Chrissy Teigen Threw John Legend an Epic Bond-Themed 40th Birthday

Nobody does PDA quite like John Legend and Chrissy Teigen, so it’s not exactly surprising that when it was time to celebrate John’s 40th birthday this weekend, Chrissy did it up big—and we mean big. She threw him a massive, ultra-glam, Bond-themed bash, complete with sparkly gold dresses, tuxedos, and a joint appearance from the couple’s friends, Kim Kardashian and Kanye West.

Technically, Legend turned the big 4-0 a few weeks ago—his actual birthday is December 28—but the couple and their kids headed to Bora Bora for some January sun, so it made sense to wait a little bit to have a proper celebration. As Teigen captioned a cheeky birthday tribute to John on the ‘gram: “Happy 40th birthday to the most incredible man. The best father, hardest worker, best lover, best friend I could ever imagine. Every day I am grateful for how much you love us and how much you both say it and show it. You are one of a kind. I am grateful to your family for creating and raising such a pure, sweet, brilliant man. The world has been blessed by your 40 years on this planet. I love you. I showed you that this morning BOOYAHHHH”

The celebration Chrissy threw last night for her hubs definitely qualifies as an extravaganza—and we got a glimpse of it all courtesy of the couple’s friend and party guest Kim Kardashian. She posted a photo to her Instagram Stories of a glittery number 40 at the entrance of what seems like an ultra-decadent event. Another image surfaced that shows she and Kanye posing with the birthday boy and the hostess in a gorgeous set that has 007 written all over it.

Earlier, Chrissy had posted a selfie of herself getting ready for the party in a sparkling gold dress on her Instagram stories—and we also got a behind-the-scenes look at how the couple’s little ones got ready for the big event, too (of course they weren’t going to miss out on this). Teigen took to Twitter and Instagram to ask people to vote on which teeny-tiny baby tuxedo her son, Miles, would wear. “okay guys. throwing john’s 40th birthday party tonight but need your help dressing mini-john. Which one!” she wrote. You can see the adorable options below:

Spoiler alert: The white tux won out. Chrissy also dressed daughter Luna up in a white ballerina dress and shared a clip of the 3-year-old delightedly twirling around in it.

The whole party looks like it was executed masterfully—but that’s how Chrissy rolls. Touching (and hilarious) tributes to John are kind of her thing, after all. The only thing is that now John is going to have to plan her something just as epic, but luckily for him, he has about eight and a half more months to figure that out.

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13 TV Shows and Movies to Watch the Week of January 13

It’s mid-season time, which means so many of your favorite TV shows are returning from their holiday breaks. This week alone has both This Is Us and Riverdale coming back after several weeks off. Plus, True Detective is returning for its third season, and A Star Is Born is finally available on digital HD! I’m about to go off the deep end with streaming. (Sorry, I had to.)

Below, all the TV shows and movies to earmark for this week:

24th Annual Critics’ Choice Awards: Taye Diggs will hosts tonight’s show, which features several nominations for A Star Is Born, If Beale Street Could Talk, and Roma. 7 P.M. ET on The CW

American Style: This four-part documentary series is an odyssey through the history of American fashion and will feature moments from Tim Gunn, Donna Karan, André Leon Talley, Christie Brinkley, Isaac Mizrahi, Vanessa Williams, and Diane von Furstenberg. 9 P.M. ET on CNN

True Detective: Mahershala Ali stars in the third season of this critically-acclaimed anthology series, which will follow partner detectives investigating a crime with two missing children at its center. 9 P.M. ET on HBO

Dirty John, The Dirty Truth: A documentary series on John Meehan, who conned a woman in Los Angeles into marrying him and alienating her concerned family members. This story first gained traction with the Los Angeles Times podcast, Dirty John, and then later the fictional TV adaptation starring Connie Britton. 8 P.M. ET on Oxygen

This Is Us: The third season of NBC’s hit weep fest picks back up tonight. What will happen with Kate’s pregnancy? And Randall and Beth’s relationship? So many questions! 9 P.M. ET on NBC

Temptation Island: This salacious reality show from 2001, in which couples at a pivotal point in their relationship live the “single life” with hot strangers on an island, is back and more bonkers than ever. 10 P.M. ET on USA

A Star Is Born: Bradley Cooper’s remake of this iconic film (also starring himself and Lady Gaga) is a heavy Oscar contender this year, so watch it on streaming if you haven’t yet. Now available for streaming on iTunes

Deadly Class: A teenager is asked to join a new private school only to find out its students are from affluent crime families. Sounds completely safe, am I right? Lana Condor for To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before stars. 10 P.M. ET on SyFy

Riverdale: Season three is back, and as much as it’s trying to get me to care about the Gargoyle King, the only thing I’m invested in is the cult. 8 P.M. ET on The CW

Grey’s Anatomy: Good news, people. Not only is season 15 of Grey’s Anatomy returning tonight, there will be three more episodes than normal. Clear your queues accordingly. 8 P.M. ET on ABC

Butterfly: Hulu has acquired this British drama series, which centers on a separated couple who disagrees on how to deal with their transgender child. Streaming on Hulu

Glass: Glass is the third installment of M. Night Shyamalan’s Unbreakable series that includes the movies Split (2016) and Unbreakable (2000). In it, Sarah Paulson plays a psychiatrist treating Kevin Wendell (James McAvoy), David Dunn (Bruce Willis), and Elijah “Mr. Glass” Price (Samuel L. Jackson), who she thinks are all under the delusion that they’re superheroes. In theaters

Winter Love Story: Read the full, official synopsis, below. 8 P.M. ET on Hallmark

“When new author Cassie Winslett’s (Jen Lilley) first novel isn’t selling, she is paired on a book tour with the best-selling author Elliot Somersby (Kevin McGarry) to boost Cassie’s sales and her confidence – but along the way a romance starts to blossom.”

