Unrequited Love Is a Good Idea, or the Case for One-Sided Crushes

Your first crush is a rite of passage. The fixations that follow it are just life. Nervous, awkward, sublime. Disastrous. Transcendent. Here, we celebrate infatuations, obsessions, and passions in all their exquisite splendor. Meet our It’s Just a Little Crush series. Isn’t she divine?

The first crush I remember was on Miss Debbie, my nursery school teacher. She was pretty and had a bowl haircut that I found extremely fetching when I was three. She was nice, and she taught us how to sing and dance and clean up after ourselves, and I was smitten. She also had a fondness for a pussybow blouse and a long skirt. Who wouldn’t adore such a maven of fashion and important life skills?

Later, I would have crushes on such diverse individuals as the animated He-Man, two out of five Kids in the Hall, Britney Spears, Rami Malek, this guy who showed me how to tie a rope harness during climbing class in gym, Hayley Kiyoko, my onetime best friend’s onetime boyfriend, this random actor who consistently watches my Instagram stories yet never talks to me, a nerdy senior in college when I was a gawky freshman, Keanu Reeves, Mahershala Ali, an elfin actress I decided I could magically make queer through the power of my personality (surprisingly, this did not work), and like 80,000 other people.

Crushes don’t have to be reciprocal to be fun, energizing, enjoyable, and beneficial to your overall health. They don’t have to become dates, hookups, committed relationships, or romantic liaisons of any kind. While I’ve been delighted that a few of my crushes have turned into real relationships, I’ve had fun with crushes that never made it past the fantasy stage. I kept to appropriate boundaries—thrilled to the cuteness, smartness and general awesomeness of somebody from afar—and then eventually got over it without going into some desperate state of pining. (Let’s save the pining for folks we really love, okay?) The point is I recommend this! The unrequited crush, that is. Allow me to explain.

Crushes give you a reason to go to work

Or to school, or the gym, or the DMV, or the grocery store…you get the idea. Crushes can enliven your boring routine, put a little pep in your step, and transform your daily walk past the office coffee maker into something extraordinary because that guy sits right by it! You get that hit of endorphins or dopamine or pixie dust or whatever your brain releases when somebody hot smiles at you, and suddenly your post-lunch energy slump becomes a marvelous moment of motivation.

Crushes make you take more care with your appearance

A crush should enhance your interest in what you wear and how you present yourself, and that’s a good thing! I’m not talking about unhealthy obsessions with weight, the whiteness of your teeth, the color of your hair, the length of your nails, or anything that leads you to engage in unnecessary self-criticism. I’m talking about taking genuine pleasure in learning a new makeup technique or using a new hair product because you want to feel cute and dammit, you’re not going to let anything stop you! And whether or not your crush takes notice, you will feel prettier and maybe even sexier.

Crushes are hilarious

Think about it: crushes are ridiculous. You’ll try to interpret the meaning of his choice in t-shirts, or try to clock her moods based on how she styled her hair that day. You’ll notice the music she blasts behind the counter of the coffee bar, or try to figure out his astrological sign so you can put it through some pseudoscientific website feature that will auto-generate an explanation of what kind of sex you’d have. (Yes, I have done this—more than once. Have a problem?) In this weary old world, we all need a bit more silliness and goofiness in our day-to-day lives, so why not give ourselves the chance to giggle over a random online quiz that purports to predict your chance for a long-term marriage with a near-stranger? Enjoy yourself!

As long as you stick to appropriate boundaries and don’t bother, intimidate, harass or otherwise creep out that cutie patootie, a little unrequited love should be a fun bit of mental recreation with the positive side effect of providing fuel for the occasional masturbatory session. At some point it’ll pass, and you’ll move on to the next FedEx hottie, or KPop star, or chick who sometimes runs at the park at the same time you do. Look at that, a double endorphin rush!

Sara Benincasa is a stand-up comedian and author of Real Artists Have Day Jobs. Follow her @SaraJBenincasa.

10 Steamy Shower Sex Positions to Try Tonight

Who doesn’t get a little turned on when their partner joins them in the shower? The cascading water, the steam, the delicious aromas wafting through the air, and the spanking clean, naked skin are total aphrodisiacs. But let’s be real: shower sex ain’t easy to pull off. All the same things that make it so hot—the slipperiness, the crammed quarters—also make it logistically challenging. To get it on without slipping and sliding all over the place, try one of these 10 shower sex positions.

