Every Single Red Flag Luke Has Shown on The Bachelorette This Season

As soon as we met Luke on this season of The Bachelorette, my spidey sense for jerks went on high alert. I’m sure the show isn’t giving us the full picture of him as a person—but there’s something going on there. At the very least, he’s taking up a lot of time—mine, Hannah’s, and Bachelor Nation’s. Imagine how many hours could have been devoted to Mike’s infectious smile or Tyler’s dance moves. Instead, we have to spend episode after episode listening to Luke claim he’s doing his best while revealing his worst. It’s exhausting.

This Bachelorette fan put it best: “Ladies if he: confesses his love after five minutes of talking to you, lies about what he really says, is a manipulator, says everyone he’s ever met loves him, is jealous of other guys, threatens to leave, he’s not yours, he’s luke p & needs to be sent home.”

I see so many red flags for Luke, in fact, that I wanted to break each one down, episode by episode.

Episode One

It all started when Luke talks about how many hookups he had in college before God told him (while he was in the shower) to chill out. His exact words: “When I was in college a lot of the girls around me thought [I was a good-looking guy], and I definitely took advantage of that.”

Let that sink in: He tells us, seconds into meeting him, that he “took advantage” of how women perceived him.

My complaint is not that Luke once had an active sex life or has since found a new path—it’s that it feels like he’s gloating about his past sexual history and then shames Hannah for her choices. (But we’ll get to that.)

And then, during the first cocktail party, he shows another questionable side to himself. After Hannah finds out that one of the contestants had a girlfriend when he joined the show, she tells the remaining guys she needs a minute alone. However, Luke immediately follows her to ask how she’s doing. I think he means well—checking on someone who is sad is a good thing—but she had communicated clearly what she wanted and he ignored her. That’s a pattern we’ll see often with Luke.

Episode Two

During a “Mr. Right” pageant, Luke tells Hannah, “I’m starting to fall in love with you” after knowing her all of five minutes. Maybe he’s feeling excited about their new relationship—but I think love is a strong word. And he says this during the pageant’s talent portion. So Luke’s talent is making grand statements in front of a live audience, I guess.

Episode Three

During a group date, Luke demands more and more of Hannah’s time. It escalates to the point where she has to ask him to back off. “I need him to slow his roll,” she explains to the audience. “Luke P. stole the show again, but in a negative way.” Later that night, she asks him to be more respectful of everyone’s time—and when he starts to interrupt her mid-sentence she says, “No, let me talk.” (Another red flag I see: Luke also interrupts Hannah a lot.)

“You don’t respect that I have other relationships here…and that bothers me,” she continues. After their conversation, Luke P. vents to the other guys that Hannah talked so much he didn’t get a chance to explain himself. In short, Hannah communicated clearly what she needs, and he can’t—or won’t—listen to her.

Comfortable Lingerie to Wear Under Clothes

When you’re lingerie shopping, you come across a lot of pieces so elaborate, just attempting to imagine an outfit you can wear them underneath feels hopeless. That doesn’t mean you exclusively have to wear simple nude styles in your day-to-day, though. There are plenty of lingerie trends that feel extra-special but aren’y overly complicated, so you can easily style them with your everyday clothes. Why have these sitting in your underwear drawer, waiting for a “special occasion”? From pastel lace to mesh, shop nine lingerie styles that’ll spice up all of your looks—regardless of where you’re going.

Serena Williams Is Finally on a Wheaties Box—But Why Did It Take This Long?

Serena Williams is one of the most decorated tennis players in the world. She’s won 23 Grand Slam singles titles, 14 doubles titles with her sister, Venus, four Olympic gold medals…the list could go on and on. She’s also an outspoken advocate for equal pay, a successful businesswoman, a mom, a wife, and a trusted friend.

But one honor has eluded her until now: the cover of the Wheaties box, a.k.a. the “breakfast of champions.” It seems unfathomable that it’s taken this long to bestow said honor on one of the greatest athletes in tennis—or any sport, for that matter—but that’s finally been rectified. Williams made the announcement today, June 25 on her Instagram. “In 2001, Wheaties paid homage to a true champion and an icon by putting her on the cover of a Wheaties Box. Althea Gibson was the FIRST Black Woman tennis player to be on the box,” she wrote. “Today, I am honored to be the second.”

