Divorce Glossary: A Complete Guide to Legal Terms

After peaking during the 1970s and ’80s, much has been made of the fact that divorce rates are now on the decline—especially among millennials. Still, if you’re thinking about splitting with your spouse, or you have already, sunny statistics aren’t exactly useful. Throughout this weeklong series of stories, Glamour.com explores what it means to uncouple in a modern world.

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As if the act of getting divorced isn’t stressful enough, there’s the issue of trying to internalize what feels like an entirely new language of legalese that’s unavoidable during the process. Whether you’re just beginning proceedings or you’re well on your way, understanding the confusing jargon can make all the difference. So, with the help of New York-based attorney Nancy Chemtob, founding partner at Chemtob, Moss, Forman & Beyda LLP, we put together a glossary of terms you’ll be hearing a lot of to help you navigate every step of the process.

Add-on expenses. Money that’s paid to one’s child(ren) in addition to child support. “When you’re calculating child support, the money that you calculate doesn’t include add-ons,” says Chemtob. “Add-on expenses cover anything that’s additional, like tutors, extracurricular activities, summer camp, college, private school, [and] non-reimbursed medical expenses.”

Age of majority. The age at which a young person is considered to be an adult in a given state. “In New York state it’s 21, in Florida it’s 18,” explains Chemtob. “It differs state to state.”

Alimony. The financial payments made by a person to his/her former spouse during separation or following divorce; this is also called spousal support or spousal maintenance. According to Chemtob, alimony payments are determined by income, with the spouse who makes more money paying the spouse who makes less.

Alternative dispute resolution. Methods of resolving legal disputes without going to trial. “It’s the same as mediation,” explains Chemtob. “You have a third party [helping to] bridge the gap and [acting as] an unbiased mediator” between those getting the divorce.

Arrearages. The amount of money that is past due for child or spousal support. “Let’s say you’re supposed to pay $10,000 a month, and you haven’t paid [for 3 months], you’d owe $30,000,” explains Chemtob. “That $30,000 is the arrearages or the amount of money that’s unpaid for support.”

Child support. Money that a non-custodial parent pays to a custodial parent to cover their child(ren)’s food, clothing and shelter; also called child maintenance. “There’s an age duration,” explains Chemtob, meaning it’s paid [only] until the child is emancipated or reaches the age of majority.

Child support guidelines. Guidelines outlining the manner in which child support must be calculated, based on income and the child(ren)’s needs. “They look at the income [of] the spouses to determine how much the child support will be,” says Chemtob. And while nearly all states have a monetary cap, this cap can be exceeded when other factors are applicable.

Custody. “Custody determines who the primary parent [is],” says Chemtob. Custody can be either legal, which means that a person has the right to make important decisions about his/her child’s welfare, or physical, which means that the child lives with and is raised by that person.

Decree. The court’s written order finalizing divorce.

Default. Failing to make timely support payments, as outlined by a court order. “If you fail to make timely payments, you’re in default, but there has to be a court order” explains Chemtob. If support payments are agreed upon by both parties without a court order, and one party misses a payment, he/she can’t legally be held accountable.

Defendant. The person against whom legal papers are filed, also sometimes referred to as the respondent.

Deposition. Part of the discovery process in a legal proceeding wherein the plaintiff’s attorney asks the defendant questions while his/her attorney is present (or vice versa), and a stenographer takes a written account of the exchange.

Discovery. A legal proceeding’s information exchange process, including requests for documents and the taking of depositions.

Dissolution. In divorce cases, the reference to a relationship’s end point.

Divorce. The legal termination of a marriage.

Domestic violence. Abuse or threats of abuse occurring between members of the same household.

Domestic strife. Conditions in a home impacting the daily emotional well-being of the person(s) seeking relief. It may not may physical abuse or violence, “but it’s untenable” Chemtob explains.

Emancipated. When a child is no longer under the control of his/her parents or guardians. In the eyes of the law, parents are required to take care of their children until their children reach a certain age (18 or 21, depending on the state). Emancipation terminates these parental obligations and duties of support toward the child. “Each state is different,” explains Chemtob, but this rule is applicable “when the child has joined the armed forces, gotten married, [began] working full time, or they’ve reached the age of majority.”

Equitable distribution. “The division of marital assets,” says Chemtob, in a way that is considered fair to both parties.

