How to Clean Your Engagement or Wedding Ring at Home

We do a lot to our engagement rings—after all, they’re something that goes through each and every part of our day (every day!) with us. And it all has an effect: Everything from applying lotion to scrubbing dishes can dull the sparkle of engagement rings, causing an otherwise crystal-clear diamond or gemstone to appear cloudy.

“The reality is, if you wear your rings every day, you absolutely need to clean them,” says Ryan Elbaz, founder of Majesty Diamonds.

Keeping your ring clean, however, isn’t just about keeping it sparkly. You’re going to want to take a minute while you clean to make sure the ring’s still looking as perfect as the day you got it.

“[Cleaning] also gives you a way to inspect your ring on a regular basis,” explains Stephanie Maslow-Blackman, owner of Metalicious. When it’s sparkling, you’ll be better able to inspect its stones and prongs, looking for a loosening setting or chips in your stone’s surface. And if you do find something, you’ll be able to take it to your jeweler before it’s too late.

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Our experts recommend cleaning your engagement ring every couple weeks—or more, if you’re wearing it during household chores and strenuous activities, such as outdoor sports. Simply put: “The more of this you do, the more often you should clean your ring,” says Elbaz. And no, there’s no such thing as cleaning it too much.

That being said, when you clean it, avoid using harsh chemicals (think bleach, chlorine, and acetone) and commercial silver and gold cleaners whenever possible. You don’t need to buy some super-fancy product to get the results you need: Our experts suggest good ol’ soap and warm water to get your ring shining again.

Fill a small bowl with warm water and a squeeze of dishwashing soap, then drop your ring into the dish for a 15-minute soak. “This will loosen any dirt, lotion, or dried soap that has settled into any crevices or behind your gemstone,” says Maslow-Blackman. Once it’s had its bath, take your ring out for a rinse: Run it under a steady stream of warm water—making sure your sink drain is stopped—and turn it around so the water can run over the top and bottom of the ring.

If you want a “slightly deeper, but still natural” clean, Vanessa Stofenmacher, co-founder and creative director of fine jewelry company Vrai & Oro, recommends soaking your engagement ring in witch hazel or white vinegar “for about five minutes.” (She uses half a cup of white vinegar, FYI.)

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If you spot any lasting residue, take a soft-bristled or old toothbrush and gently scrub around the stone, taking care to hit the bottom, where the light shines through and really gives your gem its sparkle.

Rihanna Day Drinking with Seth Meyers Is the Only Thing You Need to Watch Today

On Wednesday, Seth Meyers skipped out on taping Late Night with Seth Meyers for a very good reason: He went day drinking with Rihanna. I honestly can’t think of a better reason to ditch work. Can you?

Well, technically, he wasn’t really playing hooky altogether since they were filming a segment for the show. In the past, Meyers has (hilariously) gone day drinking with his mom, Kelly Clarkson, and Ina Garten—but nothing can top Rihanna.

In fact, Meyers skipped the opening monologue of last night’s show to jump straight into his afternoon with RiRi, and it does not disappoint. After taking shots and chugging beers, Meyers starts mixing up drinks based on Rihanna songs like “Under My Rumbrella” and “We Found Veuve in a Hostess Place,” which combined champagne and Twinkies. “You want me to drink this?!” she said, and then like a champ tasted what I can only imagine was a disgustingly sweet cocktail.

Watch for yourself, below, and then let’s discuss the best parts. (There are so many!)

Here are my top five favorite moments:

Rihanna giving Seth a makeover with Fenty Beauty products. That summer eye! Given that Rihanna created this Avatar-like look, it will probably become a trend.

Seth drunkenly singing karaoke to RiRi. “Work, work, work, work, work!”

Rihanna side-eyeing Seth’s hilariously terrible pick-up lines. “Excuse me, are you the girl from Battleship?” and “What’s a nice boy like me doing in the city without his parents?” were incredible.