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Kate Middleton Had Not One, but Two Royal Birthday Parties

When you’re a member of the British monarchy, major life events are rarely taken lightly. (See last year’s royal wedding and Prince Louis’ christening for proof.) Apparently, this is an unwritten rule that also applies to birthdays: Just ask Kate Middleton, who rung in her 37th year on not one, but two separate occasions over the past week—and honestly, we’re here for both of them.

On Wednesday (January 9), her actual birthday, Middleton reportedly spent the day at home in Kensington Palace keeping it chill with school drop-offs and pickups. Later in the day, Kate was joined by the Duke of Cambridge when he returned from an official engagement commemorating the 30th anniversary of London’s Air Ambulance. According to Vanity Fair, Prince William made it home just in time to celebrate with his wife and the kids—before they all continued the day with a tea party for Kate at the palace.

According to Vanity Fair, which quoted a source close to the royal family, Kate is actually not a big fan of birthday parties. “Kate’s not into big birthday celebrations,” the source told the site. “But George and Charlotte adore birthday cake, so there will be a special tea party at the palace with candles and presents.”

But according to new reports, the Duchess of Cambridge actually did have a second, larger birthday party—though it was held outside of London earlier in the week (which might just explain the super-chill plans for her actual birthday). According to the royals-focused podcast On Heir, Kate reportedly had a private party on Sunday, January 6, at her and Will’s country home, Anmer Hall in Norfolk, England. Reportedly in attendance at the evening’s party were Prince Louis’ godmother, Laura Meade, as well as Prince George’s godmother, Emilia Jardine Patterson, Kate’s friend from university.

It’s kinda great that royals love a good birthday week, too—though we’re dying to know if Kate treated herself to an indulgence or two during her own royal Me Week.

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Kate Middleton’s Brother James Wrote a Powerful Essay About Mental Health

For years, the rising generation of the royal family—specifically Duchess of Cambridge Kate Middleton, Prince William, and Prince Harry—has worked through their Heads Together foundation to change the conversation around mental illness and combat stigma around it, especially within the United Kingdom. Prince Harry, in particular, has been especially vocal about his own struggles, opening up about being “close to a complete breakdown on numerous occasions.” Now, Kate’s brother is contributing to the conversation: In a new op-ed for the Daily Mail, James Middleton—who has historically remained quiet on all matters concerning his family—openly applauds his royal sister and brothers-in-law for their work as he opened up for the first time about his own years-long battle with anxiety and depression.

In the essay, Kate’s younger brother describes the challenges of living with severe dyslexia and Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) and how that morphed into an exhausting struggle with anxiety and depression later in life: “Each night sleep eluded me,” he writes. “During the day I’d drag myself up and go to work, then just stare with glazed eyes at my computer screen, willing the hours to tick by so I could drive home again. Debilitating inertia gripped me. I couldn’t respond to the simplest message so I didn’t open my emails. I couldn’t communicate, even with those I loved best: my family and close friends.”

Middleton goes on to acknowledge that although he’s privileged, that doesn’t make him “immune” to issues with mental health. “I know I’m richly blessed and live a privileged life. But it did not make me immune to depression,” he says. “It is tricky to describe the condition. It is not merely sadness. It is an illness, a cancer of the mind.”

According to the World Health Organization, depression is an extremely common mental health disorder affecting more than 300 million people of all ages worldwide. But despite its wide reach, depression—as with many other mental health conditions—is often culturally stigmatized. In the UK, open discussions around depression and other mental health issues are still largely more taboo than not—for men in particular—making Middleton’s essay especially important. “For many men, opening up about their feelings is the biggest social taboo,” wrote Chris Hemmings in 2016 for the Independent, a British newspaper. Instead, he writes, “[we] bury our heads in the sand—or bottle, to be more accurate, as alcoholism rates for men in the UK are three times that of women.” A report from the UK’s Mental Health Foundation places suicide—which, the report reads is “associated with depressive disorders across the globe”—as the leading cause of death in the UK among people 20 to 34 years old, with more than three times as many men as women dying as a result of suicide.

Despite his sister’s advocacy and the fact that the Middleton family had become “desperately worried” about his well-being, James writes that he found it difficult to open up to them at first, explaining that often with depression, “those who are closest to you are the hardest to speak to.” Ultimately, it was the royals’ years-long advocacy for openness around mental health that helped James come forward with his own story.

“I feel compelled to talk about it openly because this is precisely what my brother-in-law Prince William, my sister Catherine and Prince Harry are advocating through their mental health charity Heads Together,” he says.

“They believe we can only tackle the stigma associated with mental illness if we have the courage to change the national conversation, to expel its negative associations,” he writes. “So it wouldn’t be honest to suppress my story. I want to speak out, and they are my motivation for doing so.”

