Grammys 2019: The Best Moments for Women

Dua Lipa gave an interview last night on the Grammys red carpet that quickly went viral. When asked by Ryan Seacrest what it means that the Best New Artist category was dominated by women this year, the “New Rules” singer replied, “It says we’re finally stepping up.” That might not seem buzzy on the surface, but remember what Recording Academy president Neil Portnow told Variety about the Grammys’ male-heavy lineup last year: “Women who have the creativity in their hearts and souls, who want to be musicians, who want to be engineers, producers, and want to be part of the industry on the executive level… [They need] to step up because I think they would be welcome.” Most people took Lipa’s soundbite as some thinly-veiled shade at Portnow; whether or not that’s the case is up for debate, but one thing is certain: Women owned the Grammys this year.

Let’s start with the actual wins, which included some historic moments. Cardi B became the first solo woman to take home the Best Rap Album award for Invasion of Privacy. (Lauryn Hill is the only other woman to win this award, in 1997 as part of the hip-hop group Fugees.) The “Money” performer was visibly moved during her acceptance speech, at one point joking, “I’m sorry, the nerves are so bad. Maybe I need to start smoking weed.”

Equally as stunned during her acceptance speech was Dua Lipa, who won Best New Artist (other nominees included Chloe x Halle, Greta Van Fleet, H.E.R., Margo Price, Bebe Rexha, Jorja Smith, and only one male: Luke Combs). “No matter where you’re from, or your background, or what you believe in, never let that get in the way of you and your dreams, because you deserve it,” she said, holding back tears. One of the women in Lipa’s category, H.E.R., went on to take home the prize for Best R&B Album, further fueling the girl-power vibes of the evening.

It was also a big night for Kacey Musgraves, whose critically-acclaimed Golden Hour took home Album of the Year, the evening’s top honor. She also won three awards in the country-music categories. “I think that women have a really necessary perspective to art, to music, and it’s really nice to see that getting a chance to be included,” she told The Hollywood Reporter, which reports a whopping 31 women took home Grammy Awards last night.

Another one of those women was Lady Gaga, a Grammys staple who used her acceptance speech for Best Pop Duo/Group Performance to make an important statement about mental health. “I’m so proud to be a part of a movie that addresses mental health issues,” she said. “They’re so important. And a lot of artists deal with that, and we’ve got to take care of each other. So if you see somebody that’s hurting don’t look away. And if you’re hurting, even though it might be hard, try to find that bravery within yourself to dive deep and go tell somebody and take them up in your head with you.”

Let’s also not forget that Gaga took the stage alongside Michelle Obama, Jennifer Lopez, Jada Pinkett Smith, and Alicia Keys for a segment that perfectly set the tone for the evening. Each woman gave a soundbite speaking to the healing and universal power of music. “Music has always helped me tell my story, and I know that’s true for everybody here,” Obama said, to the rapturous applause of the audience. Alicia Keys emceed the evening’s festivities, as well—and she crushed it.

And then, of course, there were all the show-stopping performances, the best of which came from female performers. The undisputed highlights were Cardi B’s lavish rendition of “Money” and Gaga’s glam-pop take on “Shallow.”

Of course, we’ve always known that Neil Portnow from The Recording Academy was wrong—women in music have been “stepping it up” for years. But if he still had any doubts, last night certainly shut that down.

Why Good Sex Is So Important for Marginalized Women

As a Black woman, the very act of existing is stressful. We’re only a few weeks into 2019, and the headlines are already reminding me why marginalized folks are exhausted—the news leaves my stomach in knots, social media stresses me the hell out, and I’m constantly feeling gaslit by commentators on TV. I feel the stress of being a Black woman in my bones.

I’ve been looking for an effective coping strategy for years, but the anxiety of being a Black woman is relentless. My brain buzzes on alert with everyday frustrations and painful past memories even when I sleep. “Living in a country that is so heavily steeped in systemic racism impacts our mental health in a number of ways,” says Joy Harden Bradford, Ph.D., founder of Therapy for Black Girls. “The stress that we experience as a result of the often daily micro- and macro-aggressions can lead to increased anxiety, depression, anger, difficulty sleeping, and isolation.”