The cereal brand dedicated their entire grid to the announcement simply stating, “She’s a champion.” On Twitter, the brand wrote, “She’s an athlete. She’s a fashion designer. She’s a philanthropist. She’s a mother. @serenawilliams is a Champion. #ShesAChampion.” The tradition of putting athletes on the cover of the cereal box started back in 1934 with baseball star Lou Gehrig and over the years has included Jesse Owens (the first black man on the box), Michael Jordan (who has appeared a record 18 times), Mary Lou Retton, Lindsay Vonn, and Michael Phelps.

Commenters expressed their excitement—as well as their disbelief that this hasn’t happened already. “Long over due, congratulations! ! And there needs to be a third, fourth and fifth……plus,” one user wrote. “I can’t believe it took Wheaties this long to put your image on the box. Regardless, it’s great,” another fan commented.

Twitter users were thrilled by the news too, offering congratulations to Williams. “I’m going to buy a box but never going to open it,” one fan tweeted. Another called her “an inspiration in every aspect of your life!”

No comment yet from Williams’ husband, Alexis Ohainian, or daughter, Olympia, on their Instagram accounts—but we’re sure they’re enormously proud.

Next up for Williams is Wimbledon which starts next week. Hopefully her friend, Meghan Markle will come out to cheer her on again this year.

The Cast of ‘Younger’ Wants You to Stand Up for the Violence Against Women Act

The protection of survivors of gender-based violence is under threat. The Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), which provides aid for those who have experienced sexual assault, domestic violence, stalking, and more has yet to be reauthorized by Congress—which could be dangerous for survivors everywhere. A bit of background: The VAWA was enacted in 1994, with the provision that it had to renewed by Congress every few years. This April, the House of Representatives approved H.R.1585 (a bill that would reauthorize the act for five more years). But the bill still has to pass in the Republican-controlled Senate—and many are concerned about the bill’s fate there.

Among those worried about the future of the VAWA is the cast of TV Land’s hit series, Younger. The show’s stars—Sutton Foster, Hilary Duff, Debi Mazar, Miriam Shor, Nico Tortorella, Peter Hermann, Molly Bernard and Charles Michael Davis—have teamed up with the United State of Women to issue a public service announcement in support of the bill.

The cast of Younger‘s public service announcement urging the Senate to renew the Violence Against Women Act.

“Sutton, Hilary, Miriam, Debi, Molly, Nico, Charles and I are honored to partner with the United State of Women and add our voices to the urgent call for the renewal of VAWA,” Peter Hermann tells Glamour. “The issues that VAWA addresses—domestic violence, sexual assault, dating violence, stalking—affect every community in America regardless of race, ethnicity, economic status or gender identity. To withhold support, or to politicize what is really an issue of human rights, is reprehensible and primitive. We cannot urge you strongly enough to make your voices heard with ours.”

In the PSA, the cast highlights that women, transgender, and non-binary people are disproportionately affected by violence. The stars also urge fans to learn more and take action to keep the VAWA in place.

While Younger chronicles the lives and careers of those in the publishing industry and isn’t an expressly political show, it’s never shied from getting real about the issues facing women. The series has covered the Me Too movement, spotlighted the “glass cliff” for female CEOs, and pulled back the curtain on how intensely women are discriminated against for their age. As Erika Soto Lamb, Vice President of Social Impact Strategy for Comedy Central, Paramount Network and TV Land, put it, “We are proud to partner with The United State of Women to help our audience take action to support the reauthorization of the Violence Against Women Act—and we have no doubt that Liza, Kelsey, Maggie, Diana, Josh, Charles, Lauren and Zane would do the same.”

One of the most effective ways you can help fight for the VAWA is by calling your Senator and urging them to vote yes on reauthorizing the bill. You can find contact information for your senator, here.