How to do it: Lean back against the shower wall while your partner stands in front of you—then wrap one leg around their waist (or ask them to hold the back of your knee in the crook of their elbow to make this move a little easier on you). From this angle, they can penetrate you, finger you, use a waterproof vibrator, or do pretty much whatever your heart (and body) desires.

Why it works: You’ve got support in two places—the wall and your partner’s arms—so a tumble out of the tub is unlikely. Plus, this position allows you to have sex face-to-face, which is nice because it’s so intimate (and you get a good view).

How to do it: Put your palms against the shower wall, leaning toward it at a 45-degree angle with your knees slightly bent for comfort. Your partner can then penetrate you from behind or reach around to play with your clitoris or breasts—or, even better, all of the above.

Why it works: This is considered one of the go-to shower sex positions for a reason: You’re secure between the wall and your partner, which leaves you free to focus on the sensations instead of worrying about slipping.

How to do it: Have your partner take a seat with their butt on the tub’s base and their legs stretched out, then straddle them for any version of woman-on-top sex that you prefer.

Why it works: Woman-on-top sex lets you control the pace and intensity. Bonus: The water hitting your back will keep you nice and warm.

How to do it: Stand with one leg bent onto the rim of the tub to keep your balance (Captain Morgan-style), and have your partner sit between your legs and go down on you.

Why it works: Admittedly, this position comes with the most risk—a wet foot placed on the edge of a slippery tub could send you flying out of said tub—so proceed with extreme caution and dry feet. But done right, this angle can feel divine. The leg up lets you spread your legs apart so your partner can hit just the right spots.

How to do it: Your partner takes full control, picking you up and holding you midair as you wrap your legs around their waist for a steamy makeout session. While it can be a little bit of a workout, it’s well worth the effort.

Why it works: This position will feel ultra sexy with the water coming down around you both. Plus, since you’re face to face, you can let your hands wander wherever they please.

How to do it: With your partner behind you and you bent over, drop your head toward your toes and lift one leg into a standing split, just like you’d do in yoga class. (This one’s not easy, we know, so proceed with extreme caution). Leave your raised leg resting on your partner’s chest so they can please you from behind with their hands, penis, or toy.

Miley Cyrus Wrote a Hilarious Valentine’s Day Message to Liam Hemsworth

Miley Cyrus kicked off her first Valentine’s Day married to Liam Hemsworth in the most Miley Cyrus way: by posting a hilarious meme.

The “Nothing Breaks Like a Heart” singer took to Instagram Stories Wednesday night (February 13) and posted a throwback photo of herself from the Bangerz Tour with the caption, “When it’s Valentine’s Day and bae says hi.” She also tagged Hemsworth and wrote “Love u.” When you see the photo, you’ll instantly understand why it’s funny.

Check out the meme for yourself, below:

Here’s the original photo, which was taken in Dublin back in May 2014. Ahhh, simpler times—when Cyrus’ stage prop of choice was a foam finger and she slid down a giant tongue at the top of her show. Take me back.

This isn’t the only racy message Miley Cyrus has sent Liam Hemsworth this week. On Monday, she attended the premiere of Hemsworth’s new movie Isn’t It Romantic by herself because he was sick, and she posted to Instagram, “Getting sick blows. But so do I. Get well soon babe. I love you.” Listen, everyone jumps out in February! It’s scientific fact.

Cyrus and Hemsworth tied the knot back in December, and they’ve made a few appearances together since then. Last month, they attended the G’Day USA Gala, where Hemsworth praised Cyrus while accepting the Excellence in Film Award. “Thank you to my beautiful wife,” he said. “You are a sweet, sweet angel.”

And just a few days before this, Cyrus wrote the sweetest note to Hemsworth for his birthday. “I love those little lines around your eyes when you laugh or look into the sun…. I love the way we speak in our own language. Sometimes with just a look,” she wrote on Instagram. “I love laying on the couch eating Chinese when we’re hung over from the night before. I love going to a random party and remembering basically everyone is fake AF out here and how lucky I am to share a life with someone so REAL. I love the way you always listen & the way that you care… (Even when it’s about RuPaul’s Drag Race.) I love having a teeth brushin’ partner & when I’m lazy how you’ll comb my hair.”

Alexis Ohanian on the Secret to His Marriage to Serena Williams: “You Have to Show Up.”