Interrogatories. Written questions served by one party to an another “in lieu of a deposition,” explains Chemtob. “It’s a formal document attesting to the fact that all of the answers you’re giving are true,” and must be notarized.

Joint legal custody. The sharing, by both parents, of the right to make important decisions about their child’s welfare.

Joint physical custody. The sharing, by both parents, of the actual physical care and custody of their child.

Legal custody. The right of one parent/guardian to make important decisions about the raising of your child, on issues such as health care, religious upbringing, education, etc.

Marital property. Generally, all property acquired during the marriage. Says Chemtob: “This can be anything that was acquired from the date of the marriage until the time that there’s a divorce action, so furniture, money, a business, anything.”

Mediation. A form of alternative dispute resolution that resolves legal disputes without going to trial, using a trained and impartial third party who attempts to bring the parties together in mutual agreement.

Non-custodial parent. The parent who does not have physical custody of the child(ren).

Non-marital property. Also called separate property. Generally, property owned by either spouse prior to marriage, or acquired by them individually via gift or inheritance.

Parenting coordinator. A third-party person who serves as a tie-breaker in cases of joint legal custody wherein a decision between both parents/guardians can’t be reached; this person “can be a lawyer or non-lawyer” and would make a decision or recommendation on behalf of the child, says Chemtob.

Physical custody. The day-to-day rights and responsibilities associated with having your child in your home and being responsible for his/her care and upbringing.

Petitioner. Often, the person who initiates divorce or marriage dissolution proceedings also called the plaintiff.

Plaintiff. The person who initiates legal proceedings often called the petitioner in family law.

Prenuptial agreement. An agreement entered into before marriage that sets forth each party’s rights and responsibilities should the marriage terminate by death or divorce. Also called a premarital agreement. According to Chemtob: “the parties predetermine, should there be a divorce, how the assets would be distributed and if one of the parties would receive maintenance or alimony.”

Postnuptial agreement. An agreement entered into after the marriage date, setting forth each party’s rights and responsibilities should the marriage terminate. “It’s exactly the same thing as a prenup, except for the fact that the marriage has already happened,” Chemtob says.

Qualified Domestic Relations Order or QDRO. An order issued by the court to divide retirement benefits.

Respondent. The person who answers a petition in a legal proceeding, sometimes also referred to as the defendant.

Restraining order. An order issued by the court, often in conjunction with domestic violence or custody disputes, requiring the subject of the order to refrain from doing something, which can be anything from “texting, stalking, to harassing,” explains Chemtob.

Settlement conference. A meeting wherein both parties and their lawyers attempt to settle a case. Explains Chemtob: “It can be before court, after court…you can do it as much or as little as you want.”

Split custody. A form of custody in which some or one of the parties’ children is/are in the custody of one parent and the remaining child(ren) is/are in the custody of the other parent.

Spousal support. Financial payments made to a spouse or former spouse during separation or following divorce. Also called alimony or spousal maintenance.

Stipulation. An agreement entered into by the divorcing spouses that settles the issues between them.

Visitation. Access time that a noncustodial parent spends with his or her child(ren), either agreed to by the parties or ordered by the court.

Millennials Are Causing the U.S. Divorce Rate to Drop

For the last half-century, conventional wisdom has claimed that half of all marriages end in divorce, meaning that tying the knot is a little like flipping a coin and hoping it lands heads up. That’s a pretty depressing outlook as far as matrimony is concerned. Luckily, it’s not exactly true anymore. Social scientists have long been trying to correct this particular record to little avail since divorce rates—which peaked in the 1970s and ‘80s—have been steadily on the decline for decades. And for people getting married right now—many of whom are millennials—the likelihood of splitting up may be lower than their parents’ generation, aka baby boomers, known for marrying young, getting divorced, then often remarrying.

Today’s young couples are, essentially, doing the exact opposite: we’re being more selective about who we settle down with, we’re making it official at older ages, often into our thirties when we have a decent handle on our careers, our finances, and what we generally want out of life. It’s because of these reasons that we’re also driving the divorce rate down.

A September 2018 analysis by University of Maryland sociology professor Philip Cohen found that the the U.S. divorce rate decreased by 18 percent from 2008 to 2016, thanks to millennials. “The overall drop has been driven entirely by younger women,” Cohen writes. The study points out that just-married women are now “more likely to be in their first marriages, more likely to have BA degrees or higher education, less likely to be under age 25, and less likely to have own children in the household,” all factors Cohen suggests might affect the risk of divorce.