Lizzo Got ‘Emotionally Honest’ About Her Depression—and the Response Was Powerful

Lizzo’s in the middle of a banner year when it comes to her career. Her songs “Juice” and “Truth Hurts” have quickly become not only songs of summer but anthems of female empowerment and positivity. Her new album, Cuz I Love You, reached number one on iTunes. And she brings so much energy and talent on stage performing that even Rihanna recently gave her a standing ovation.

And through all of these career highlights, Lizzo has been open with fans about every aspect of her life—including her mental health. “I’m depressed and there’s no one I can talk to because there’s nothing anyone can do about it. Life hurts,” she wrote in a recent Instagram post.

“I self-love so hard because everything feels like rejection… it feel like the whole world be ghostin me sometimes,” she continued in the caption. “Sad af today. But this too shall pass. S/O all the messages of love. Thank you.”

That is some powerfully honest vulnerability from one of music’s biggest stars. Messages like that are a reminder that nobody’s life is exactly how it seems on the outside, especially on social media. Fans—both famous and non-famous alike—responded with their own messages of support.

“I hear you- depression is real. Struggle with it all my life. It does pass although while in it, it seems it never will. You are so loved. I love you Lizzo ♥️♥️♥️ @lizzobeeating,” designer Marc Jacobs wrote. “U drag me up everyday … fr . Take your time u carrying a lot of us. We love you ❤️🙏🏾,” SZA added.

Many commenters thanked Lizzo for being so open. “Openness ends the stigma–thank you. You are not alone, sometimes life feels so hard. But you brighten it for all of us,” one wrote. “I’m recovering from cancer and chemo, and your music, especially dancing to it, lifts me up. You are important and doing so much good. I hope you feel much better soon. 💗”

The response on Twitter was just as supportive:

The singer responded with a video in which she delved even further into her own relationship with her mental health and self care. “I know that something incredible is about to happen and something incredible has already happened, and I know that I’m just in between that incredible moment…” she said in a tearful follow-up video. “It’s humbling and I’m grateful that I’m able to feel these emotions, because I know that because of the sadness, I’m gonna be able to feel joy.”

In the caption, she reiterated what a positive experience speaking out has been for her while also asking her followers what triggers their sadness and how they handle it. “I learned in the last 24hrs that being emotionally honest can save your life,” she said. “Reaching out may be hard but as soon as I did it, I was immediately covered in love.”

Romance Novel Writers Face an Avalanche of Online Harassment: “They Act Like I Don’t Have a Real Job, Like I’m Just a Horny Person All the Time”

“Responding to leering is much more complicated, because it’s almost a micro-aggression,” Lois says. “Many people walk away from those conversations and say, ‘Wait, what just happened? I feel like there was an undercurrent there?’”

Samantha Jaxon, a law student and romance writer who’s hoping to self-publish her upcoming series this summer, says the comments she gets from random people online have her already preparing to fend off troll attacks that could come when she promotes her books. She’s also had to cope with derision and assumptions in the real world—even from people she once trusted.

“I’ve had some friends who now aren’t as close friends, because they’ve made so many jokes at my expense,” she says. “They act like I don’t have a real job, like I’m just a horny person all the time.”

Recently on The Late Show, host Stephen Colbert invited former Georgia gubernatorial candidate Stacey Abrams onstage. After some chatting about politics and voting rights, he brought out a sheaf of papers. He read aloud some excerpts from Abrams’s romance novels.

Abrams, who lost her race in November amid cries of voter suppression, once wrote under the pseudonym Selena Montgomery. When Colbert began to read an excerpt, her face changed—“God, no, I don’t want you to read from any of these,” she told him. “I want people to read them in the quiet of their home.”

But Colbert pressed on—a move that the writer Ashley C. Ford later said, “was a little bit trying to embarrass you…. It felt dismissive of the genre.”

Rai saw herself in Abrams’s onscreen reaction: “I’ve shot that same look.”

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But because women write most romances (95 percent of it, per a 2017 report from the RWA), they’re in a double bind, Lois’s research found. They face what she calls “the double sword of the internet.” They’re women writing about sex and pleasure, so they’re much likelier to face abuse; but many writers are also encouraged to promote their work on Twitter, Instagram, and other hubs of online community. As Rai points out, she writes alone much of the time. She likes being online—when it’s safe.

