Who doesn’t get a little turned on when their partner joins them in the shower? The cascading water, the steam, the delicious aromas wafting through the air, and the spanking clean, naked skin are total aphrodisiacs. But let’s be real: shower sex ain’t easy to pull off. All the same things that make it so hot—the slipperiness, the crammed quarters—also make it logistically challenging. To get it on without slipping and sliding all over the place, try one of these 10 shower sex positions.

How to do it: Lean back against the shower wall while your partner stands in front of you—then wrap one leg around their waist (or ask them to hold the back of your knee in the crook of their elbow to make this move a little easier on you). From this angle, they can penetrate you, finger you, use a waterproof vibrator, or do pretty much whatever your heart (and body) desires.

Why it works: You’ve got support in two places—the wall and your partner’s arms—so a tumble out of the tub is unlikely. Plus, this position allows you to have sex face-to-face, which is nice because it’s so intimate (and you get a good view).

How to do it: Put your palms against the shower wall, leaning toward it at a 45-degree angle with your knees slightly bent for comfort. Your partner can then penetrate you from behind or reach around to play with your clitoris or breasts—or, even better, all of the above.

Why it works: This is considered one of the go-to shower sex positions for a reason: You’re secure between the wall and your partner, which leaves you free to focus on the sensations instead of worrying about slipping.

How to do it: Have your partner take a seat with their butt on the tub’s base and their legs stretched out, then straddle them for any version of woman-on-top sex that you prefer.

Why it works: Woman-on-top sex lets you control the pace and intensity. Bonus: The water hitting your back will keep you nice and warm.

How to do it: Stand with one leg bent onto the rim of the tub to keep your balance (Captain Morgan-style), and have your partner sit between your legs and go down on you.

Why it works: Admittedly, this position comes with the most risk—a wet foot placed on the edge of a slippery tub could send you flying out of said tub—so proceed with extreme caution and dry feet. But done right, this angle can feel divine. The leg up lets you spread your legs apart so your partner can hit just the right spots.

How to do it: Your partner takes full control, picking you up and holding you midair as you wrap your legs around their waist for a steamy makeout session. While it can be a little bit of a workout, it’s well worth the effort.

Why it works: This position will feel ultra sexy with the water coming down around you both. Plus, since you’re face to face, you can let your hands wander wherever they please.

How to do it: With your partner behind you and you bent over, drop your head toward your toes and lift one leg into a standing split, just like you’d do in yoga class. (This one’s not easy, we know, so proceed with extreme caution). Leave your raised leg resting on your partner’s chest so they can please you from behind with their hands, penis, or toy.

Isn’t It Romantic—the highly-anticipated rom-com parody starring Rebel Wilson, Priyanka Chopra, and Liam Hemsworth—hits theaters today. It centers on Natalie (Wilson), a woman who finds herself trapped inside a romantic comedy—and all the cringe-y tropes that come with it. You know exactly what we’re talking about: In this alternate universe, Natalie has an apartment far too expensive for a twenty-something, a gay best friend who is just there to help move the plot along, and a love interest so hot, nothing else matters.

But don’t mistake Isn’t It Romantic for the rom-coms of 2003. The brains behind this movie are acutely aware these tropes exist—that’s why they included them. The director (Todd Strauss-Schulson) and screenwriters (Erin Cardillo, Dana Fox, and Katie Silberman) actually subvert stereotypes in Isn’t It Romantic and, as a result, bring the genre into 2019.

Of course, this required some research, but Strauss-Schulson, Cardillo, Fox, and Silberman soon became experts in romantic comedy tropes. Below, they tell us which ones they enjoy—and which ones they were most excited to poke fun at—in Isn’t It Romantic.

Todd Strauss-Schulson, Director:

Before I got on set to direct Isn’t it Romantic, I watched 80 romantic comedies in a row. I went a little insane, but my heart grew more and more tender by the day. Obviously, I’d seen romantic comedies before, but I wanted to become an expert. The idea was to crack the code and see what story and visual tropes were used over and over again.

I wanted to break the rom-com genome and isolate the textures and tropes, so I could rebuild them into something modern and fresh for our movie. I found a lot of weird stuff beyond the well-known “gay best friend who has no purpose in life but to care for the main character” and “trying on clothes montage” tropes. For instance, did you know there is a lot of shellfish eaten in romantic comedies? It’s true, but why? Maybe because shellfish is an aphrodisiac? Who knows, but it’s in a lot of ’em.