Glamour asked me to talk about “going big” when it comes to romance. I’ve done a few things that you may have seen on social media—things that have gotten me plenty of teasing from my friends, as well as other husbands on the Internet who’ve said I’m making them look bad. It started when I put up some billboards for my wife, aka the “GMOAT” (greatest mom of all time), to celebrate her first tournament after having our daughter, Alexis Olympia Ohanian Jr. I made a video showcasing her journey returning to tennis around the U.S. Open. And then there was that trip to Italy—she had a craving, so I delivered her to Venezia.

I get it; these are pretty extravagant gestures. But I think if you were to ask my wife, or many other people in relationships, it’s often the simpler things that are the most important. You have to show up. You have to be supportive. These are the things that matter.

I credit my parents with a lot of what I’ve learned about partnership and relationships. My father, who’s Armenian, and my mother, who came from what was then West Germany, met in Ireland and spent a whirlwind two weeks together. Even though my dad didn’t speak any German and my mom only spoke basic English, they fell in love. She followed my father to America and worked as an au pair, ultimately overstaying her visa, and actually living in the U.S. undocumented for a while until they got married. My mom had to hit reset on her whole life. In Germany, she was almost credentialed to be a pharmacist. Here in the U.S., she had to start over and get her GED while working a ton of service and restaurant jobs. Then she opted to work nights as a pharmacy technician—not a pharmacist—just so she’d be able to be around when I came home from school. Meanwhile, my father logged long hours to put food on the table and give us the best life he possibly could.

It wasn’t always easy, but my parents were partners in the truest sense. By watching them up close, I learned what it means to be supportive, how to make compromises without sacrificing yourself, and how to show up in the ways that matter. Whether it was being proud parents at my football games, or organizing family road-trips for weekend getaways to Civil War battlefields or antiquing (the former was my dad’s favorite, the latter my mom’s; at the time I found them boring, but appreciate those memories now). In short, I got the cheat code for partnership early on.

When you’re married to the GOAT, the logistics alone can make the act of physically “showing up” a challenge. Serena’s tennis schedule takes her all over the world, and my career also requires being on the road, whether it’s traveling to meet with founders, speaking at industry events, or spending time at my venture capital firm, Initialized’s home office in San Francisco. Comparing calendars isn’t romantic, but at the start of every year, Serena and I map out our schedules so ideally there isn’t more than a week that we go without seeing each other. I brought Google Calendar into her world so we could see each other’s schedules at any time, which would also make it easier to plan an impromptu call if we’re away from each other—a day without FaceTime is rough when you’ve been away from each other for two weeks.

My understanding of showing up and being present for my wife was taken to a whole new level when Olympia was born. I was able to take 16 weeks of paid leave from Reddit, and it was one of the most important decisions I’ve made. It helped that I was a founder and didn’t have to worry about what people might say about my “commitment” to the company, but it was incredible to be able to spend quality time with Olympia. And it was perhaps even more meaningful to be there for my wife and to adjust to this new life we created together—especially after all the complications she had during and after the birth. There is a lot of research about the benefits of taking leave, not only for the cognitive and emotional development of the child, but for the couple. However, many fathers in this country are not afforded the privilege of parental leave. And even when they are, there is often a stigma that prevents them from doing so. I see taking leave as one of the most fundamental ways to “show up” for your partner and your family, and I cherished all 16 weeks I was able to take.

Since I came back from leave, I’m less “full-time dad” and more what I like to call “business dad.” When Serena has an intense day of training or a photo shoot, I’ll spend the day with Olympia. I’m fortunate to be my own boss, which comes with the freedoms of doing things like bringing my daughter into the office, or working remotely from virtually anywhere Serena competes. My partners at Initialized are used to seeing Olympia jump on camera—along with Qai Qai—or hearing her babbling on a call. I tell them with pride, “Olympia’s at work today!” And I’ll post some photos on Instagram or Twitter so my followers can see it, too.

The more we normalize this—on social media and in real life—the better, because I know this kind of dynamic makes a lot of men uncomfortable (and selfishly I want Olympia to hear me talking about startups!). Research shows that men are happy to have successful wives—until it interferes with their own work. A full 50 percent of men expect their careers to take precedence over their wives’. I know this is real, because I’ve seen the tweets and comments about how being less successful (or doing what is traditionally considered “women’s work” and caring for your kids) can be “emasculating.” To me, that says more about the guy than anything else. If you need to make more money than your partner to have confidence, then I think there’s something more going on under the hood. If that’s where your swagger’s gotta come from, then it’s probably not real.