When Rihanna told Seth how to blow his wife’s mind. Wink, wink.

Rihanna recognizing an outfit she wore to the dentist during a drinking game. We stan.

Earlier in the day, the late night host shared an image that Rihanna took of him during their outing. “Tonight it happens – DAY DRINKING WITH RIHANNA. I’d show you a picture of her but I know what you really want to see is this picture SHE took of ME at the end of the day. #LiveYourLife,” he wrote in the caption.

He also called it the greatest day of his life, aside from his marriage and children.

If only we could all live this dream.

Wedding Trend: Double Proposals Are the Inclusive Trend We Need

It’s been a running joke that I wasn’t allowed to propose to my girlfriend. Since the early stages of our relationship she’s been adamant: she’ll do the proposing one day. I didn’t feel strongly one way or the other, so I agreed. Then, in late August 2018—ten years after we’d met—she got down on one knee on the beach and asked me to marry her. I barely had time to gaze down at my ring or think about the chain of phone calls we needed to make to share the good news before it hit me: Am I supposed to get her a ring, too?

I hadn’t really thought about the idea that maybe my wife-to-be needs a token to signify she’s engaged, too. Though I was in a same-sex relationship, I was so used to the standard story of proposals that I didn’t stop to consider anything different. But the more I thought about my fiancee and her love of big moments, the more fitting it seemed that I propose to her too. Asking someone to spend their life with you is a hugely important question—why shouldn’t she be asked?

Double Proposals Are Gaining Steam—And Changing the Wedding Industry

I decided to propose back to my partner, not knowing that I was taking part in a growing wedding trend within the LGBTQ+ community called “double proposing.” The idea is fairly self-explanatory: two people propose to each other, either the same day or at different times.

Queer people have been creating our own unique traditions for years, but only since same-sex marriage became legal in all fifty states have marriage traditions—and the wedding trends surrounding them—begun to catch up. “The LGBTQ community is changing the industry by demanding more of the vendors who work in it, being intentional with who they give their money to, and reinventing traditions to celebrate instead of hide their queer identities,” says Ainsley Blattel, a queer and non-binary wedding planner with event planning company Modern Rebel.

For me, double proposing to my fiancee was an exciting and reflective time to really surprise my partner the same way she wowed me. Instead of a ring, I bought her a custom locket she’d been talking about since we’d met. It was amazing to see the genuine surprise on her face when she turned to find me down on one knee nine months after she’d asked me to marry her.

More Proposals, More Power

So many facets of relationships are bogged down by centuries’ worth of gender stereotypes. For those feeling the pressure, double proposing can be empowering way to rethink the way romance is “supposed” to look—especially for those who don’t identify as a specific gender. “I’d often been the partner to buy flowers, and perform romantic gestures,” says Addie Tsai, 39. “I realized when I met my partner that I’d always felt more comfortable in that role but because of gender conditioning. But he allowed me to occupy a different space than I had before and it was through our relationship I started to uncover how genderfluid and nonbinary I truly am.”

Tsai and their partner double proposed two weeks apart over the holidays. “Double proposing neutralizes the way you enter into a marriage from the beginning, without having the gendered burden of proposing on one person or the other,” says Tsai. For many, it’s an antidote to the heteronormative expectations that follow couples of all orientations.

While smashing gender expectations can be fun, a lot of couples double propose simply to celebrate their equal partnership with one another. Rebekah Giley, 30 and her partner Breda, 32, first started thinking about a double proposal when they realized they had totally different ideas of how a proposal should look: Breda definitely wanted someone taking photos with lots of people around, while Rebekah had a totally private proposal in mind.”We kinda looked at each other and then I said, ‘we could both propose to each other,’ and Breda agreed,” Giley says. “I think the biggest thing was that we both got the proposal we wanted. Especially because we wanted such opposite things, it was really lovely and fun to both see our dreams fulfilled.”