Exhausted, angry, and frustrated, I recently realized there’s only one situation where I feel totally free of these feelings: after orgasm.

The sweet mental and emotional release of an orgasm is the only thing that seems to help on days where the state of the world leaves me feeling tangled up in knots of anxiety. Seriously—orgasms, whether solo or coupled, have often saved me.

The idea that sex could help provide a salve against the news cycle isn’t totally crazy—we’ve all heard the long list of stress-reducing benefits of orgasm. Resolving to have better sex as a form of self-care, however, felt a little bit like a joke at first. But the more I’ve tried to prioritize good sex, the more I understand just how important it is—especially for marginalized women.

Like many Black women, my relationship with sex is complicated. Catcalls, sexual harassment, objectification, and unwanted sexual attention have all eaten away at my connection to healthy sex as an adult—a familiar reality for many women (no matter the color of their skin) but especially for marginalized women. With few social barriers to protect us, Black women’s trauma is everywhere: A 2018 study conducted by the National Women’s Law Center found Black women file sexual harassment charges at three times the rate of white women.

Growing up, I internalized all of this. Sexuality was something that put you in danger and should be suppressed at all costs. So, I made a sacrifice: fear sex to maintain my (relative) safety.

But I’m learning there is power in prioritizing good sex. “We often ask Black folks, ‘If you don’t have agency over your own body, how do you plan to have political, social, and economic agency?’” say Rafaella Fiallo and Dalychia Saah, founders of Afrosexology. “Reclaiming your body is an act of resistance.” Slowly, I’m learning to let go of the shame hangover I’ve grown to expect after a night of dirty talk or showing off my cleavage. I’m reclaiming my body one orgasm at a time.

I’m not kidding myself—we can’t wash away these systemic issues in a great wave of Black women’s pleasure. But it is a start. “Sex encourages self-love and patience when dealing with oppression by teaching us that we don’t have to put our pleasure—of any kind—in the hands of others,” says Tiffani Lashai Curtis, a sex writer in Philadelphia. We deserve to feel joy, excitement and—you guessed it—pleasure.

The more time I spend working towards good sex, the more I’m feeling the power in other areas of my life. Learning to say no to something I’m not into in bed helps me say no to situations and conversations where I feel unsafe. Learning to ask my partner for exactly what I want is helping me learn to call out relationships where I’m getting less than I deserve. Learning to speak up during sex is teaching me to speak up in life.

Grammys 2019: The Biggest Moments

The 2019 Grammys aired on Sunday night (February 10), and it was a high-energy show. Not only were the performances on-point—I’m still not over Cardi B’s, TBH—but there were some emotional, powerful speeches, not to mention so much epic red-carpet fashion.

Below, check out all the moments you need to know about from the 2019 Grammys:

Lady Gaga, Jada Pinkett Smith, Michelle Obama, Alicia Keys and Jennifer Lopez all graced the stage at the same time. They each talked about how the odds were stacked against them in their respective careers. It was such a badass moment.

Lady Gaga addressing mental health during one of her acceptance speeches. “I’m so proud to be a part of a movie that addresses mental health issues,” she said. “They’re so important. And a lot of artists deal with that, and we’ve got to take care of each other. So if you see somebody that’s hurting don’t look away. And if you’re hurting, even though it might be hard, try to find that bravery within yourself to dive deep and go tell somebody and take them up in your head with you.”

Camila Cabello, J. Balvin, Ricky Martin, and Dr. Arturo Sandoval’s opening performance. Their energetic renditions of “Havana” and “Mi Gente”kicked off the night perfectly.

Kacey Musgraves’ beautiful performance of “Rainbow.” It was simple and powerful. Musgraves’ Golden Hour album is one of the best records of 2018, full stop. Thank God it won the trophies for Best Country Album and Album of the Year.