I know I’ve been successful in my career, but I’m not the one racking up the trophies. It helps that my wife and I both know what it takes to be successful and bring that mutual understanding, drive and relentlessness to the table. But at the end of the day sometimes her career really does have to come first. I try to be the most supportive partner I can be and to have conversations with her about her career goals and what she can do to reach them. Most of my talks with Serena about her career have come from a place of, “What do you want to be doing?” or “Where do you want to be?” and that’s not only in sport, but in life. She does the same with me. I’m far from perfect, but I try to get behind her and let her know I’m there for her and our daughter, no matter what.

While I don’t have anything extravagant planned at the moment (or if I did, I wouldn’t tell you!), I will always try to show my wife how much I appreciate and support her. As an entrepreneur, one of my big mantras is to surprise and delight. I guess I’ve applied that in some way to romance, and if I can think of a way to top myself, I’ll keep pulling out the stops.

But the real scoop on “going big” for my wife would never go viral—it’s our simple Sunday tradition. Growing up, my dad would make pancakes every Sunday. They were delicious, but it wasn’t just about the food. It was about being together. So on Sunday mornings, I make breakfast for the family and it doesn’t cost me a thing, except for gluten-free flour (I had to modify Dad’s recipe a bit), some eggs, almond milk, a secret ingredient, and berries (Olympia loves raspberries). There are no phones, just conversation. And we’ll spend the day together lounging around the house, or playing hide-and-seek, or going for a swim in the pool. Just being a family on those days means so much to both of us—more than a billboard, a video montage, or a whirlwind trip to Italy. And before you ask: No, I won’t tell you my pancake recipe.

Alexis Ohanian is the co-founder and managing partner of Initialized Capital, an early stage venture firm based in San Francisco with over 100 companies in its portfolio, with over $22B in market value, and $508 million in committed capital under management. He’s also the co-founder of Reddit.

Black-Owned Beauty Brands That Are Changing the Game

There’s no doubt about it: the last few years have ushered in a whole new standard of diversity and inclusivity within the beauty industry. Thanks to Fenty Beauty’s complete disruption, more and more brands—from new indie names and legacy brands alike—have had to rise to the occasion, expanding their product offerings to accommodate women of color, black women in particular.

And while that industry-wide growth is surely noteworthy, it’s also important to recognize that black folks have provided for their communities long before Fenty, and continue to do so to this very day. Now there are more black-owned beauty brands than ever before addressing the specific needs of women of color, along with products suitable for any and everyone, like non-toxic menstrual hygiene products and SPF that won’t leave a trace.

Here, we’ve rounded up 18 of those brands, promising something for everyone to obsess over.

Isn’t It Romantic Director and Screenwriters Talk Romantic Comedy Tropes

Isn’t It Romantic—the highly-anticipated rom-com parody starring Rebel Wilson, Priyanka Chopra, and Liam Hemsworth—hits theaters today. It centers on Natalie (Wilson), a woman who finds herself trapped inside a romantic comedy—and all the cringe-y tropes that come with it. You know exactly what we’re talking about: In this alternate universe, Natalie has an apartment far too expensive for a twenty-something, a gay best friend who is just there to help move the plot along, and a love interest so hot, nothing else matters.

But don’t mistake Isn’t It Romantic for the rom-coms of 2003. The brains behind this movie are acutely aware these tropes exist—that’s why they included them. The director (Todd Strauss-Schulson) and screenwriters (Erin Cardillo, Dana Fox, and Katie Silberman) actually subvert stereotypes in Isn’t It Romantic and, as a result, bring the genre into 2019.

Of course, this required some research, but Strauss-Schulson, Cardillo, Fox, and Silberman soon became experts in romantic comedy tropes. Below, they tell us which ones they enjoy—and which ones they were most excited to poke fun at—in Isn’t It Romantic.

Todd Strauss-Schulson, Director:

Before I got on set to direct Isn’t it Romantic, I watched 80 romantic comedies in a row. I went a little insane, but my heart grew more and more tender by the day. Obviously, I’d seen romantic comedies before, but I wanted to become an expert. The idea was to crack the code and see what story and visual tropes were used over and over again.

I wanted to break the rom-com genome and isolate the textures and tropes, so I could rebuild them into something modern and fresh for our movie. I found a lot of weird stuff beyond the well-known “gay best friend who has no purpose in life but to care for the main character” and “trying on clothes montage” tropes. For instance, did you know there is a lot of shellfish eaten in romantic comedies? It’s true, but why? Maybe because shellfish is an aphrodisiac? Who knows, but it’s in a lot of ’em.