One of the most consistent visual tropes—and when I say consistent I mean I was straight up spooked when I kept seeing it repeat in every movie—was: half moon windows. Like this:

Everywhere I turned, there they were. In the offices of Bridget Jones, Working Girl, and What Women Want. At a restaurant in Picture Perfect. Front and center in the apartments in When Harry Met Sally and Made of Honor.

So I did a little deep dive, and I found two interesting potential answers. First, half moon windows are also referred to as lunettes, and Merriam-Webster says there is some evidence of the word being used for a “little moon.” (Though that meaning is now obsolete.) The moon is often associated with having a deep connection with women, and so it makes sense they would be subliminally placed all over this particular genre.

In Tarot, arches symbolize beginnings, initiations, and ceremonies of renewal. Walking through an archway represents the sloughing off of the old and moving into a new phase of life. That sounds a lot like a rom-com plot to me! These characters are opening up to love, getting out of their comfort zone…and maybe even getting married.

Moons have cycles—and so do genres. Rom-coms are coming back, and we hope Isn’t It Romantic becomes one of your new favorites.

Erin Cardillo, Screenwriter:

My favorite rom-com trope is “The Realize and Run.” As in, “When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.” (Thank you, Harry. See: Nora Ephron.) Back before cell phones existed, this trope made sense. You suddenly realize you’re in love with somebody—after being a dingbat about it for the better part of the movie—but you can’t call them to tell them because landlines are stupid. Plus, they aren’t home. In fact, your somebody is probably at the airport having just passed through security, ready to board that flight to “I’m never coming back, and you can’t track me down.” Or, in most cases, they are in a nondenominational church about to marry the wrong person and they’re totally against annulment.

So you must run. Fast! Cars are just as stupid as phones. Luckily, you don’t have a bad back—or if you do, it was designed that way for comedic effect. Nevertheless, you can run, and you are capable of traversing whatever absurd obstacles are in your path. You have to do this! This is the closest thing to an action sequence the audience is going to get in most rom-coms, and it’s essential to get them reinvested in your happy ending before your big, perfect “I love you” speech. A speech that, while often flawed and totally cliché, is, after your epic run, still pretty freakin’ satisfying.

“People wanted to forget”

At age 82, Valerie Ross Manokey knows that her memory is fading a bit. But the retired teacher’s aide in Cambridge, Maryland, who is Tubman’s great-grandniece, becomes animated when recalling bits of family lore. “We know Harriet was born nearby—we say ‘down the country’ because the area is not that big,” she says of Dorchester County, a rural enclave on Maryland’s eastern shore. “She was very intelligent, very kind, and worked very, very hard just to survive.” Manokey has held her own grandchildren in rapt attention with stories passed down by her maternal ancestors. “There was one place where my aunt and [fugitive slaves] were,” she says. “The soldiers were coming through and they had to hide. The house had an opening in the floor, and they all climbed down to hide until the soldiers left.”

The painful legacy of slavery meant stories often did not survive from generation to generation. “Grandma said that when their family members came out of slavery, people didn’t really want to talk about all of that,” Tina says. “She said people wanted to forget. They just wanted to move forward.”

Tina kept her lineage private for years. “Once, when I was very young, I told someone I was related to Harriet, and they said, ‘Oh yeah, well maybe my father is the president of the United States,’” she remembers. “That told me, ‘OK, zip your lips, be quiet, don’t tell anybody ever again.’” She stayed quiet until high school. “A teacher was teaching black history. It was something that we really fought for: a curriculum change to reflect the times; we wanted to know about our own history, and for it to be taught in our own schools. And she came up to me as we were changing classes, and asked, ‘Is it true that Harriet Tubman is your relative?’ I just stood there looking at her like, ‘Where’d you get that from? I’ve never told anybody.’ I just said yes and then I scurried off,” she says. It wasn’t until years later, when a family member was researching their history, that she started opening up about it more.

“She was humble…but powerful beyond measure”

For years Lauren Jillian Wyatt, great-great-great-great-grandniece of Tubman, and Tina’s daughter, didn’t reveal her ties to Tubman either. “I feared people would question its truth,” says the 32-year-old fashion consultant and writer in Washington, D.C. “I would imagine them searching the surface of my face—dissecting the width of my nose, the tint of my skin, the shape of my eyes—trying to find something reminiscent of this giant woman in me.” But Lauren always felt a deep connection to Aunt Harriet’s spirit, “especially the warrior in her—the steadfast, strategic fighter who wholeheartedly loved her people and did all she could through the conviction of a purpose beyond her own,” she says. “This not only enabled her to impact her own life and that of her family, but her entire surrounding and extended communities for generations to come.”