Another potential reason that millennial marriages might ultimately be better built to last? Simply the fact that this generation doesn’t appear to feel as pressured to put a ring on it as the ones that came before—which translates to more time spent really figuring out if a relationship feels right. Yes, millennials might have pioneered the wild world of hookup apps, but a recent eHarmony report found that American couples between the ages of 25 and 34 knew each other an average of six and a half years before jumping the broom, compared to an average of five years in all other age groups. Time will tell how their nuptials play out. But, at least in theory, the future of their marriages look bright.

All week, you’ll find intel on Americans who are hammering out custody agreements for their pets, how divorce party services are alive and well, what it’s like to have sex for the first time after being in a committed marriage, and what women would ideally put on their divorce registry.

Still, if you’re thinking about splitting with your spouse, or you’re someone who has already been through a divorce, sunny statistics aren’t exactly useful. The reasons why a marriage ends, and the way that it happens, are as unique as the people and circumstances involved. When divorce is your reality, it’s the real talk that gets you through. Which is exactly why set out to create this package on Glamour.com we’re calling My Millennial Divorce.

Across this series of stories—conceived by our own editors who, during the course of casual conversation, realized we all had friends who are getting or have gotten divorced, many of whom at surprisingly young ages—we explored the parts of splitting up that are practical and relevant to the brass tacks processes. Like, for example, what to expect when you’re divorcing and what you should do if you suspect separation papers are on the horizon—as well as some explorations of what modern-day divorces actually looks like.

You’ll also find intel on Americans who love their pets so much they’re hammering out custody agreements over them in court, how divorce party planning services are alive and well, what it’s like to have sex for the first time after being in a committed marriage for years, and what it feels like to gain 60 pounds after splitting with your husband, and turn it into a business opportunity.

That’s not all. We also asked women about what they would ideally put on their divorce registry—a.k.a. the time in a person’s life when they actually need someone to, say, buy them a blender—and talked to a new bride who insisted on a postnuptial agreement to protect her emotions, not just her finances.

Then there are the celebrity divorces that stand out in our minds as moments of #peakliberation (the literal confetti-filled moment when Britney Spears and Kevin Federline officially uncoupled made the cut, as did a list of stars you forgot split from one another, the divorce movies that might provide the kind of solidarity your friends just can’t during this trying time, and words of wisdom about splitting up and the joys of being single from the stars. Or, as Whoopi Goldberg once put it: “I don’t want somebody in my house.”

Whether you’re on the precipice of a divorce yourself, or just curious about what uncoupling looks like right now, check back all week long for the above and much more.

I’m a Great Cook. Now That I’m Divorced, I’m Never Making Dinner for a Man Again

When my marriage fell apart, I stopped cooking. I gave my children frozen chicken nuggets, pizza, quesadillas, or their favorite: toddler tapas—cheese sticks, nuts, fruit, crackers, veggies, all displayed on a hand-me-down china platter. Now they eat like “fancy ladies,” as my first grader says piling her little paper plate with nuts and grapes. I live off of bagged salads, rotisserie chicken, and whiskey.

I stopped cooking because I was tired. The kind of tired where your face vibrates and your eyes throb. Too tired to care what I put in my mouth. And my children (then six and four) only wanted to eat go-Gurts and Cheez-its anyway. The person who cared was my husband. I had been cooking for him for 12 years.

When we first married and moved to Iowa, I couldn’t find a job. I spent my days cooking. I worked my way through the Joy of Cooking—mastering pastry dough for beef wellington, rolling tortillas on the kitchen floor of our apartment because there was no counter space. I cut open chicken breasts and stuffed them with blue cheese. I braided challah and pinched gnocchi. I made all sorts of pie—lemon, French silk, apple, so many kinds of apple—their molten insides burning my fingers and my tongue as I sampled them hoping they’d turn out. Hoping that when he came home, my husband would sit down and taste them and say, “Thank you.”

Inspired by online recipe sites, he’d sit down to dinner and then let me know what rating I earned.. “If I give you five out of five, you’ll quit,” he joked. And I laughed because when I was in my 20s. I believed that you were supposed to laugh when someone hurt your feelings. I thought you were constantly supposed to be trying harder.