The 75-Year-Old Behind Jazzercise Keeps Dancing On Her Own

Like a lot of people, Judi Sheppard Missett loves a little at-home dance fest. The septuagenarian queues up a little Taylor Swift or Shawn Mendes music and lets loose. Unlike most people, Missett doesn’t just revel in her private dance parties. She built a career off of them. Missett is the founder of Jazzercise, and her personal studio is spectacular. All wooden floors and large mirrors and good vibes. “It’s the place that I guess I could say I feel free,” Missett tells Glamour. “I turn on the music, and then I give myself a class, and I just dance. That’s when I feel liberated, powerful, strong, and it motivates me to keep going. I come out feeling great and all sweaty, then I go upstairs, take a shower, and I’m off running.”

Missett was born pigeon-toed, with her feet and ankles turned inward. When her mother asked the doctor for a method to correct her stance, he suggested she go to dance class. She took her first lesson at age three, and Missett has spent her life on the dance floor ever since. After she graduated from Northwestern, Missett danced with a professional troupe and taught jazz classes out of their studio in suburban Chicago, Illinois. While she loved it, her clients didn’t seem to feel the same. Her retention rate was low, which stung. When she asked people why they weren’t returning to her class she got a life-changing piece of advice. “You’re teaching like we’re going to go on to become professional dancers, but really we just want to look like professional dancers,” she recalls. So she decided to attempt something different. She turned everyone away from the mirror, simplified the routines, used new music, and gave her clients positive encouragement. It was 1969, and Jazzercise was born.

Judi Sheppard Missett teaching one of her signature Jazzercise classes.

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Two years later, Missett and her husband, Jack, decided to relocate their family to San Diego, California. In the land of exercise and health-consciousness, Jazzercise was a massive hit. It was the height of second-wave feminism, and classes became a gathering space for women to come wear leggings, sweat, meet new friends, and gain confidence. (A proto SoulCycle, Jazzercise inspired countless women to pursue higher education or even or leave their husbands.) At first, Missett ran the program on her own, and for a period of time led 35 classes a week. “Today I know that one must learn how to say no, but I didn’t really know that back then. I was young and it was fun for me,” Missett says. “[My daughter] was about four or five at that point, and I would put her in my little yellow Honda and bring babysitting toys, because I knew that people need childcare to come to class. My sister-in-law would come with me and be the babysitter, and she’d find an empty room wherever we happened to be and she would play with the kids while I’d go and teach class.”

Teaching several dozen classes each week was grueling. At this point there weren’t microphones for workout classes, so Missett would have to scream over the music, all while keeping the beat. The punishing routine took its toll. “I lost my voice. The doctor said you have nodules on your vocal chords, and you have to do something different or you’ll probably lose your voice [permanently],” she says. Missett enlisted instructors to take over some of her classes, cutting back to 12 or so a week. (Now, Jazzercise recommends instructors teach 3-4 classes per week.)

These Are the Most Popular Summer Cocktails In Every Major City

Summer has officially begun—and while many parts of the country have been doused in rain for the better part of the month, that obviously hasn’t stopped people from downing their favorite summer cocktails.

But what exactly everyone picks as their drink of choice varies by which city they live in. Yelp’s data science team did a deep dive into the platform’s search and review information to figure out which cocktails people are drinking in different parts of the country this season. (To gather the data, they looked at reviews in the restaurant and nightlife categories mentioning dozens of drinks and flavors to calculate a monthly rate of change and determine which drinks Yelpers are drinking every summer.)

The beverage on the rise is—no surprise—the internet-favorite Aperol spritz (prosecco, Aperol, and soda water) whose mentions on Yelp are up 94% compared to 2018. They say it’s especially popular in cities like Boston, New York, and Washington, D.C. Other drinks that are surging in popularity include spiked seltzer, the Paloma (typically tequila mixed with a grapefruit-flavored soda), and the classic Negroni (gin, sweet vermouth, and Campari).