Janelle Monáe serving production during her performance of “Make Me Feel.” In a sea of mostly acoustic performances, Monáe’s punchy set was a breath of fresh, pop-music air.

Jennifer Lopez’s instantly-iconic hat. It was large and in charge. Twitter couldn’t get enough of it.

Childish Gambino winning Song of the Year and Record of the Year for “This Is America.” So deserved. “This Is America” is arguably the most important piece of music to come out of 2018.

That star-studded Dolly Parton tribute. So many of your faves came out to tribute the Queen of Country, including Katy Perry, Miley Cyrus, and Kacey Musgraves. Parton herself also hit the stage to belt a few of her hits.

Ariana Grande just lounging around in her Grammys dress. She didn’t attend the show, but that didn’t stop her from wearing the custom Zac Posen gown she had prepped.

Cardi B’s performance of “Money.” This was, hands down, the best performance of the evening. Cardi brought out all the stops for this one: a flock of dancers, a piano player, and a show-stopping outfit. We are absolutely bopping and stanning.

Diana Ross’ performance. In celebration of her 75th birthday, Ross sang a medley of her greatest hits while wearing the most fabulous red dress.

Lady Gaga’s chills-inducing rendition of “Shallow.” She went full-on pop star for this performance, wearing a bedazzled jumpsuit and belting the award-winning tune like it was “Bad Romance.” I’m still recovering.

Jennifer Lopez’s tribute to Motown. Choreography! Outfit changes! Literal gymnastics! Someone please tell me why she hasn’t played halftime at the Super Bowl yet.

Cardi B winning Best Rap Album for Invasion of Privacy. She was truly taken aback in her speech, joking her nerves were so bad she’s considering smoking weed. This makes Cardi B the first solo woman to win Best Rap Album.

Dua Lipa winning Best New Artist. She gave one of the most heartfelt speeches of the night. “No matter where you’re from, or your background, or what you believe in, never let that get in the way of you and your dreams, because you deserve it,” she said.

Ariana Grande Didn’t Go to the 2019 Grammys, But She Still Wore Her Zac Posen Gown

While the 2019 Grammys were a star-studded event, there was one pop star noticeably missing: Ariana Grande. She was originally supposed to perform at the ceremony, but pulled out following a creative dispute with the show’s producers—and it caused drama. (You can catch up on all of it here.) But Grande already had a dress picked out—custom made, even—and she wasn’t about to let it hang in her closet, unworn.

On Sunday night, Grande got all dressed up in the gown Zac Posen made for her and staged a photoshoot, presumably in her apartment, to capture all the angles of this look.

“when @zacposen makes u a custom gown it doesn’t matter if you’re singing or not… thank u,” she captioned one image.

Even though she wasn’t in attendance, Grande did take home a Grammy, for Best Pop Vocal Album.

Because she wasn’t there to accept the award in person, she shared her thanks on Instagram: “I know I’m not there tonight (trust, I tried and still truly wished it had worked out TBH) and I know i said I try not to put too much weight into these things …. but fuck …….this is wild and beautiful. Thank you so much.”

The trophy is nice, obviously. But judging by how fun this impromptu shoot looked, Grande had a winning Sunday evening regardless of whether she won her category. May we all bring this energy with us into Monday.

Grammys 2019: Lady Gaga’s Acceptance Speech Addresses Mental Health

Lady Gaga took home took home the award for Best Pop Duo/Group Performance for “Shallow” from A Star Is Born at the 2019 Grammys on Sunday night (February 10), and she used her speech as an opportunity to talk about mental health and the importance of reaching out for help.

“I’m so proud to be a part of a movie that addresses mental health issues,” Gaga said. “They’re so important. And a lot of artists deal with that, and we’ve got to take care of each other. So if you see somebody that’s hurting don’t look away. And if you’re hurting, even though it might be hard, try to find that bravery within yourself to dive deep and go tell somebody and take them up in your head with you.”