I did try harder. I developed my own pizza dough recipe and every Friday would make pizzas—barbeque pork, goat cheese and heirloom tomato, chicken and ranch, caramelized onion and fresh mozzarella, mac and cheese. I made them thin and thick. Sweet and savory. My dough recipe took years to develop and a whole day to make. I’d begin on Fridays at five in the morning, finishing with the dishes at seven at night.

I collected recipes, printing them out and dutifully making notes in the margins on how many stars he gave them and any feedback he had—too oniony, too garlicky, too spicy, not enough meat. And even later, when I did get a job, and when I went to graduate school, I filled the freezer for him—casseroles, homemade cookies, pans of brownies. I’d crock pot stew and portion it off into little bags, leaving notes that instructed how to de-thaw, how to reheat. How to eat without me there.There were lapses of course. When I had babies. Or the time I had a kidney infection and sciatica. But during those times, friends brought us food.I remember once, when the kids were little, I begged him to bring home food. “Just do it,” I said. “Just come home with a rotisserie chicken or a pile of one dollar hamburgers from McDonald’s, anything.”

“But what if you’ve already planned something?”

My nipples were raw from breastfeeding. My brain numb from lack of sleep. I laughed thinking about whatever failed casserole or half-hearted pasta I’d thrown together the night before. “I’d be so happy.”

In the tangle of performance and purpose, in my quest to make a home, I had created elaborate offerings, which were consumed and judged, and yet afforded me no redemption, no grace, no more than four out of five stars.

And then, one night, as my daughter watched TV, my toddler screamed from the living room, and the water boiled, collecting steam on the windows, I broke. I cut and chopped and desperately looked at a recipe on my phone. My back burned with frustration. My feet ached from standing. The steam flushed my cheeks and I wondered at the molecules that could escape from the heat as I stood trapped there, spatula in my hand.

It’s hard for me to understand when cooking became more repression than liberation, more act of obligation than act of creation. But I knew it then. This thing that had sustained me now felt like a prison. And whose fault was it? It certainly wasn’t all my husband’s. After all, hadn’t I wanted to cook? Hadn’t I enjoyed it? Hadn’t I found purpose in the texture of the cinnamon rolls, the ache of my arm as a whisked a French silk pie over a double boiler. But who had that ever been for? I couldn’t remember.

In the tangle of performance and purpose, in my quest to make a home and love, I had created elaborate offerings, which were consumed and judged, and yet afforded me no redemption, no grace, no more than four out of five stars.

That night, I dumped the water in the sink. Tossed the ingredients in the trash. I poured myself a glass of wine and threw some frozen chicken nuggets in the microwave. When my husband came home, we were already eating.

That was the last time I cooked for two years. That first year, we were in couple’s therapy almost weekly. I would wake up at five in the morning and go work out. Then, I’d come home, get the kids ready for school, drop them off, and come back to the house and cry. I was supposed to be working. But mostly I just sat and stared at the Word document that had become my daily journal and wept. Then I would try to nap in the guest room until it was time to pick up the kids from school.It’s amazing the energy it takes to not cry in a Target aisle or not to pound the steering wheel in the school pick-up lane. It’s incredible the sheer force of will it takes to look at people you don’t know in the eye and say, “How are you? Oh me? I am fine.” Over and over without screaming that everything you love and hoped to have in this world was unraveling and you couldn’t fix it.

After all of that, I didn’t have the energy to cook.

I stopped cooking because I wanted to feel as unencumbered as man walking through the door of his home with the expectation that something had been done for him. I wanted to be free of cutting coupons and rolling dough and worrying about dinner times and feeding. I wanted to rest.

That year of unraveling we were still in the same house and he still came home every day. “What’s for dinner?” he asked every time. And every time, I’d stare at him. The energy it takes not to give someone the finger is enormous. So, I’d just stay silent and eat from my salad, while he stood there, confused about what to do.

I stopped cooking because I wanted to feel as unencumbered as man walking through the door of his home with the expectation that something (everything) had been done for him. I wanted to be free of cutting coupons and rolling dough and worrying about dinner times and feeding. I wanted to rest. To be just like him and sit with the kids and play. I wanted to lie on the couch and watch Curious George and snuggle tiny arms, tiny hands. I wanted to watch TV or order in. Or forget dinner and have popcorn instead. So I did.

He didn’t stop asking what was for dinner until I moved out.