Ultimately, Middleton hopes that by opening up about his struggle with anxiety and depression, he’ll encourage others to do the same. Props to him for speaking out—and continuing to unravel the stigma.

If you or someone you know is struggling with depression, visit Mental Health America or the Anxiety and Depression Association of America for access to resources, help, and support.

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The Best New Makeup Launches Coming This Year | January 2019

It seems like every time you open Instagram, a beauty brand is launching a new palette, lipstick, or contour kit. While it certainly keeps getting ready fun, the sheer volume of products dropping on the regular makes it impossible to try everything—or even know where to start. That’s where our beauty team comes in. Luckily for you (and us), it’s our job to sort through the piles (and piles) of makeup that cross our desks each month to narrow down the best new makeup launches that are worth adding to your collection. Check in all month as we add our favorites from January to the list.

Kris Jenner Saved a Family Heirloom Just for Khloé Kardashian

If you could pick one person in the world to give you a present, I think Kris Jenner should be high on your list. After all, the Kardashian-Jenner matriarch has an epic closet 62 years in the making, where designer handbags are displayed like prized museum pieces. This is a woman who proudly showed off the “Rich as Fuck” Goyard suitcase she got for Christmas. So she knows a thing or two about luxurious, high-end goods—and how to give them.

But not all of her gifts are store bought. In fact, Jenner tells Glamour exclusively about a sentimental family heirloom she gave her daughter Khloé Kardashian. It was a present to celebrate the birth of Kardashian’s first child, True Thompson—one that Jenner had been saving especially for her third daughter.

“On the day Khloé was born, her father gave me three beautiful gold bracelets with diamonds,” she says. “I held onto them for 34 years waiting for the moment I could give them to Khloé when she had her first child.”

“To be able to give Khloé a piece of diamond jewelry that her father chose on the day she was born was incredibly special, and was a really emotional moment for us both,” Jenner continues. “I hope she will save the bracelets and pass down to True when she has children.”

Kardashian’s reaction to the gift was just as heartfelt as you’d expect, Jenner says: “Khloé had no idea. Seeing the jewelry on her for the first time was very emotional—we both cried.”

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“I love jewelry, especially diamonds,” Jenner explains. “All of my diamond pieces have significant meaning and reflect important moments in my life. I plan to one day pass them down to my children. Since my diamond pieces all have such significant meaning individually, I hope to pass down jewelry that would hold the same importance to that family member just like the bracelets I gave to Khloé.” One day, she adds, she’ll have something “very special” to give granddaughter True.

One thing True can count on for gifts? The chance to shop Jenner’s closet on special occasions.

“My grandchildren love to come over and go through my closet—every year I let them all choose something for their birthdays or Christmas that they love,” Jenner tells us. “Penelope and North always go for the Judith Leiber bags…smart girls!”

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These Women Are Still Waiting for Their Paycheck Because of the Government Shutdown

Americans know when the federal government shutdown began: December 22, 2018. What we don’t know as President Donald Trump and Congress remain at odds is when it will end. For many women in public service who are on furlough and now looking at not getting that vital paycheck, the uncertainty can be agonizing. Here are some of the stories furloughed women told Glamour about living, waiting, and trying to get by. They spoke on their own behalf, not for the federal government; some requested partial anonymity out of concern for their jobs.


“We have to be there to pick each other up when systems fail us.”

—Alicia Crain, 38, diversity/equal employment opportunity worker, Washington, D.C.

After serving for years as a development worker in Mexico, Crain relocated to D.C. from Portland in 2016 to take a federal government job as a diversity specialist—a move that ate into her savings. Her take-home pay is about $3,000 a month. She is single and lives by herself. Her rent is $1,225. She spends about $80 for her phone and $50 a month for internet, but doesn’t own a car. Past experiences have taught her about the art of living frugally. Those lessons are getting put to the test during the shutdown.

At first the shutdown was more like vacation. For the first week, week and a half, and it was just fine to literally get up, sit on the couch, watch Netflix. I have a really cute little apartment with nice windows, so I have a good place to hang out, which I know isn’t true for lower-level federal employees who are already working [multiple] jobs to make ends meet.

But now it’s been 19 days of just waiting and seeing if I can do my job. I’ll be missing a paycheck, and there seems to be no end in sight. I am in not-great financial circumstances. … If I pay my rent on February 1 [without another paycheck], I’ll almost empty my account; I’d have maybe $200 left. So I’ve signed up as a dog walker on a couple apps to provide a little cash.

[The shutdown] is just sort of maddening and confusing. This is just getting out of hand… The president is like a two-year-old throwing a temper tantrum: ‘I will do whatever I want, and I don’t care who I have to hurt to get what I want.’ That just hit home for how self-centered and narcissistic he is… If there was any sort of empathy, the shutdown would have ended a long time ago.

Alicia Crain has been keeping track of her projects during the furlough. She shared this screenshot of her list.

It’s demoralizing sitting around waiting to be able do my job that I’m good at, that I love, but I am not willing to give in to a narcissistic fascist. Fortunately, my credit union sent a message about all kind of ways to help—paycheck replacement loans, late-fee waivers, a variety of things which I haven’t looked into yet. And my family offered to help when and if I need.