One of the most consistent visual tropes—and when I say consistent I mean I was straight up spooked when I kept seeing it repeat in every movie—was: half moon windows. Like this:

Everywhere I turned, there they were. In the offices of Bridget Jones, Working Girl, and What Women Want. At a restaurant in Picture Perfect. Front and center in the apartments in When Harry Met Sally and Made of Honor.

So I did a little deep dive, and I found two interesting potential answers. First, half moon windows are also referred to as lunettes, and Merriam-Webster says there is some evidence of the word being used for a “little moon.” (Though that meaning is now obsolete.) The moon is often associated with having a deep connection with women, and so it makes sense they would be subliminally placed all over this particular genre.

In Tarot, arches symbolize beginnings, initiations, and ceremonies of renewal. Walking through an archway represents the sloughing off of the old and moving into a new phase of life. That sounds a lot like a rom-com plot to me! These characters are opening up to love, getting out of their comfort zone…and maybe even getting married.

Moons have cycles—and so do genres. Rom-coms are coming back, and we hope Isn’t It Romantic becomes one of your new favorites.

Erin Cardillo, Screenwriter:

My favorite rom-com trope is “The Realize and Run.” As in, “When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.” (Thank you, Harry. See: Nora Ephron.) Back before cell phones existed, this trope made sense. You suddenly realize you’re in love with somebody—after being a dingbat about it for the better part of the movie—but you can’t call them to tell them because landlines are stupid. Plus, they aren’t home. In fact, your somebody is probably at the airport having just passed through security, ready to board that flight to “I’m never coming back, and you can’t track me down.” Or, in most cases, they are in a nondenominational church about to marry the wrong person and they’re totally against annulment.

So you must run. Fast! Cars are just as stupid as phones. Luckily, you don’t have a bad back—or if you do, it was designed that way for comedic effect. Nevertheless, you can run, and you are capable of traversing whatever absurd obstacles are in your path. You have to do this! This is the closest thing to an action sequence the audience is going to get in most rom-coms, and it’s essential to get them reinvested in your happy ending before your big, perfect “I love you” speech. A speech that, while often flawed and totally cliché, is, after your epic run, still pretty freakin’ satisfying.

All the Curve Models Who Walked During Fall 2019 New York Fashion Week

Just before the start of New York Fashion Week, the Council of Fashion Designers of America (CFDA) published an open letter to designers: “As you cast your New York Fashion Week shows, please remember to promote diversity and inclusion, on and off the runway,” Steven Kolb, the organization’s president and CEO, wrote. “American fashion can lead the path.”

That message made it into the casting rooms: At New York Fashion Week, the fall 2019 shows featured 94 appearances by curve and non-sample-size models. It’s the most size diversity we’ve seen since the spring 2018 season, when Glamour‘s count reached 208, largely thanks to a handful of plus-size companies appearing on the schedule. For spring 2019, the tally was 72.

The fall 2019 shows kicked off with a special moment, courtesy of 11 Honoré: The luxury retailer for sizes 10 through 20+ staged its first-ever runway, which featured curvy models exclusively. Meanwhile, designers like Christian Siriano, Cushnie, Prabal Gurung, and Chromat continued their multiseason history of casting models of all different sizes. Area and Veronica Beard had curve models for the first time as part of their lineup.

No matter how many curve models appear at Fashion Week or where they’re walking, we’ll always celebrate body diversity on the runway. Ahead, catch up on all 94 appearances by curve models at the fall 2019 New York Fashion Week shows.

“You know her as Harriet Tubman. We call her Aunt Harriet”

“People wanted to forget”

At age 82, Valerie Ross Manokey knows that her memory is fading a bit. But the retired teacher’s aide in Cambridge, Maryland, who is Tubman’s great-grandniece, becomes animated when recalling bits of family lore. “We know Harriet was born nearby—we say ‘down the country’ because the area is not that big,” she says of Dorchester County, a rural enclave on Maryland’s eastern shore. “She was very intelligent, very kind, and worked very, very hard just to survive.” Manokey has held her own grandchildren in rapt attention with stories passed down by her maternal ancestors. “There was one place where my aunt and [fugitive slaves] were,” she says. “The soldiers were coming through and they had to hide. The house had an opening in the floor, and they all climbed down to hide until the soldiers left.”