In the new place, Greek yogurt, bagged salads, and a charcuterie-of-the-month club that I signed up for through a local restaurant sustain me. I tried HelloFresh but the bright expectations of the box made me furious. How dare you expect something of me too, I’d glare at it. I canceled. Now I make an occasional meal—tater-tot hot dish, sloppy joes, or tomato pie. I recently made a meal of smoked pork and corn for some friends. They thanked me,.”It’s too much,” they said. But those are the exceptions. I remain unencumbered.

Lyz Lenz is a writer based in Iowa. Her writing has appeared in Pacific Standard, Marie Claire, Jezebel, and The Washington Post. Her book God Land will be out in August of 2019. Follow her on Twitter @lyzl.

After peaking during the 1970s and ’80s, much has been made of the fact that divorce rates are now on the decline, especially among millennials. Still, if you’re thinking about splitting with your spouse, or you’ve already been through a divorce, sunny statistics aren’t exactly useful. Throughout this weeklong series, Glamour.com explores what it means to uncouple in a modern world.

Ariana Grande Just Shut Down People Who Say She’s ‘Milking’ Mac Miller’s Death

Ariana Grande has had a year filled with highs and lows: Following her split with rapper Mac Miller, she began dating, got several tattoos with, and then was quickly engaged to Saturday Night Life cast member Pete Davidson. The two, however, broke up in mid-October shortly after the death of Miller. Grande has intermittently posted about Miller since his passing, a sign she’s thinking of him and working through her grief over his unexpected death.

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But Grande being Grande, practically anything she posts on social media makes headlines—and her posts about Miller have been no exception. Most of Grande’s Twitter followers are fans who give their support and love, but there are, of course, a few bad eggs that think it’s appropriate to question whether her posts about Miller are genuine. It even got to the point over Thanksgiving weekend that Grande had to defender herself against them.

On Thanksgiving one user posted “She milkin this shit bruh,” along with a Complex story about a Miller tribute Grande had shared on her Instagram stories that day.

Grande saw this comment—and followed it up with a beautiful response: “i pray you never have to deal with anything like this ever and i’m sending you peace and love,” she wrote.

She then followed it up with a string of tweets urging people not to use Twitter to spread hate. “some of the shit i read on here makes me sick to my stomach. it scares me the way some people think and i don’t like this world a lot of the time. if only we could be more compassionate and gentle with one another. that’d be sick,” she wrote, adding, “like fuck” to emphasize her point.

She also got some love from Halsey: “ari the world could only dream of being as compassionate and gentle as you. and since ur being, as always, so classy and nice, allow me the honor of telling them to shut the fuck up,” the singer wrote.

Grande finished by reminding everyone that however she chooses to grieve is absolutely fine. “everything i feel is valid and safe. everything i do is genuine and honest. there is no right or wrong during this period,” she wrote.

True to Ari form, she signed off by keeping it positive: “sending u all a shit ton of love,” then adding “peace.”

Props to Grande for sending some much-needed positivity back into the world, even when the trolls are trolling.

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Cyber Monday 2018: All The Fashion Deals You Need To Know

If you had some restraint and still have money left over from Black Friday shopping than we have some good news: Cyber Monday is here and the deals are also really good. Just like with Black Friday you can buy something for yourself while also picking up some inexpensive holiday presents for someone else in the process. What makes Cyber Monday different than Black Friday though is that the discounts are even bigger.

But like all huge sales, it’s hard to differentiate the really good once in a lifetime deals from the okay discounts you can probably find at any other given time. To help you out, we’ve gone ahead and created a comprehensive but edited list of all the actual best Cyber Monday sales while also featuring some of our favorite items.

Whether it’s a discounted designer finds from Nordstrom or an under-$100 steals from & Other Stories, there’s a lot of great stuff to be bought not to mention all of the warmest coats and winter boots you could ever want are crazy discounted right now. Read on below to find out where to get all the best Cyber Monday deals and don’t be afraid to treat yourself.

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Toms: Pick up a new pair of shoes at Toms for 30% off select items until November 27.

Tory Burch: Until November 26 get 30% off orders $250+ with code ‘THANKS.’ All sale styles will also be up to 60% off.

Topshop: Buy all the season’s biggest trends from Topshop up to 50% off through Cyber Monday.