Frosé (frozen rosé wine), Mojitos, and Moscow Mules, on the other hand, are starting to wane in popularity (though Frosé is mentioned 117% more often in the summer than during other times of year, which makes a lot of sense.)

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Yelp also mapped out which aforementioned summer drinks are the most popular in which cities. For example, the Moscow Mule is still a hit in places like Indianapolis, Jacksonville, and Los Angeles while Frosé is big in Nashville, New Orleans, and Miami. New York and San Diego are loving the trendy Aperol spritz (as is Drake, apparently), but San Francisco and Portland are all about the Negroni, and the spiked spritzer reigns supreme in Boston, Philly, and Charlotte.

Check out the map to see what the most talked about cocktail is where you live.

Lash Extensions Make Me a Better Mom

I am not a morning person. Against my will, I peel my eyes open to the sound of a very energetic baby then drag myself to the bathroom to hastily wipe my face. I throw on a black top and leggings and call it a day.

I never expected my routine to be like this. I grew up idolizing the 13 Going on 30 mantra “thirty, flirty, and thriving.” Like Jennifer Garner in the film, I thought adulthood would be glamorous. I’d wake up early to waltz into a steamy shower, carefully apply a full face of makeup, and craft a meticulously put-together outfit built on the foundation of chic lingerie.

By my late twenties, it became increasingly clear that this morning routine just wasn’t going to happen for me. A perpetual late riser, I would get ready at my own pace, slowly sipping on an espresso, checking my e-mail, and putting on makeup when and if I wanted. Being a freelance writer afforded me the luxury of time, and I always felt well-rested.

But everything changed when I became a mother at 29. Like every mom knows, your sleep is the first thing to go. Instead of getting up when my body felt ready, the baby’s incessant cry woke me up at 4:30 A.M. Rather than making an espresso for myself, I was trying not to fall asleep while feeding the baby. Motherhood forced me to become an early riser and my self-care habits crumbled. Suddenly it felt like my life was about taking care of everyone but myself.

As the days counted down to my 30th birthday, “flirty and thriving” felt maybe like a bit of an oversell, but prioritizing myself more felt within reach. I always believed in looking good to feel good, but with fatigue and an over-packed schedule, it’d been a while since I really put the time into how I looked.

I was starting to feel insecure. All these other women were managing to raise children and run families with blown-out hair and perfect brows, why couldn’t I? Seeing polished moms in heels strutting around the mall with their strollers made me feel like I was failing at motherhood, like I was letting myself down. The mom pressure to “do it all” was ridiculous: it wasn’t enough that I was keeping a tiny human alive and safe, I felt like I also needed to always look like the best-dressed version of myself.

On those rare days when I did have 30 minutes to myself, my confidence progressively grew during the course of my beauty routine. Nearly in zen mode, I massaged in my tinted moisturizer, puffed on a bit of powder, dotted on blush, and finished my routine off with the power duo of eyeliner and mascara. Typically critical of my appearance, I liked the way makeup gave my eyes dimension. I looked into my own eyes and felt powerful, poised. I decided that my 30th birthday gift to myself would be a semi-permanent version of this look and feeling. I held my breath as I booked an appointment to get eyelash extensions.

Me, with my son, Maximillian, before my lash extensions

On the morning of my birthday, I walked into a chilled studio, took off my shoes, and laid on the table covered by a fuzzy blanket. I was told to close my eyes. And then I didn’t open them again for two and a half hours. As a chronic multitasker, my hands itched to scroll through my phone to add to my to-do list, text my husband to remind him to re-stock on formula, and research how to get my baby to sleep through the night. I was hostage to the process.

Riverdale Season 4: Everything We Know So Far

Jughead’s whereabouts are still a mystery.