The painful legacy of slavery meant stories often did not survive from generation to generation. “Grandma said that when their family members came out of slavery, people didn’t really want to talk about all of that,” Tina says. “She said people wanted to forget. They just wanted to move forward.”

Tina kept her lineage private for years. “Once, when I was very young, I told someone I was related to Harriet, and they said, ‘Oh yeah, well maybe my father is the president of the United States,’” she remembers. “That told me, ‘OK, zip your lips, be quiet, don’t tell anybody ever again.’” She stayed quiet until high school. “A teacher was teaching black history. It was something that we really fought for: a curriculum change to reflect the times; we wanted to know about our own history, and for it to be taught in our own schools. And she came up to me as we were changing classes, and asked, ‘Is it true that Harriet Tubman is your relative?’ I just stood there looking at her like, ‘Where’d you get that from? I’ve never told anybody.’ I just said yes and then I scurried off,” she says. It wasn’t until years later, when a family member was researching their history, that she started opening up about it more.

“She was humble…but powerful beyond measure”

For years Lauren Jillian Wyatt, great-great-great-great-grandniece of Tubman, and Tina’s daughter, didn’t reveal her ties to Tubman either. “I feared people would question its truth,” says the 32-year-old fashion consultant and writer in Washington, D.C. “I would imagine them searching the surface of my face—dissecting the width of my nose, the tint of my skin, the shape of my eyes—trying to find something reminiscent of this giant woman in me.” But Lauren always felt a deep connection to Aunt Harriet’s spirit, “especially the warrior in her—the steadfast, strategic fighter who wholeheartedly loved her people and did all she could through the conviction of a purpose beyond her own,” she says. “This not only enabled her to impact her own life and that of her family, but her entire surrounding and extended communities for generations to come.”

Tina believes new efforts to remember Tubman’s legacy are vital. “The impact of having Harriet Tubman on the $20 bill would recognize a need and send a message of healing,” she says of the Obama Administration proposal, in 2016, to put the abolitionist hero on the third most commonly used bill in America. While the Trump Administration has put the idea on hold, U.S. representatives Elijah Cummings (D–Md.) and John Katko (R–N.Y.) recently reintroduced bipartisan legislation in Congress that aims to revive the currency effort.

“She was a leader who has earned the right to be on the bill,” says Tina. “We have to remember when this country was formed, it was done so within a racially segregated, male-dominated society. Women were not allowed any titled or lead roles or consideration; black women were not even thought of.” For Lauren, the lessons of Tubman’s work—including how she advocated for women’s voting rights and provided care to the aged, infirm, and homeless—are essential in 2019. “The balance of responsibility. The risk and reward in loving all people, but especially her own people unselfishly,” she ticks off the list. “Being guided by an inherent and deeply rooted faith. Having an unwavering conviction regarding equality, justice, and economic opportunity…. She was humble and dignified, but powerful beyond measure.”

*Frozen 2*: Everything We Know So Far

If you’ve been singing “Let It Go” since 2013, today is a great day for you: Disney just unveiled a new trailer for Frozen 2, and it looks incredible.

Granted, we can’t gather much from this two-minute teaser, but that doesn’t make it any less exciting. It begins with Elsa attempting to use her freezing skills to hop over some ocean waves. Why she’s doing this is a mystery. Disney princesses do whatever they want, damn it!

We then pan to a series of different shots: Elsa’s sister, Anna, looking shocked for…reasons; Kristoff barreling down the forrest riding a moose; and Elsa freezing even more things. The movie is called Frozen 2, after all. What did you expect?

It ends with the movie’s release date: November 2019. So close yet so far!

Check out the trailer for yourself, below:

Much of the film is still shrouded in secrecy, but here’s everything we know so far:

1. The release date. November 22, 2019.

2. The core cast is returning. Kristen Bell (Anna), Elsa (Idina Menzel), Jonathan Groff (Kristoff), and Josh Gad (Olaf) are all reprising their iconic roles.

3. Evan Rachel Wood and Sterling K. Brown are joining the party, as well. They’ll be lending their voices to new characters for Frozen 2 , but the specifics are still unknown at this time.

4. The directing dream team is back. Chris Buck and Jennifer Lee are directing Frozen 2, with Lee writing the script. (She also wrote the script for the first Frozen.)