Romance writers like Abrams may use a pseudonym (hers, she insists, was for just for better search results). But in the age of doxxing, a pseudonym is a flimsy shield against harassment. Rochon had a stalker contact her explicitly because of her romance pen name. He became convinced they were somehow related and destined to meet, bombarding her with messages asking for more and more information. She eventually blocked him and refused to respond, but she says the experience made her think twice about the supposed safety of a pseudonym. At the time, she lived alone, and she felt exposed.

The problem of harassment is compounded for women of color, like Rai and Rochon, who are still underrepresented in the field. According to a report from the Ripped Bodice, books from white women take up a large share of romance shelves. The report found that for every 100 books published by leading romance publishers in 2018, only 7.7 were written by people of color. And a report from the RWA found that 80 percent of romance novelists identify as white. So women of color aren’t just battling trolls going after women; they’re also fighting to tell stories that center protagonists that look like them.

“Romance is dealing with a really insidious and deeply institutionalized racism problem, but it’s slow-going,” Koch said. “I think for any white author who has experienced something shitty, an author of color has experienced that 10 times, and worse.”

E. Jean Carroll Accused President Donald Trump of Rape―and the Media Shrugged

Blistering? What’s so blistering about obscuring the truth?

But perhaps the most disappointing coverage (or lack thereof) came from the major network Sunday shows. As HuffPost put it, “ABC, CBS, CNN, Fox and NBC―the networks that make up the ‘big five’ of Sunday morning talk shows―boasted major political players in their lineups,” with Vice President Mike Pence and Senator Bernie Sanders (I-Vt.) both on air for interviews. Not a single one of them was asked to address Carroll’s allegations. The Columbia Journalism Review also drew attention to a piece about Carroll’s allegations that ran on the Rupert Murdoch-owned New York Post, but has since been deleted. (Murdoch is a Trump supporter, and CNN reports that an old lieutenant of his who has returned to the paper as an adviser is the person who ordered the piece be removed.) When reporters in the newsroom were asked why the story was taken down, one told CNN, “Nobody needs to explain why. We already know.”

So, what happened to the story of E. Jean Carroll? Trump’s base seems, as expected, completely immune to accusations of even criminal behavior when it comes to Trump. But what happened to us, to the media?

Are we just too desensitized to these allegations? Are we so exhausted by the constant hum of sexism and corruption that is Trumpworld? Is it true, as Trump once himself claimed, that he could shoot someone in the middle of Fifth Avenue and not lose a single vote? Or is it as Ryan Cooper in The Week posited: It’s not about who Trump is. It’s about who we are. “One answer is probably the freshness bias built into the news business. Shocking new stories are more interesting and hence get more attention. So while a sexual assault allegation against a politician who appears scandal-free would be new and interesting, the 22nd one is simply another entry in a boring routine.”

Having now given it about 72 hours of nonstop thought, I do believe Carroll’s age was a factor. True, we have been trained not to listen to women, period. But older women have been rendered the most invisible. Their humiliations become background noise, and slights against them almost fail to register. When the Hill asked Trump about Carroll’s allegations, Trump responded, “I’ll say it with great respect: Number one, she’s not my type.” It’s not a surprise, but it is worth a mention: The president here has chosen imply that Carroll isn’t attractive enough to rape. Not that rape is itself a crime.

The media’s (lack of) attention to E. Jean Carroll is at best a cautionary tale of what not to do with a rape allegation and at worse a terrifying indication of where we are as a country. As feminists have stressed since Trump entered the race for president, he is a symptom, not a cause. He didn’t have to pass laws to ensure that news outlets don’t cover a rape allegation against him. He could count on the norms that made his rise possible: The media, which powerful men more or less still control, proved the bigger point of Carroll’s piece. It’s not just one hideous man who’s the problem. It’s the list of them. It’s the system of them.

On Monday, RAINN, which operates the national sexual assault hotline, said in an email release that it saw a 53 percent increase in calls after the Carroll’s excerpt was published. If the media won’t amplify our voices, we’re just going to need to form a bigger chorus.

Molly Jong-Fast is the author of three novels. Follow her on Twitter @mollyjongfast.