I’ve been getting up without an alarm. I make coffee, make breakfast… I’ve been organizing, weeding through things, cleaning. I clean a lot. I took all my Christmas decorations down. I washed all of my work clothes and ironed them. Today, I decided to make a calendar out of paper bags. I saw [one] somewhere over the weekend and I looked it up, but it was $25.

Yesterday, American University had “Classes Without Quizzes,” a whole day of workshops for furloughed feds, and I ran into a bunch of colleagues there. The great thing about being furloughed in D.C. is many businesses are offering free classes, free food, discounts.

A friend of mine was going out for kind of a nice dinner for Christmas Eve. I did not do that, to save money. I haven’t been eating out. I’ve been saying no to events, even if they don’t cost a lot, like $15—that stuff adds up. I took a bunch of things back to Ikea [for a refund of] $150… I have definitely made fewer trips to the grocery store. I’m trying to eat what I have. I would prefer not to have to borrow money that I’ll have to pay back, but I guess if it comes to that, I will.

The calendar Crain made out of recycled paper bags.

I’m reading A Book of Joy by the Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu. One of the first things that they talk about is that both have experienced a lot of suffering in their lives. How do you be compassionate while suffering? They both said they remember that they’re not alone in their suffering. There are 450,000 of us [federal employees] affected, and we’re all together. If folks need help, reach out. It’s not easy, but relationships are super important… We have to be there to pick each other up when systems fail us.


“We’re scared and nervous about what the future holds.”

—C., 37, Maryland, international development worker

A few days ago, C., her fiance, and their son had just moved into a new home in a Washington suburb, with plans to rent out their old one-bedroom condo in D.C. Now, she’s without a paycheck, and her partner’s salary won’t stretch far enough to cover both mortgages. When she first heard about the shutdown, the fear set in. Now she’s concerned she may not be able to keep the apartment.

I was shocked… The next week, we were closing on a house, so financially, I was panicking. I was sitting up all night watching the news, waiting to see if it was going to happen. My fiance was like, “Just go to bed. What can you do?” [and] I was like, “We can’t! We have to plan! What are we going to do if it happens?”

My partner works for a private employer, thank goodness. We do have that to fall back on. And this has given me time to really be with my son, which is a positive thing… [But] just thinking about the workload that I’m going encounter if [the government] does open up—I work on things that have very strict deadlines and certain numbers have to be met, and so with this happening, my amount of time to do my work is going to be significantly less.

I wake up every day at 3:30 in the morning and have numbers and stress and everything going through my head until 5:30 or 6….

Hearing the stories about the people who have this as their sole income—I can’t imagine the stress that they’re going through. Really, had we just been in our same situation of not buying this new house last week, I would have been completely fine.

But now that we’re in this possible predicament of two mortgages, one paycheck—his paycheck will not pay for two mortgages… I have been every day trying to figure out what we can do to make sure our money is kind of spread out. I make about $80,000 a year [and it’s] about $5000 a month for two mortgages. He makes about the same as me, $80,000. We definitely rely on both of our checks every single month to make sure we pay for everything.

I wake up every day at 3:30 in the morning and have numbers and stress and everything going through my head until 5:30 or 6, and then somehow it shuts up for a moment, and then it’s time to be with my kiddo… I definitely have become much more aware of the amount that I’m spending.

The idea of having to sell the condo is pretty upsetting. It’s literally the last resort. There’s nothing that really calms the mind when it comes to this. I have no idea what we’ll do. We don’t have family members who are going to be able to help us pay for things…

I’ve never owned anything before that [condo]. I’ve never even owned a car. It was the only thing I’ve ever owned. So of course there’s that emotional part towards keeping it, but I have to use my practical side of my brain to make the smart decision, obviously. But it will be hard. It’ll be sad to know that I was pushed into that corner to have to put it on the market at this point in time.

The president has no idea what any of us on furlough feel or think or know or agree with or disagree with. He has to talk to us.

We have shelter and we are not going to lose our homes, we hope, but if this continues—we will be forced into doing things we are not prepared to do, like putting our homes on the market and using our credit cards to buy our groceries. We’re scared. We’re nervous about what the future holds for us, and we need to find the calm within the storm. We need to feel supported by our leadership—and I don’t feel that.


“Insecurity about your job takes an emotional toll.”

—Lilibeth Mata, 27, Houston, Texas, NASA analyst

Mata has lived through a shutdown before, but this is one of the longer ones she’s seen. She’s looking for side hustles to keep at least some cash coming in as she waits for a resolution. And she has empathy for fellow federal workers who may have it worse.

In September of 2013, literally the week that I got hired, I had my first furlough, so I’ve had this experience before. The very first one was about two weeks long, so that’s something that I was okay with and was kind of prepared for.

Now we’re going into something way longer than I’ve ever had to deal with, and of course it gets you kind of scared and anxious about when you’re going to go back to work and when you’re going to receive your paycheck again. It’s scary how often it’s happening. You think as a civil servant you have really great job security, but in reality, they can shut down the government whenever they want. More than anything, it’s sort of the emotional toll of the insecurity in your job.

Coming right after the holidays, the timing of this shutdown is extra harsh.

Finance-wise, you’re digging into those savings, and especially right now, at the beginning of the year. For me, my six-month car insurance payment hits in January, the homeowner’s bill for the entire year. I also help my parents out, because they’re both retired and just kind of depend on their Social Security. And coming right after the holidays, the timing of this shutdown is extra harsh.