Watch Lady Gaga‘s speech for yourself, below:

Fans took to Twitter to applaud Gaga for her candor:

Gaga has been quite open about her struggles with mental health. “One in four of us will have to deal with a mental health condition at some point in our lives, and if we’re not directly affected, someone we care for is likely to be,” Gaga and Dr. Tedros Adhanom Ghebreyesus, the director-general of the World Health Organization, wrote in an essay for The Guardian back in October 2018 . “Yet despite the universality of the issue, we struggle to talk about it openly or to offer adequate care or resources. Within families and communities, we often remain silenced by a shame that tells us that those with mental illness are somehow less worthy or at fault for their own suffering.”

Gaga’s already won three Grammys this evening, two for “Shallow” from A Star Is Born and one for “Joanne (Where Do You Think You’re Goin’?).” “I’m not gonna be able to wear any makeup tonight,” she wrote in an emotional tweet celebrating her wins. A star really is born.

Grammys 2019: Hair and Makeup Looks You Can’t Miss

At this point in the game, we’re deep in awards season—and that means we’ve had plenty of hair and makeup looks to ooh and ah over. Take, for example, the blue eyeshadow at the Golden Globes or affordable beauty moments at the SAGs.

But tonight’s Grammy Awards brought a little something extra to the table. Movie stars always look glam, of course, but women in music tend to have fun with their looks. And where better to show that off than the Grammys? How could we forget Gaga’s iconic egg entrance or Alicia Keys’ makeup free statement? (Which, by the way, she did again tonight.) We can only expect more iconic looks that will have people talking for years to come.

Between Cardi B’s braided updo and Dua Lipa’s statement mani, there have been plenty of looks that’ve made us shout at our TV. Check out our favorite looks from the night, below. We’ll be adding more details as they roll in throughout the evening.

Taylor Swift Skipped the 2019 Grammys—and She Did It Wearing Stella McCartney

Taylor Swift‘s sixth studio album, Reputation, was only nominated in one category at the 2019 Grammys. (It lost early in the evening, to Ariana Grande’s Sweetner.) That didn’t stop the singer from enjoying her Sunday, however—in fact, she still found a reason to wear a red carpet dress.

Swift chose to spend her award show Sunday across the pond in London, attending after parties for the British Academy of Film and Television Arts Awards, or the BAFTAs. She was there to celebrate The Favorite, which boyfriend Joe Alwyn appears in. (Kate Middleton was in attendance, too.) Though she didn’t walk the red carpet, we know she wore a stunning white gown… How? Well, she shared a glamorous, behind-the-scenes update herself on Instagram.

“AHHHHH @thefavouritemovie just won 7 @bafta awards !!! Bout to go give some high fives,” Swift wrote. “Thanks @stellamccartney for this dresss.”

You might remember Stella McCartney as the British label also responsible for designing Meghan Markle’s second wedding dress. Swift’s BAFTA gown featured a plunging neckline and a tulle skirt—almost reminiscent of her Fearless era. She accessorized with Rupert Sanderson shoes and Delfina Delettrez jewelry.

It’s not the first time Swift has showed up to support Alwyn’s awards season run: In January, she snuck into the Golden Globes to present an award, and stuck around for an after party. She wore a black Versace gown on that occasion.

With the Oscars two weeks away, we have reason to believe that Swift will make another subtle appearance at the ceremony. (The Favourite is nominated yet again for several awards.) Fingers are crossed she walks the red carpet next time—her recent fashion choices, and unbothered attitude, belong in the spotlight.

Chrissy Teigen Managed to Troll The Grammys, Without Even Being There

Fact: Chrissy Teigen is the queen of going viral at award shows. Remember the 2015 Golden Globes, when her awkward crying face was given the meme treatment? Or the following year, when Stacey Dash made a surprise appearance at the Oscars and Teigen’s shocked expression nearly broke the Internet? Teigen isn’t even attending tonight’s Grammy Awards, but it should come as no surprise that she still managed to hilariously troll the event.