The 18 Most Comfortable Heels for Summer 2019

I love wearing comfortable heels. I love the extra height and the way they elevate a simple summer dress because let’s be real, who needs blisters, sore arches, and other pains that come with wearing uncomfortable heels for eight hours straight? No one. Every time I kick off a particularly ache-inducing pair of heels, I vow to never, ever wear heels again. That “promise” never lasts long though. And luckily, I’ve learned that there are a few key elements that separate the comfy heels from the ones that make you curse the day you bought them.

The first (and most obvious) is heel height: the lower the heel, the less weight is forced onto the ball of your foot. The second is the width of the heel, an often overlooked detail that can make a big difference—seek out a stacked style that supports the lower part of your foot. Lastly, find comfortable heel styles that have multiple straps across the toe, arch, and ankle; multiple straps, like the Raye pair from Revolve I picked in the roundup ahead, will give your foot and ankle more stability so you aren’t wobbling around.

You don’t have to sacrifice style for comfort—as long as you know what to look for. Ahead, you’ll find TK pairs of walkable, summer-ready most comfortable heels that will support you when you have places to be. Your toes will thank you.

Priyanka Chopra Wore a Straight-Off-the-Runway Peter Pilotto Look with $68 Kendra Scott Earrings

Priyanka Chopra‘s sister-in-law, Sophie Turner, may be the Queen in the North, but she’s the master of high-low fashion—whether it’s $50 American Eagle jeans and a $3,100 Prada bag or a $30 Target skirt with a $210 Wolford bodysuit. She proved her prowess once again in Paris this week, stepping out in fresh-off-the-runway designer with under-$100 accessories.

Chopra (and husband, Nick Jonas) are currently living their best lives—and wearing their best outfits—in France ahead of Turner and Joe Jonas’s second wedding, which is reportedly happening this weekend. Of course, she brought her mix-and-match skill along for the trip. Her latest head-turning look featured a gorgeous metallic off-the-shoulder top with matching flared pants by Peter Piotto.

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It was pretty much plucked from the designer’s Fall 2019 runway, which happened in February during London Fashion Week.

LONDON, ENGLAND – FEBRUARY 17: A model walks the runway at the Peter Pilotto Ready to Wear Fall/Winter 2019-2020 fashion show during London Fashion Week February 2019 on February 17, 2019 in London, England. (Photo by Victor VIRGILE/Gamma-Rapho via Getty Images)Victor VIRGILE

Peter Pilotto’s fall collection isn’t available for purchase yet, but similar metallic pieces from Pre-Fall 2019 retail between $2,070 and $2,895.

Of course, this being Priyanka Chopra, there’s an affordable twist to her Paris outfit: She accessories the designer apparel with a pair of geometric hoop earrings from Kendra Scott that cost just $68.

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Chopra’s Easton Hoop Earrings are still available to buy online and are seriously the perfect accessory to pair with everything from fancy gold evening wear (à la Priyanka) or a casual summer dress.

We’ve still got many days of stylish time in Paris ahead of the reported weekend wedding, so who knows what sartorial fun Chopra, Jonas, and the other J Sisters will bring us ahead of the big day. Here’s hoping we get some great photos of the rest of the wedding guests, too—and that at least a few pieces will work for our budgets.

Every Time the Jonas Brothers Have Gone on Group Dates With the J Sisters

One of the biggest thrills of 2019 is the fact the Jonas Brothers are back together. Not only are they creating music again (stream “Sucker” on Spotify!), they’re also all married: Kevin to Danielle Jonas, Nick to Priyanka Chopra, and Joe to Sophie Turner. And it’s clear this hexagon of hot people is obsessed with each other: They’re literally always hanging out. Whether it’s checking out a Broadway show, spending time with their extended family, or drinking wine on boats, this group takes in-law bonding to a whole new level. In fact, Danielle, Priyanka, and Sophie are so tight that they’ve given themselves a cheeky nickname: “The J Sisters.”

The Jonas Brothers and the J Sisters have shared some cute moments over the past couple of months. Let’s go through some of their most exciting outings, shall we? (I’m just assuming that my invitation somehow got lost in the mail.)