Lilibeth Mata of NASA has lived through shutdowns before, but not furloughs this long.

I think I’ll be ok, but I have to prioritize certain things to make that happen. And I also have been trying to look for little jobs—just kind of odds and ends to make a little bit of extra cash. I have a friend who’s an event coordinator, so I have helped her with two events throughout these few weeks, a wedding and a New Year’s party. I set up the decorations, I ushered people around and I catered to the bride, groom, and family. And I’m trying to see if any friends need math tutors or anything.

I’m aware that shutdowns happen. It’s starting to get to the point of it that the length of it is getting scary. Everything that I hear in the news doesn’t sound like we’re coming any closer to a resolution. In the past we’ve gotten back pay, but it’s never a guarantee.

Besides worrying myself, I worry about my friends—both husband and wife are NASA employees and they have a child. I know there’s people who are even worse off than me because they have an entire family and their whole entire income comes from the federal government. As bad as I have it, I know there are people who have it worse.


“My son’s like, ‘I love Furlough Mommy!”

—L., 39, Virginia, budget manager

A mother of two who describes herself as always having been very career-oriented, L. has been in federal service long enough to have seen shutdowns before. Her husband’s salary keeps the family out of financial peril—so she admits time away from the job has actually made her less stressed, not more.

My husband can cover our mortgage, our basics. Ironically, the day before the shutdown, he got an offer for a government position, but he didn’t hear the phone. He wanted that job for a long time, but it actually worked out that he hadn’t gone there earlier, because then he would have been furloughed too. If this went on for months and months and months, yeah, it would be bad. But another week or two, even the end of the month, is not earth-shattering. The main thing coming out of my checking account is my student loans I pay every month, and student loans you can pretty easily freeze, so that’s what I did.

Normally, I’m out of the house by the time my kids even wake up. I have a four-year-old in daycare and an 11-year-old who goes to school. Now, I can get up with them, help them start their day, get them off onto the bus. I decided I’m going to hit the gym every day I’m furloughed. I’ve personally been trying really hard to be productive. I’ve done a lot of painting in my house. Me and some of my friends, we hold ourselves accountable for getting up and doing things. If you lounge around, you can become depressed because you feel like you’re not contributing, you’re not being productive in society. So I’ve just been go, go, go. Go to the gym. Tidy up my house. It makes the day go fast.

If you lounge around, you can become depressed because you feel like you’re not contributing…so I’ve just been go, go, go.

This is really cheesy, but I feel like I’ve kind of had some time to be a better mom. Because usually, I’m so harried and stressed, and they’re like, “I need this, I need this.” When you get home from work, you’re like, “When am I going to do all these things?” Well, you know what? My son needed something and I leisurely went to Target today and got it for him. I’m going to be here when he gets home. I’ve always been like a career person. I’m not usually very touchy-feely. So I have to say this is honestly the most connected I’ve ever felt with my kids. My son’s like, “I love Furlough Mommy!”

When I go back to my job, what I hope to take with me is realizing that when I bring home stress from work, that it impacts everybody, and realizing how, because I’m really calm right now, that improves the mood of the whole family. I’m going to try really hard to take that as a lesson learned: when I come home from work, just let it go.


“This was a dream job. But the furlough has made me question that.”

—Bonnie Nesbitt, 36, New York, underwriter, U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development

It’s the feeling of being in professional and financial limbo that’s frustrating for Nesbitt, a new HUD employee who is among the federal workers who, amid the uncertainty, has decided to take the step of seeking unemployment benefits to prevent her from draining away money she’s saved toward other life goals, including buying a home.

I started this job just two months ago, October 29th, 2018. The whole situation is frustrating and unnerving since there’s no gauge to sense when we could be back to work. This feeling of being in limbo, everything’s been put on hold with no foreseeable end in sight; it’s something I’ve never experienced before.

My whole professional career has been in the affordable housing industry, so when I landed this federal gig, it was a dream job. As far as public-sector work goes, federal positions are kind of the gold standard, in my opinion. This was a career-changing move that I was, and still am, very excited about. But to leave a job to take the next step in my career, only to fall into a trap of no employment and no pay for an undetermined amount of time, has honestly made me question my move.

Bonnie Nesbitt got her dream job at HUD, but now she’s furloughed along with hundreds of thousands of federal workers.

Financially, I am among the privileged where I do have savings I could re-allocate to cover my expenses (rent, high student loan payment, some credit cards, along with basic items like food, etc.)—but not for months on end.

Additionally, my partner Will and I were in the process of applying to buy into a co-op apartment in Queens before the shutdown went into effect. The money we have saved has been designated to cover our down payment and closing costs. I transferred roughly $2,000 of that designated money to my checking account yesterday to cover bills for the next couple weeks. I can’t keep that up for weeks or months on end.

[Losing the co-op is] definitely a concern. Co-op boards look for purchasers to have a certain amount of post-closing liquidity, and if I keep having to tap into savings to make ends meet, it could potentially put our transaction in jeopardy. We’re too far along into the process to back out now though, so I have to keep extraneous spending to a minimum and stay optimistic we’ll be back to work sooner than later.

I decided today to file for unemployment benefits to help cover some bills. It will help—that’s why we pay into these social safety nets so they’re there when we do need them—but after taxes, it won’t be close to matching my regular take-home pay.