Remember, Jughead was nowhere to be found in that flash-forward scene showing Archie, Veronica, and Betty covered in blood. In an interview with Decider, Aguirre-Sacasa leaned into the mystery of his whereabouts. “We have a couple of options,” he said. “We certainly have started talking about the events leading up to that… which is going to happen halfway through the season.”

There will be a few new regulars.

Wyatt Nash, who plays Betty’s actual long-lost brother, is definitely going to be a recurring character in a few episodes. The actor posted an Instagram photo on set several weeks ago, and the caption reads, “Guess who is coming to Riverdale? Thanks so much for the warm reception!”

Some crossover action might be on the horizon.

Aguirre-Sacasa is also behind The CW’s new show Katy Keene, starring Lucy Hale. In an interview with Entertainment Tonight, he hinted that there could be some overlap between the two shows: “There’s probably going to be a crossover. Fingers crossed!”

We’ll update this post with more information as it comes in.

13 Best Nude Eyeshadow Palettes of 2019

From the day Urban Decay’s Naked eyeshadow palette hit the scene, nude makeup palettes became the beauty equivalent of our go-to black boots. Which is to say, we use them daily, they go with everything, and we’ll never, ever stop looking at new ones. There are so few downsides: neutral eyeshadow palettes toe the line between practical and sexy (thank you, brown smoky eyes), fly at work and on the weekend, and make eyeshadow so easy, it’s impossible to mess up. The only downside? Our love runs too deep. Every time we walk into Sephora, the drugstore, or literally anywhere palettes are sold, we gravitate toward the neutrals we know look great. And when every brand has its own spin on the perfect nude eyeshadow palette, that creates some incredibly tough choices. To help narrow it down, we had our editors give the top options a test run. Here’s what we came away obsessed with.

My Mother-in-Law Wore a Wedding Dress—To *My* Wedding

Earlier this week Jimmy Fallon put out a call on Twitter for people to share their biggest wedding fails for a chance to have their story featured on The Tonight Show. People shared memories of grooms forgetting their vows, falling during the first dance, and more. But when romance author Amy Pennza recalled that time her mother-in-law wore a white gown to Pennza’s wedding, the Internet exploded. Here, Pennza shares the full story from her special day.

The summer I got married, there were a lot of weddings in our family. My sister-in-law got married in July, mine was in August, and my husband’s close friend tied the knot in September. My mother-in-law was invited to all of them. So she had to buy three dresses for the weddings, plus outfits for all of the showers and parties that also come along with it. When it came time for my wedding, I didn’t even think about asking her what she was going to wear.

On the day of my wedding I was getting ready in a little chamber at the church with my bridal party. Then my mother-in-law walked in, wearing a wedding dress. I remember saying, “You could be the bride!” She cringed a little, and knew at that moment she’d made an error. I talked about it a bit with my bridesmaids, but then I didn’t think about it for the rest of the day, because I was in a fog. Luckily, none of the guests brought it up to me (though I’m sure they talked about it amongst themselves). There wasn’t a big, screeching moment of, “What?!” So it didn’t even register until a few days later.

Because to know my mother-in-law is to know that there is zero malice in her heart, the woman just can’t resist a sale (and the dress was significantly marked down). My mother-in-law’s frugality is stuff of legends. When she goes to restaurants she takes the ketchup packets, and goes home and refills her bottles with them. She will pluck the olives and celery out of a Bloody Mary to use for a salad. The first time I learned of her antics was when I saw her Justin Timberlake doll—pristine in the original packaging—that she was keeping because she thought it would be worth money some day. She’s got a closet with Furbies, Teletubbies, and more to sell.

It all dates back to her childhood. My mother-in-law grew up in a little area outside of Cleveland and was very, very poor. To the point of hunger. As a kid she would eat match heads. She didn’t know it at the time, but that’s the kind of thing you crave when you have a nutritional deficiency, and she was malnourished. The thing I admire about her so much is that despite her love of saving a buck, she’s very generous. And an amazing grandmother (who has taught my kids not only to cook, but to check candy vending machines for loose pieces).