Teigen decided to still get glammed up while she watched the award show at home with her husband, John Legend—who she mocked on Twitter by saying, “no Grammys for us today. John got and EGOT an egot lazy.” (We stan a clever word pun.)

Then Teigen posted a series of Instagram stories as she went through her makeup routine, all while wearing one of her signature towels. She also wrote about her videos on Twitter, saying, “Just did a not-going-to-the-grammys makeup tutorial on my stories if you are so bored you wanna die,” she said. Teigen followed it up with, “I have had…4 wines.” Enjoy that Sunday fun day, Chrissy.

Some of Teigen’s tips included putting concealer all over your face, then rubbing it in—and in typical Teigen fashion she suggested to “make sure you don’t care too much.” Teigen also gave her best tricks for doing her cheeks and eyelashes, before joking, “If anyone is watching this… I pity you.”

The final result was “not-going-to-the-grammys”—or for the rest of us, stay-at-home on a Sunday—goals. Here’s hoping Teigen will grace us with more of her beauty secrets on the ‘gram. Maybe her eye routine for makeup that won’t run while you’re chopping onions? The only look you need for juggling two children? Or the best foundation to wear while trolling John Legend? I’ll be ready for it, with my notebook out taking down notes from my new favorite beauty blogger.

Grammys 2019: Lady Gaga and Ryan Seacrest Had an Awkward Red Carpet Moment

The 2019 Grammys is shaping up to be big night for Lady Gaga, who took home two awards before the show even started. However, the evening got off to a slightly awkward start thanks to a fumble during her interview with Ryan Seacrest. To be clear, it was totally benign—that doesn’t make it any less funny, though.

Here’s what happened: During their chat, Seacrest listed off all the impressive milestones Gaga has accomplished this year and still has to come. “Next is the Oscars, and a live performance with Bradley [Cooper] at the Oscars,” he said before pointing the mic toward Gaga. But he never actually asked her a question, and Gaga called him out for it.

“You’re like, ‘Answer my question but I’m not asking one,'” she said, laughing. Seacrest seemed to be in good spirits, as well, saying, “I’m just acknowledging all the success and the talent.”

He ended the interview with an attempt to make light of the flub. “And here’s me not asking a question: We’ll be right back,” Seacrest said. Gaga just stood there with her mouth agape and looking around like she was confused. It’s unclear if she was actually stunned or just playing along with Seacrest. Eventually, she looked at the camera one last time and said to the audience “We’ll see you later.” Live television, folks! What can I say?

Check out the video for yourself, below:

Twitter can’t get enough of this moment. Here are just a few reactions:

“I’m not gonna be able to wear any makeup tonight,” Gaga wrote on Twitter after she won her first Grammy of the evening. “We just won our first of Grammy nominations for the night. I’m in tears with honor and gratitude. Thank you @RecordingAcad #Grammys #Grammy and my co-writers and Bradley I love you so much thank you.”

Grammys 2019: All the Looks From the Red Carpet

The Grammys aren’t just the biggest night in music—they’re one of the most consistently epic red carpets in Hollywood. This is the event that gave us Rihanna’s 2015 Giambattista Valli princess gown, Lady Gaga’s 2010 interstellar Armani Privé ensemble, and, of course, Jennifer Lopez’s 2000 plunging Versace dress. (Here’s a refresher on the most talked-about Grammys looks of awards season of all time.) And with J.Lo, Cardi B, and more big names slated to attend the 2019 event, you know the red carpet is going to be major.

At the Grammys 2019, this tradition of head-turning style is still going strong—with Camila Cabello in a magenta sequined gown, Kacey Musgraves in a white tulle dress, and Alessia Cara in a black lace gown. Ahead, check out every single look from the red carpet, and take your guess as to which one will make it into the fashion history books.