Celeste Katz is senior politics reporter for Glamour. Send tips and questions to Celeste_Katz@condenast.com.

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A Beauty Editor’s Impulse Buys: $263 of Treatments, Custom Cat Socks, and More

Once upon a time, when I living on an Upper East Side couch for $1,000 a month and ate a steady diet of ramen, I remember thinking that by the time I turned 30 I’d have it all together. I’d be shopping for and cooking real adult meals. I’d have enough discretionary income to not worry about paying rent if I had a health crisis. But mostly, I’d make enough money to actually have a budget—and stick to it.

Seven years later, I have a Casper mattress (on an Ikea bed frame), pillows that aren’t couch cushions, and a savings account that I’m pretty good about not dipping into for the most part. I eat homemade chicken and broccoli…when my boyfriend cooks. But a budget? Eh. It’s not like I’m in debt or shop a ton. (Although, I’m a retail e-mail marketer’s dream—more on that below.) Rather, I love a plan on a whim. Mani date? I’m there. Brunch? We’re splitting a stack of pancakes for the table on top of an egg dish, round of mimosas, and, yeah, give me the latte. I don’t even want to admit how much I spent on Ubers alone the past month, because I honestly don’t even want to know.

This usually results in a hodgepodge of Venmo and credit card charges. The only thing you won’t find? Beauty products. Call it perks of the job.

A gel mani at the L.A. nail spot I’ve been dying to visit: $136
I started December out with a whirlwind trip to L.A. to visit the brilliant Shani Darden for a facial. (I told you being a beauty editor has its perks.) As a celebrity esthetician and Garnier ambassador, she’s worked on the faces on Emmy Rossum, Kelly Rowland, and so many more. After she worked her magic on my acne-prone skin using Garnier’s new charcoal peel-off mask, I had eight hours of free-time to futz around the city, so I did it the best way I knew how—booking a full day of treatments at all the L.A. hotspots I’d been dying to try, starting with Olive & June.

I’ve been following the nail salon’s Instagram for nearly half a decade. In my opinion, they just do nail art right: subtle, sophisticated, with just the right amount of kitsch. (Check out their Insta and you’ll see what I mean.) Initially I’d only signed up for the $40 Chrissy, a regular gel mani, and figured I’d get my usual moody blue or purple. But once I sat in the chair, I knew exactly what I wanted: a Betina Goldstein (my favorite nail artist at the moment; just look at these fingers!) inspired design on each of my cuticles. I ended up with a baby pink base and a delicate line of gold shimmer—plus nearly $100 extra added to the total cost. That said, it lasted a full two and a half weeks, so I’d say it was worth it.

A 60-minute massage at the swankiest L.A. massage bar: $96
Another beauty editor who’s really picky about her treatments recommended I book an appointment at The Now, and I’m so glad I did. The concept is similar to Drybar in that you’re not paying for the overhead of a bunch of different services—rather, the only thing they offer are massages. Correction: Great massages. The decor inside was very Instagrammy. You could buy palo santo and tarot cards at the shop, and when you walk back to the treatment area, each room was separated by a patterned curtain. I blissfully melted away the stress of traveling while an ocean sound-machine echoed crashing waves from above. Note to The Now: other cities are waiting. We need this.

My J.Crew haul

The J.Crew sale that was too good to pass up: $251.30
I shop at approximately two places—J.Crew and Madewell—on the regular and never fail to click a sale email from either one. I’ve probably funded at least one junior copywriter’s salary at this point. This time, J.Crew was having a pre-Christmas sale and nearly everything was 50 percent off. Obviously I had to act. I came away with an extensive turtleneck haul—one striped ($17.25), one solid gray ($14.75), one emerald green ($39.75), and one ruffled ($22.50)—plus, a sweatshirt that says “Brooklyn” because I couldn’t resist ($24.75). That’s not all. I also bought a bracelet (because it was $6.49 and why not?), an $8.25 velvet hair bow (because I’m a sucker for red-carpet hair trends), and a bird-print maxi ($99) I was so excited to wear until I realized it was crazy low-cut. I still haven’t decided whether I should return it or wear it with one of my thousand turtlenecks. Knowing me, it’ll probably be neither and instead will sit in my closet until I sell it. Which brings me to…

The Ubers I took to and from selling my old clothes: $69.87
Errands are much better done with friends, mostly because I continue to put them off if I don’t have someone forcing me to do them. So this is why, season after season, I continue to spend almost how much I make in re-sales, so I can join my best friend at her local neighborhood consignment shop. I still got to take home $20 and ended up binging 90 Day Fiancé at her place the rest of the day. Not a bad Saturday.

The custom pet socks every fashion editor was getting, so I did too: $15.95
No shame: I’m one of those millennials who talks about my cat like he’s my child. In fact, most people do think he’s my kid because his name is Matthew. (I firmly believe pets are part of the family and deserve names that reflect that. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.) So when every fashion editor was getting sent these very ugly, incredibly fantastic customized socks with their dogs’ faces on them I obviously had to get a pair. Technically they were a belated Christmas gift for my boyfriend, but they were too small for him so now they’re mine. Matthew remains unimpressed.

The Gap jeans I bought because my favorite pair ripped: $90.93
Another sale email got me, but this time I had a valid reason. The cropped bootcut jeans I’ve been wearing religiously since our fashion team convinced me I could pull them off got a huge hole in the thigh. Tragic. Gap only had a pair six sizes too small left, so I pity bought two extra pairs on sale in the hopes that they’d be as cute. The jury’s still out.