But back to the wedding. Wearing the dress was not the only one of my mother-in-law’s memorable moments on the big day. She’d put a corkscrew in her purse before the ceremony so she could drink afterwards. When it was over, she crouched on the sidewalk, and opened the bottle of wine. When you’re married in a church you’re supposed to leave your alter flowers behind to decorate the church. But she took them. The morning after my hotel room was just filled with floral arrangements and food from the buffet. She kept all the leftovers. For weeks we ate the slices of cake she wrapped in napkins and put in a Tupperware. We ate all the wedding food she froze for a long time. She’s probably ahead of her time in terms of being environmentally conscious, because she does not waste food.

To this day we still joke about the dress. On our anniversary we’ll look at wedding photos and joke, “It’s the two brides!” Or, “Bride one and bride two!” I’m still shocked, but she says she just didn’t think about it when she bought the dress. She felt good and it was a steal, so she went with it. Now when we go to weddings I’ll joke, “You’re not going to wear white this time, are you?” But we know it’s something she’ll never, ever do again.

Samantha Leach is an assistant editor at Glamour. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram @_sleach.

How to Clean Your Jewelry in the Summer

If accessorizing with jewelry at the beach is your thing, go for it—just know there’s a responsibility that comes along with wearing bracelets, earrings, and necklaces in and around the water.

“Chemical or mineral residue from chlorine or salt water will remain on the jewelry’s surface and continue to damage it,” Kelsey Perry, formerly of the jewelry brand Silpada, explained. “It can lead to tarnishing and corrosion of the finish but can also break down functioning components such as clasps, connection rings, and stone settings.”

If the waves don’t prove too tempting to jump into, remember to remove your jewelry before you dive in. Water alone will accelerate tarnishing—add in salt or chlorine, and the possibility of discoloration, bleaching, and messed-up finishes becomes a danger.

“If you’re wearing your gold chains daily and not taking them off between sunscreen, pool, shower, shampoo, lotion, your chains can accumulate guck,” said Jennifer Fisher, founder of Jennifer Fisher Jewelry. That means that cleaning your jewelry soon after a trip to the beach or pool is imperative. “I would recommend cleaning your chains with a soft cloth or a jewelry cleaner appropriate for the type of metal your jewelry is made of at least once a week in order to keep your jewelry maintained and shiny.”

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“We recommend washing immediately after exposure and before extended storage,” Perry added, nothing that you can also use whatever mild soap water you have on hand (be it hand soap or body wash). “Making sure the item is completely rinsed and dried is just as important as the actual cleaning too.”

Metal’s not the only material to keep off the beach, either. Woven leather pieces can start to peel, dry out, and turn funky colors after being introduced to water. “Don’t wear those pieces in water,” Ryane Delka, formerly of Silpada, said. “Keep leather dry at all times and clean with a soft, damp cloth or specially formulated leather cleaner.” Same goes for costume jewelry: “It should never be worn in the pool, the ocean, salt water or in chlorine,” Fisher said.

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But even if you’re not getting in the water, that doesn’t mean you’re quite off the hook. You’re still going to want to either take off your jewelry if you’re going to sweat or wear sunscreen (which, by the way, you absolutely should) and give it some extra TLC when you get home. “You wash your workout clothes, you should wash your jewelry,” said Fisher.

Also, be sure to take your jewelry off before you apply that sunscreen: Putting sunscreen or even spraying perfume directly on it can cause damage, according to Monica Vinader. Delka added: “The chemicals in sunscreen and the salt content of sweat act very similar to pool and ocean water, accelerating the rate of tarnishing and corrosion. Sand can act as an abrasive to metal, leather, and stones, while sun exposure can fade components, soften adhesives, and discolor metal.”

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The key takeaway? Before you head out for any sort of fun in the summer sun, whether it’s a day at the beach or a game of tennis, consider removing your jewelry.