Tina believes new efforts to remember Tubman’s legacy are vital. “The impact of having Harriet Tubman on the $20 bill would recognize a need and send a message of healing,” she says of the Obama Administration proposal, in 2016, to put the abolitionist hero on the third most commonly used bill in America. While the Trump Administration has put the idea on hold, U.S. representatives Elijah Cummings (D–Md.) and John Katko (R–N.Y.) recently reintroduced bipartisan legislation in Congress that aims to revive the currency effort.

“She was a leader who has earned the right to be on the bill,” says Tina. “We have to remember when this country was formed, it was done so within a racially segregated, male-dominated society. Women were not allowed any titled or lead roles or consideration; black women were not even thought of.” For Lauren, the lessons of Tubman’s work—including how she advocated for women’s voting rights and provided care to the aged, infirm, and homeless—are essential in 2019. “The balance of responsibility. The risk and reward in loving all people, but especially her own people unselfishly,” she ticks off the list. “Being guided by an inherent and deeply rooted faith. Having an unwavering conviction regarding equality, justice, and economic opportunity…. She was humble and dignified, but powerful beyond measure.”

The phrase “late-term abortion” is everywhere lately. It’s not exactly new, but it’s lighting a wildfire of renewed controversy, thanks to comments from politicians that have led to inflammatory comparisons to infanticide. Naturally, people have a lot of questions, so we asked a board-certified OB-GYN to set the record straight.

The first thing you need to know: There isn’t actually an agreed-upon definition of what counts as “late”—that’s not how doctors talk about abortions. “In medicine we talk about pregnancy in terms of ‘trimesters,'” says Jennifer Conti, M.D., a board-certified OB-GYN, fellow with Physicians for Reproductive Health, and host of “The V Word” podcast.

This is important. Doctors base their decisions on a precise set of factors—the health of the fetus, the health of the woman, and the exact trimester and week of the pregnancy—not an arbitrary idea of what “late” means. “The way that they have crafted this language on the anti-choice side is strategic,” Dr. Conti says. “It’s meant to intentionally cause uncertainty; when we hear [‘late-term abortion’] we don’t know if that refers to someone that is periviable”—which is the very delicate gray area between 20 and 25 weeks of pregnancy where a fetus may or may not survive outside the womb—”or if you’re referring to the third trimester.”

That’s a massively important distinction, Dr. Conti says. Doctors treating a pregnant woman with serious complications at 30 weeks would likely consider a pre-term delivery—not an abortion. “That’s a very different situation than 25 weeks pregnant, which is closer to what we traditionally think of as ‘viability,’ where the fetus has a lower chance of surviving and an even lower chance of living a life that’s not severely impacted by medical conditions,” she says. The vague idea of “late-term abortion” is meant to “conjure up the image of someone in the throws of labor asking for an abortion and ‘evil’ abortion doctors coming and doing that,” she says. “That would never happen.”

The answer depends on where you live. Forty-three states prohibit abortions after a specified point in pregnancy (everywhere except Alaska, Colorado, Washington, D.C., New Hampshire, New Jersey, New Mexico, Oregon, and Vermont). But exactly when that point is varies by state.

24-28 Weeks

Arizona, California, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Hawaii, Idaho, Illinois, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Missouri, Montana, Nevada, New York, Pennsylvania, Tennessee, Utah, Virginia, Washington, Wyoming.

Twenty-three states ban abortions after viability outside the womb—that gray area that providers define as the period between 24 and 28 weeks. There are exceptions—endangerment to the woman’s life or health, cases of rape or incest, and fetal abnormality—but these also vary by state.

While most states define the cut off vaguely as viability, five states (Florida, Massachusetts, Nevada, New York, and Pennsylvania) draw the line at 24 weeks and beyond. (Virginia bans abortions in the third trimester, which begins at 27 weeks.)

20 Weeks

Alabama, Arkansas, Georgia, Indiana, Iowa, Kansas, Kentucky, Louisiana, Mississippi, Nebraska, North Carolina, North Dakota, Ohio, Oklahoma, South Carolina, South Dakota, Texas, West Virginia, Wisconsin.

Nineteen states ban abortion after 20 weeks, which is before what medical experts have deemed the point of “fetal viability.” This is somewhat confusing since 20 weeks isn’t a significant milestone in fetal development, according to the American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. Instead, many of these laws are based on concerns about “fetal pain,” but experts say pain is not possible at that stage of fetal development.