Urban Outfitters: On Cyber Monday get $50 off purchases of $150 or more. Get $25 off purchases of $100 or more and $10 off purchaes of $50 or more. Plus 25% off select items.

Uniqlo: Uniqlo has deals on almost all of it’s most popular pieces starting today throughout Cyber Monday. Expect discounts on heat tech, Alexander Wang x Uniqlo, jackets, cashmere scarves and sweaters and more.

Via Spiga: Throughout November 26 there is an additional 20% off all sale with code ‘THANKFULFORVIA’.

Wildfang: Get 30% off sitewide (including sale) at Wildfang on Cyber Monday.

Zappos: Throughout Cyber Monday there will be 25% off select styles from top brands. From December 1 to December 21 there will also be the ‘21 Days of Giving’ sale which includes an exclusive deal each day.

Meghan Markle Was Reportedly Asked to One Thing to Avoid Upsetting the Queen at Christmas

In bizarre royals news I didn’t see coming, Meghan Markle reportedly has to downplay her charades skills if she wants to stay in Queen Elizabeth II’s good graces at Christmas. Is that the weirdest sentence you’ve ever read? Yup, me too—but this is an actual report published by U.K.’s Sunday Express. Take it with a grain of salt, though, because the outlet only uses “sources” and “insiders” to back up its report.

According to the Sunday Express, the royal family partakes in a friendly game of charades every Christmas night, and Prince Harry has advised Markle to tone down her acting chops so Queen Elizabeth can win. “The duchess has to resist that American urge to win at everything. The whole family likes to play charades on Christmas night, and she must never beat the Queen, who is a fine actress herself,” a source tells the publication.

This is just…a lot to take in. For one, how do we even know that Markle is a master charades player? Just because she played a lawyer with impeccable hair for seven years on Suits doesn’t mean she’s an improv champ (although we’re not ruling it out). Also, if Markle were to win this game…what would the Queen do? Throw down her crown and storm out of the room? Demand a rematch? Scold Markle like the time scolded Prince William? We have questions!

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That being said, the scene my imagination dreams up of an ultra-competitive Markle actively suppressing some urge to demolish Queen Elizabeth at charades is amazing. Ahh, to be a royal!

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Meghan Markle is often described as a “royal rule-breaker,” which is both true and not true: Yes, the Duchess of Sussex does have a habit of breaking with royal tradition when it comes to her speech and even her wedding. However, there’s no exact rulebook. Markle isn’t disregarding hard-and-fast protocols, per se, but more so challenging the way things have been done in the royal family for years.

People often cite Markle’s fashion choices when they talk about her breaking royal rules, and although the former Suits star has veered away from tradition when it comes to her clothes, at the end of the day stylists wouldn’t let her wear something inappropriate. She’s simply just reimagining what it means to be a chic royal in the modern world—and we’re so here for that. Below, here are 10 times Markle’s style broke tradition.

Watch Ashley Graham Fact-Check Beauty Tutorials on YouTube

Glamour digital cover star Ashley Graham has achieved icon status when it comes to fashion and beauty, which is why her looks are frequently mimicked by fans across the world. It’s no surprise, then, that there are dozens of Graham-inspired makeup tutorials on YouTube. Naturally, we asked the Revlon ambassador and body-positivity activist to stop by our offices and watch some of these videos herself—and her reactions were the best.

“She looks fantastic, I love this look on her,” Graham says to one vlogger who reimagined Graham’s makeup moment from the 2018 Vanity Fair Oscars party. “You could go grocery shopping in that look, too. You made it your own, and it’s beautiful.”

“When you’re the first of something, you are always going to have to answer the hard questions,” Graham told Glamour in her recent digital cover story. “…People are going to be confused by you because you’re the new kid in town. But if you ask me, I’m not the new kid in town—this body’s been around for centuries, and now I’ve just been given a voice.”

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10 TV Shows and Movies to Watch the Week of November 25, 2018

From the series premiere of Dirty John, based on the popular podcast of the same name, to a Christmas special starring John Legend and Chrissy Teigen, here are all the TV shows and movies to check out this week. If you only have time for one, though, the sequel to A Christmas Prince should be at the top of your list.