A spur-of-the-moment mani and brunch date with an old co-worker: $83.71
When a former member of the Glam Fam texted me to get together (hi, Maureen!), it was a no-brainer about what we’d do: manis at the delightfully chic Tenoverten, followed by lemon ricotta pancakes and mimosas at Sarabeth’s. After my gels, I was aching to go back to my usual dark shade. I’ve been dying to try Essie’s new Booties on Broadway—the coolest winter navy—but they didn’t have it, so it was Midnight Cami instead, the perfect shade for the ball drop and back to work on the 2nd.

Lindsay Schallon is a senior beauty editor at Glamour

Best Jane the Virgin Fan Theories

Jane the Virgin has been captivating audiences for four hilarious seasons, but it only has one left: It was just revealed that the fifth and final season will premiere on Wednesday, March 27. Anchored by the enigmatic Jane Villanueva (Gina Rodriguez), the show is a laugh-out-loud tribute to telenovelas that both embraces and subverts tropes—including evil twins, secret identities, undercover crime bosses, and minor characters who wind up dead under cartoonishly suspicious circumstances.

As the show enters its final season—following the most shocking cliff-hanger ever—fan theories are popping up all over social media. Here are 9 that will keep you up at night. Warning: Spoilers ahead.

Michael’s death, caused by an undiagnosed complication from a gunshot wound, left Jane a bereaved widow. In the last few seconds of the season four finale, Jane walks into her boyfriend Rafael’s apartment and sees Michael, her dead husband, standing there. It was a jaw-dropping scene that lit up social media, and JtV fans have been digging for the truth ever since. So far, the most popular theory is that he’s been living with amnesia. A couple of things back this up: amnesia is a frequent novella storyline, and one that Jane’s famous father, Rogelio, mentioned several times in the network pitch for his new TV show, The Passions of Steve and Brenda. For the split second the audience sees Michael’s face, he does seem confused, almost as if he doesn’t recognize his wife.

Is it possible that Sin Rostra (Rose), who’s long been obsessed with Rafael, Michael, and Jane, hired someone to change a man into “Michael?” It’s not that far-fetched. After all, Rose did run a plastic surgery ring that changed the appearance of criminals so they could escape the police. (Sin Rostro, interestingly, translates to “faceless.”)

Viewers know Rose isn’t above using incredibly realistic-looking costumes to disguise herself. Could she have used her expertise to disguise a man as Michael, thus giving Rose the opportunity to hold the real Michael captive? Some fans suspect Michael faked his death in order to prove Jane would always end up with Rafael, but that would be super extra of him.

Long-lost twins are always a possibility in telenovelas. Could Michael have a brother who’s been hidden for all these years? Maybe, but this scenario is less likely than the others for a few reasons. First, they have the evil twin angle covered with Petra and Aneska. Second, Michael’s grieving mother has been a part of Jane’s storyline, and it’s unlikely she’d ignore the existence of another child.

The Solanos have more family drama than the Kardashians. Early in the series, Raf finds out his mother—who abandoned him when he was 4, leaving him with his mercurial father—is a crime boss. She’s also the stepmother of his stepmother, Rose (Sin Rostro). See? Confusing. After his mother is murdered by Rose, he finds out the parents who raised him are not his biological parents (meaning Luisa is not his biological sister). He’s able to trace his ancestry through his family’s stolen art collection, which came from a convent in Italy, where his adoption took place.

There are two popular theories in the running. Possibility number one: JR is his sister. That would explain why her mother, who has dementia, has been mentioned. Possibility number two: Rose, his father’s ex-wife and his adopted mom’s step-daughter, is his biological mom. That could explain why she’s a constant, albeit evil, presence in his life.

Original Film Title: JANE THE VIRGIN. English Title: JANE THE VIRGIN. Film Director: BRAD SILBERLING; UTA BRIESEWITZ. Year: 2014. Stars: GINA RODRIGUEZ; JUSTIN BALDONI. Credit: CBS TELEVISION / Album

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Evil twins are a staple in soap opera storytelling. Aneska was introduced as Petra’s homely and meek long-lost sister, but her three-point plan was quickly revealed. (Step 1: Force Petra into a coma; Step 2: Sleep with Rafael; Step 3: Take control of the Marbella.) To say the Petra and Aneska had a fraught relationship after that is an understatement, but no one could have predicted that Petra, in a flash of rage and fear, would murder Anesaka then lie about it to her new lover and lawyer, JR. But as soap operas across the globe have proved over and over again, evil twins never really die. That, combined with Aneska’s knack for imitation, gives fans some trust issues. Is this another double-take deception? Could it be that Petra was the one who was killed by Aneska?

Petra and JR barely have time to deal with their traumatic breakup before they’re confronted with a mysterious intruder. (This is, presumably, the same person who’d been blackmailing JR.) As a horrified Petra whispers, “Oh my God, it’s you” and braces for a gunshot, JR rushes toward the would-be shooter and kills them. But who is it? There are several possibilities because Petra has a lot of enemies, with Aneska at the top of the list.