5. It will have a signature song à la “Let It Go.” “We have a new song that I think is an evolution,” Lee told Variety last year. There will be a total of four new songs in the movie.

6. The scope of Frozen 2 will be much bigger. Lee says Anna and Elsa will be going “far out of Arendelle.” But where? Paris? London? The McDonald’s down the street from my apartment? See you there, queens.

7. Elsa will have more fun. “[In Frozen] she had such a dramatic journey, and at the end she’s just starting to feel like she can open up and have some fun again. That’s what was really good about the short — we could have fun with Elsa. And that personality… you will see in the next one,” Buck told Fandango.

8. Kristen Bell’s personal life is reflected in Anna’s character development. “I’ll be able to say more when the movie comes out, but there are a lot of very intimate moments for me in this movie that feel like they’re from my real life,” Bell told Sirius XM. “Songs specifically that were like, I just gave her a spiel about why this particular emotion, or this particular hurdle in my life was so important. And what it taught me. And she slide it seamlessly into the character. It’s not just episode two of this show. It’s something you need to see them go through, because it affects the audience.”

What Is a ‘Late-Term Abortion’ and When Is It Too Late to Get an Abortion?

The phrase “late-term abortion” is everywhere lately. It’s not exactly new, but it’s lighting a wildfire of renewed controversy, thanks to comments from politicians that have led to inflammatory comparisons to infanticide. Naturally, people have a lot of questions, so we asked a board-certified OB-GYN to set the record straight.

The first thing you need to know: There isn’t actually an agreed-upon definition of what counts as “late”—that’s not how doctors talk about abortions. “In medicine we talk about pregnancy in terms of ‘trimesters,'” says Jennifer Conti, M.D., a board-certified OB-GYN, fellow with Physicians for Reproductive Health, and host of “The V Word” podcast.

This is important. Doctors base their decisions on a precise set of factors—the health of the fetus, the health of the woman, and the exact trimester and week of the pregnancy—not an arbitrary idea of what “late” means. “The way that they have crafted this language on the anti-choice side is strategic,” Dr. Conti says. “It’s meant to intentionally cause uncertainty; when we hear [‘late-term abortion’] we don’t know if that refers to someone that is periviable”—which is the very delicate gray area between 20 and 25 weeks of pregnancy where a fetus may or may not survive outside the womb—”or if you’re referring to the third trimester.”

That’s a massively important distinction, Dr. Conti says. Doctors treating a pregnant woman with serious complications at 30 weeks would likely consider a pre-term delivery—not an abortion. “That’s a very different situation than 25 weeks pregnant, which is closer to what we traditionally think of as ‘viability,’ where the fetus has a lower chance of surviving and an even lower chance of living a life that’s not severely impacted by medical conditions,” she says. The vague idea of “late-term abortion” is meant to “conjure up the image of someone in the throws of labor asking for an abortion and ‘evil’ abortion doctors coming and doing that,” she says. “That would never happen.”

The answer depends on where you live. Forty-three states prohibit abortions after a specified point in pregnancy (everywhere except Alaska, Colorado, Washington, D.C., New Hampshire, New Jersey, New Mexico, Oregon, and Vermont). But exactly when that point is varies by state.

24-28 Weeks

Arizona, California, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Hawaii, Idaho, Illinois, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Missouri, Montana, Nevada, New York, Pennsylvania, Tennessee, Utah, Virginia, Washington, Wyoming.

Twenty-three states ban abortions after viability outside the womb—that gray area that providers define as the period between 24 and 28 weeks. There are exceptions—endangerment to the woman’s life or health, cases of rape or incest, and fetal abnormality—but these also vary by state.

While most states define the cut off vaguely as viability, five states (Florida, Massachusetts, Nevada, New York, and Pennsylvania) draw the line at 24 weeks and beyond. (Virginia bans abortions in the third trimester, which begins at 27 weeks.)

20 Weeks

Alabama, Arkansas, Georgia, Indiana, Iowa, Kansas, Kentucky, Louisiana, Mississippi, Nebraska, North Carolina, North Dakota, Ohio, Oklahoma, South Carolina, South Dakota, Texas, West Virginia, Wisconsin.

Nineteen states ban abortion after 20 weeks, which is before what medical experts have deemed the point of “fetal viability.” This is somewhat confusing since 20 weeks isn’t a significant milestone in fetal development, according to the American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. Instead, many of these laws are based on concerns about “fetal pain,” but experts say pain is not possible at that stage of fetal development.