Downsizing: This Oscar bait from last year starring Matt Damon, about a couple who must literally shrink to help fix the world’s overpopulation, is now available for your streaming pleasure. Streaming on Hulu

Dirty John: Connie Britton stars in this podcast adaptation, based on a real story, about a woman who falls for a “doctor” who turns out to be not only a scammer but a violent criminal. 10 P.M. ET on Bravo

Sorry to Bother You: One of the year’s most talked-about films is now available on Hulu. It follows a young black man (Lakeith Stanfield) who realizes he has more success in his telemarketing job when he uses his “white voice.” Streaming on Hulu

Leah Remini: Scientology and the Aftermath: Remini delves deeper into the fascinating world of scientology in another season of her hit reality series. 9 P.M. ET on A&E

Christmas in Rockefeller Center: Obviously, you can’t miss the tree lighting. 8 P.M. ET on NBC

A Legendary Christmas with John and Chrissy: Or this variety special with Twitter’s favorite couple. 10 P.M. ET on NBC

The Wonderful World of Disney: Magical Holiday Celebration: If you’ve always dreamed about seeing Disney World at Christmas, this special, which takes you inside the parks, is your chance. 9 P.M. ET on ABC

If Beale Street Could Talk: From the director of Moonlight, Barry Jenkins, comes this film about a young woman from Harlem (KiKi Layne) who has to prove her fiancé’s innocence while she’s carrying their child. In theaters

A Christmas Prince: The Royal Wedding: The sequel to A Christmas Prince picks up right where last year’s movie left off. Amber (Rose McIver) is engaged to Prince Richard (Ben Lamb), and they have a wedding to plan. Sounds a little bit like Meghan Markle, no? Streaming on Netflix

Christmas in Evergreen: Letters to Santa: Read the full synopsis, below. 8 P.M. ET on Hallmark

“When Lisa (Jill Wagner) takes a last-minute Christmas trip to her hometown of Evergreen, she finds that the historic general store has been closed. Using her skills as a professional retail designer, Lisa decides to keep local tradition alive and help the good people of Evergreen bring the store back to life. As Lisa charms a local contractor named Kevin (Mark Deklin) into working with her, the pair find themselves facing one surprise after another as they restore the store to its former glory. When the staff at the Kringle Kitchen temporarily accept the store’s beloved ‘Mailbox to Santa’ for safekeeping, the townspeople find and rally around a mysterious 25-year-old letter that never made it to the North Pole. As old traditions are made new again, Lisa finds herself falling for Kevin, the traditions, and the town of Evergreen.”

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Kendall Jenner Straight-Up Booed Tristan Thompson at His Basketball Game

When things get tough, you can usually count on your friends and family to get you through. Such is the case for the Kardashian-Jenner family, who seem to have a formal pact to always have each others’ backs when it comes to the drama in their lives—and, well, there tends to be a lot of it. In the wake of the Tristan Thompson-cheating situation, that’s never been truer, with Kim Kardashian calling out the father of Khloé‘s kids for not being sorry about cheating on Khloé while she was days away from giving birth.

And it looks like Kendall Jenner‘s taken up the fight, too: She was captured by a basketball fan at Friday night’s 76ers game against the Cleveland Cavaliers—her boyfriend plays on the former, and Thompson from the latter. This, needless to say, made the game a little more interesting.

A fan in the crowd managed to capture one moment on her phone: the classic moment Jenner starts booing Thompson at the free throw line.

And guess who noticed it? Khloé wrote her response to the video on Twitter with a good dose of humor. “Look at my baby heckler ?? I’m dying at Kenny trying to heckle on the low low! #ItDidntWork,” she wrote.

It’s safe to say she’s probably had a little bit of a stressful Thanksgiving this year, which she spent in Cleveland with Thompson and their daughter True. And we don’t mean cooking stress: Instead, social media followers were hounding her about why she didn’t spend dinner with her family back home and speculating about drama between her and her sisters.

She dealt an efficient clap back on Twitter late Friday night, reminding people that it a) wasn’t unusual for her to spend Thanksgiving in Cleveland and b) calling out users for trying to stir up drama.

“Y’all are reaching now. I’ve spent the past 3years in Cleveland for Thanksgiving,” she wrote. “Not sure why people are trying to create drama between my family and I. My sisters and I are perfectly fine thank you! All of their families were able to travel but TT being in season, he can not.”

Fair enough: We’re not in the relationship with those two—and the only people who can decide how they want to contextualize their relationship is Khloé and Tristan.

But still, Jenner booing him at the game? A classic reminder that sisters will always have your back.

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