of the children. 😱” Another said, “I have been a stay-at-home and work-from-home mom for the last 16 + years. This chart is one of the dumbest things I’ve ever seen in my life.”

“Staying home with a three-year-old makes me feel like more of a failure as a mother than working out of my house EVER did! Also, if this stay at home mom is resting when the children do, when is she preparing that from scratch meal and cleaning so she is free to spend weekends at the beach?” another commenter remarked.

When Glamour reached out to Alexander, she said she did not intend to shame working mothers but “I simply want them to ponder their life paths.” She explained that she is “teaching Christian women biblical motherhood according to Titus 2:3-5 in the Bible where God commands older women to teach younger women to be ‘keepers at home.'”

“No one can take the place of a mother in a child’s life. I was a career woman for the first two years of my first child’s life and I could totally relate to the left side of the flowchart,” she told us. “I knew I was the one that was supposed to be at home raising my own children. Most women aren’t even told that this is good! Homemakers are embarrassed when asked what they do. What can be more important than raising the next generation?”

As for the viral backlash, Alexander says she’s had it since she started writing in 2011 and won’t let it “steal her joy.”

“I teach what I am called to teach and leave the results in the Lord’s hands.”

You know how sometimes you see someone whose skin is so dewy and luminescent that you can only gaze, transfixed (while also murmuring a silent prayer to the skin care gods to bless your own complexion in a similar fashion)? That was me—often—whenever I met with Soko Glam founder Charlotte Cho. Her knowledge of K-beauty is vast and unending, but there’s one recommendation I always go back to. “This is really good,” she once told me as she passed me her go-to product for eliminating blackheads. Naturally, I ripped it open the second I got home. Two years later, I still tell everyone who raises the subject of blackheads to try it immediately.

Before you ask, I’m not talking about pore strips. I’ve tried plenty of those before, and while it’s undeniably satisfying to watch them peeling pockets of gunk away from your skin, they also leave my nose looking red and irritated. I feel similarly about those pull-off charcoal masks that superglue themselves to your epidermis and refuse to let go. Great for viral videos, not so great for your face. The blackhead treatment that finally won me over is the far gentler (but equally satisfying) Skinmiso Pore Beauty Nose Mask.

Soko Glam sells the masks in a 10-week set—the idea being that you use one of the 10 packs once a week. Thanks to my inability to stick to a schedule for anything not related to food, I tend to space them out more, which means the $20 treatment lasts even longer for me.

There are three steps, which I realize sounds like a lot of work, but the results are fully worth it. (Plus, you spend most of the time marinating in essence, which involves no active work on your part.) In the pouch labelled “Step 1,” you’ll find an essence-soaked sheet mask cut in the shape of a pore strip. This is the Blackhead & Whitehead Removal Mask, which you’ll drape over your nose for 10 minutes. The formula is packed with ingredients that help quickly soften your blackheads and draw them to the surface, prepping them for far easier extraction. You may experience some mild tingling—don’t be alarmed. “This product is different compared to traditional pore strips because it does not adhere to your nose to strip away dead skin cells and clogged pores,” explains Diana Chen, Soko Glam’s senior merchandising manager. “It loosens up the debris in your pores.”

You’ll notice this as soon as you remove the mask and go in with the individually packaged cotton swab (if you have a comedone remover, that works even better). Using light pressure, run it over your nose and watch a bunch of gunk come pouring out. I can’t really think of a better way to describe it than that. If you enjoy watching pimple-popping videos and examining the aftermath of a pore strip session, you’ll love this.

Then, it’s time for the second step—another 10-minute mask. Wipe the gunk off your nose, then cover it with the Pore Tightening & Soothing Nose Strip, which performs the all-important step of soothing your skin and minimizing the appearance of your pores. Any lingering redness from your extractions will melt away under its ministrations. And to cap it off, step three: a tiny pouch of transparent gel labelled “Essence” that you apply with your finger. The formula has the velvety slip of a primer and blurs your pores into soft-focus nonexistence. Usually, by the time I’m done, the rest of my complexion looks a bit lackluster in comparison. Can your pore strip accomplish that? Somehow, I doubt it.

By now, we should know Taylor Swift is willing to go all the way to keep her private life, well, private (after all, she did allegedly travel inside a suitcase to avoid paparazzi). Now Taylor is apparently using facial recognition at her concerts to track down stalkers.

As reported by Rolling Stone, during a Pasadena concert, kiosks disguised a facial-recognition camera inside an activation that displayed some highlights from her Reputation tour rehearsals. The show took place on May 18 and saw Taylor take the stage alongside Shawn Mendes in front of 60,000 attendees (as she wrote back then on her Instagram).

According to a concert-security expert who attended the concert to see a demo of the system as the guest of the manufacturer of the kiosks, who spoke to Rolling Stone, the purpose of the system was to track whether any of Taylor’s stalkers would be in attendance. As soon as any concertgoer would step into the booth, their photo was taken and simultaneously transferred to a “command post” located in Nashville to be “cross-referenced with a database of hundreds of the pop star’s known stalkers.” Taylor’s representatives did not respond to Rolling Stone‘s request for comment.

The premise of watching some unseen rehearsal footage would obviously attract any Swifty, but how many would have chosen to go in had they known their information was being captured?

The Verge points out that it is technically in Taylor’s (and the venue’s) right to carry out these security measurements if she wishes, since the concert is considered a private event. But the use of the tech without concertgoer consent raises questions about how privacy works and what happens to stored information after the show.

In April, a federal judge in California ruled that Facebook can be sued in a potentially multibillion-dollar class-action lawsuit precisely for the nonconsensual use of its facial-recognition software, which the suit claims violated Illinois’s Biometric Information Privacy Act that requires written consent in order to gather biometric information — including facial recognition. In a statement reported by Reuters at the time, Facebook said it was reviewing the ruling. “We continue to believe the case has no merit and will defend ourselves vigorously,” the company said in the statement.

According to both The Verge and Rolling Stone, the use of this type of software is on the rise and might become commonplace in the not-so-distant future. Ticketing giant Ticketmaster recently invested in a startup called Blink Identity, which reportedly has tech that can identify people walking past — in a likely effort to “help fans move through turnstiles more efficiently,” Rolling Stone reported. These measures are not being rolled out lightly; as Ticketmaster told RS, “We’re just being very careful about where and how we implement it.”

Obviously, security is a valid concern for Taylor, an artist with hundreds of millions of excited fans, and one who has dealt with dangerous stalkers in the past. In April, longtime stalker Frank Andrew Hoover was sentenced to probation after reportedly sending threatening emails and following her motorcade to the airport. He’s one of several in recent years to face legal action for stalking Taylor.

Teen Vogue has reached out to Taylor Swift’s PR team for comment.

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