The soothing voice that guides viewers through the world of Jane the Virgin has become a character in his own right. He’s there to recap twisted storylines, offer insight into the characters’ motivations, and give hints about what’s to come. Who is he, though? Fans have a few ideas. It could be Jane’s father, Matteo Sr., who passed away long ago and is watching over his family. On the flip side, it might be young Matteo, who grew up watching all this drama unfold.

In season four, Jane has an artistic breakthrough and decides to write her book as an intergenerational tale of love and family. Could the Jane the Virgin world simply be Jane’s imagination or a plot line for her novel? Hopefully, we get closer to the answers in season five.

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What Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez’s Hoop Earrings Mean to Latina Women Like Me

Like many Latina women, I got my ears pierced when I was a baby—my mother took me to the pediatrician to have it done less than a month after I was born. (According to her, there were many other new moms and infants in line at the doctor’s office to do the same.) She says I cried through the night afterward, but she kept the earrings in because, as Puerto Ricans say, antes muerta que sencilla. Better dead than plain.

I’ve worn earrings ever since—mostly hoops, the cheapest pair my mom could find at the mall still made from real gold. And I had to be careful with them: One time, after I lost mine, my mom tightened a butterfly back so hard on my new earrings that we needed tweezers to take them off. But I loved these hoops. They were a rite of passage, one that Latina mothers offered their daughters as a symbol of their womanhood. I was raised to always be accessorized, no matter the occasion.

To me, my hoops were an heirloom, until I learned I’d have to set them aside to be taken seriously in certain circles. When I decided to take my ballet dancing seriously, I ditched the hoops for a pair of stud earrings (or “dormilonas,” as we call them back home)—the former represented a heritage of salsa and more rowdy dancing, which had no place in professional ballet. I stopped dancing when I was 17, but I kept the feeling that, if I wanted to be perceived as polished, my accessories needed to be more delicate.

Rep. Ocasio-Cortez on the House floor on January 3.

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My mother embraced hoop earrings, for all occasions. But there are Latinx folks that are a little bit more careful, even conservative, about hoops because of the stereotypes people assign to what we wear. “My parents wouldn’t ever let me wear them because they felt it would put me into a box, being that I’m Latina and my family is from the Bronx,” says writer Thatiana Díaz, 26. “I know that my mom had a fear of being put into a box and not being taken seriously as an immigrant.”

Briana Mendez, 25, who now works in brand partnerships, had that happen to her growing up in the suburbs in Florida. “I’ll never forget getting made fun of in middle school for wearing hoop earrings that were gifted to me—I was called names and felt extremely belittled,” she says. “After that day, I stopped wearing my hoops and opted for pearl studs to fit in with the more preppy girls from my neighborhood.”

I rediscovered hoops when I moved to New York. I wanted to keep Puerto Rico close to me, so I decided to embrace those cultural touchstones: the nameplate necklaces, red lipstick, Puerto Rican flag paraphernalia, and, yes, hoop earrings. I kept coming back to the pair my mother handed to me as a child because they reminded me of her unapologetic femininity. They made me feel more like a woman—a Latina woman.

But I still felt like there were certain places I couldn’t wear them, or couldn’t be accepted wearing them. So when Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, the Bronx-born Puerto Rican Democrat from New York, was sworn into Congress wearing a white pantsuit, a red lip, and big gold hoops it wasn’t just a good look—it was a radical act.

Rep. Ocasio-Cortez taking her oath.

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In true AOC fashion, the outfit was a collection of references, honoring the women who paved the path for her to take her oath on Capitol Hill. “Lip and hoops were inspired by Sonia Sotomayor, who was advised to wear neutral-colored nail polish to her confirmation hearings to avoid scrutiny. She kept her red,” she tweeted. “Next time someone tells Bronx girls to take off their hoops, they can just say they’re dressing like a Congresswoman.”

I saw myself in her that day: Throughout my professional career, I’ve stepped into spaces of privilege where I felt I wasn’t meant to belong—but instead of pushing aside my heritage to fit in, I insisted on wearing it boldly. Like Ocasio-Cortez, it’s good to remind people (and all of Congress) when there’s a Latina was in the House. I wasn’t the only person who, on that swearing in day in January, felt she had more in common with a congresswoman than in a lifetime. “To see a Latina woman like myself—making history and headlines, and being celebrated—own her whole look, her whole identity, gave me joy,” says Victoria Leandra, 22, a producer and writer.

For Latinas in positions of power, something as simple as wearing hoop earrings can feel like a small rebellion against the status quo. Among the corporate-grey suits and nude manicures, they announce our presence, loud and proud.

Rep. Ocasio-Cortez on the House floor.

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And people are cheering for her to continue wear her signature earrings. “Seeing AOC proudly wear hoops in Congress made me realize that […] I should embrace what I love to accessorize myself with and never feel ashamed for it,” says Mendez. “Hoops should be destigmatized as unprofessional.”

Ocasio-Cortez is a reminder to celebrate who we are and what we can achieve, that Latina women do have a place in the boardroom, the court bench, and, yes, Congress. She proved to me and other Latina women: You shouldn’t have to sacrifice identity for the sake of professional success.

Says Díaz: “I plan to wear my hoops for interviews, meetings, and any professional setting to make the statement: I’m a Latina, I’m from New York City, and I’m dressing like a Congresswoman.”

Frances Solá-Santiago is a writer and video producer from Puerto Rico based in New York. Follow her on Twitter at @frances_sola.