In the Battle Over Abortion Rights, Words Are Weapons

The fight over abortion rights has always been intense. The issue is deeply personal, and like lighter fluid to ideas that already spark controversy: women’s reproductive rights, contraception, science vs. religion. But in this political moment, words are like matches—and women and doctors are the ones most likely to get burned.

Careful semantics about abortion are as old as the debate about women’s reproductive rights. Back when Roe v. Wade was decided, anti-choice groups mobilized convincingly around pro-life. Since then the semantics have gotten more graphic, with words like “murder” and “infantacide” becoming the norm, while politicized and medically inaccurate words like “late-term abortion” continue to infiltrate the debate. But lately the rhetoric around abortion has gotten particularly inflammatory. President Trump, at a rally in El Paso, TX earlier this month, falsely implied that babies could be “ripped from their mother’s womb, right up until the moment of birth.”

These words matter, experts say. “Absolutely sensational rhetoric like the kind that we see being thrown around on social media, and also by the President, definitely contributes toward an inaccurate portrayal of what abortion is, who the people are who provide abortions, and who the people are that get abortions,” says Jennifer Conti, M.D., a board-certified ob-gyn in California, fellow with Physicians for Reproductive Health, and host of The V Word podcast.

Spreading misinformation is obviously a major issue. But the more pressing problem, according to those on the front lines of the debate: Rhetoric like this lays the groundwork for violence against patients and abortion providers.

“I’ve seen over and over and over again: as the rhetoric escalates, so does the violence,” says interim president and CEO of the National Abortion Federation, the Very Reverend Katherine Ragsdale. She’s been on the frontlines of the fight for abortion rights for 35 years, long enough to see several rounds of “horrific rhetoric and activity”—and long enough to see friends killed in violence related to the movement.

It’s happening again now. “We’ve seen a huge spike in violence and disruption at our clinics since the 2016 election,” she says, citing a 2017 report by the National Abortion Federation. “I don’t think that’s a coincidence.” Case in point: death threats and threats of harm reported by abortion clinics across the country nearly doubled between 2016 and 2017 and incidences of trespassing nearly tripled, according to the report. Most concerning: The first attempted bombing of an abortion clinic in years was reported in Illinois in 2017.

The numbers of protesters (which can take a serious toll on providers and patients) are swelling, too. “It’s intimidation,” says Diane Horvath, M.D., medical director of Whole Women’s Health Clinic in Baltimore. Her clinic often sees anti-choice advocates lurking outside. “It’s very menacing to have people peek into your windows and to have staff worry about who they are going to see when we go outside,” she says. “That’s the whole point: to create this climate of fear.”

It’s not just providers who face threats from inflammatory rhetoric—those seeking medical care also get burned.

Calla Hales, a clinic director who oversees two abortion clinics in Georgia and two in North Carolina, sees so many protesters every day of the year that it’s become a new norm. But this year, something is different. “We definitely noticed a change in rhetoric and in hostility,” she says. Historically, religious groups attempting to intercept patients as they enter the clinic have tried to shame women with language like, “please mom, don’t kill your baby,” Hales says. But recently, things have gotten even more viscous. “We noticed very vulgar, descriptive, inflammatory language: ‘How could you stand to let someone snap their neck? How could you stand to let someone rip your baby apart?’ It’s very upsetting to patients, clearly,” she says.

There’s no indication that anti-choice rhetoric actually keeps women from getting care—abortions happen just as frequently in countries with the most-restrictive abortion laws as they do in countries with the least-restrictive laws, according to data from the Guttmacher Institute—but the shaming does take a toll.

A Complete Breakdown of the Khloé Kardashian, Tristan Thompson, and Jordyn Woods Saga

Khloé Kardashian and Tristan Thompson have ended their relationship, Us Weekly confirmed on Tuesday, February 19. “They aren’t speaking,” a source tells the magazine.

There have been signs recently hinting this might happen. For one, Kardashian and Thompson reportedly didn’t spend Valentine’s Day together—though he did send her flowers, which she posted to Instagram Stories—and they haven’t been seen in public together since January 13. Kardashian also hasn’t made plans to move back to Cleveland, where Thompson lives during basketball season. Add in the cryptic messages Kardashian has been posting lately to Instagram (see below) and you have reason to believe all is not well with Kardashian and Thompson.

TMZ reports that Kardashian ended things after Thompson cheated on her with Kylie Jenner’s best friend, Jordyn Woods. Shortly after this rumor surfaced, Thompson tweeted (then deleted), “FAKE NEWS.”

But it looks like Kardashian and her best friend Malika Haqq may have confirmed it. “STRONG FACTS,” Haqq commented underneath a Hollywood Unlocked post about the story. Kardashian quickly followed with a string of emojis.

There are so many rumors and conflicting reports about this situation on the Internet. Let’s break them down here:

Us Weekly reports Kardashian confronted Thompson about cheating on her with Woods this past Monday. And he admitted it was true, according to the magazine’s sources. An insider also tells the publication “Khloé is completely done with [Thompson] for good.”

People reports the entire Kardashian family is “furious” with Woods. “They were blindsided,” a source tells the magazine, while another says the family is “beyond angry and disgusted” with Woods.

TMZ says Kylie Jenner didn’t believe the news at first. But she reportedly contacted people who went to the party where this alleged cheating happened, and her doubts “evaporated.” Now “Kylie doesn’t know what to do,” according to TMZ.

E! Online corroborates this. A source tells the outlet that Jenner was “in denial for days” over the incident and “is very torn on how to handle the situation.” The source also says, “Khloe is more disappointed that someone so close to their family would betray her. She can’t believe it.” In addition, the whole family is reportedly “writing Jordyn off,” per an E! source. It’s unclear how long the Kardashian-Jenners knew about this incident. If Jenner was in denial “for days,” that implies she knew something before the story broke on Tuesday. Kardashian, though, commented “baby girl” on one of Woods’ post on Monday. The timeline is suspect, to say the least, and is leading some people to think this entire saga is staged.

But here’s where things get confusing. E! Online reports Thompson “tried to deny” the accusations, while Us Weekly claims he admitted to them. Kardashian, however, reportedly didn’t need Thompson’s confirmation. “She heard it from multiple people and doesn’t believe him for a second,” a source tells E! Online.

As for the alleged incident… According to E!, it happened Sunday (February 17) during a hang-out with rapper Drake and his friends. (That Drake is involved in this is also interesting, given his beef with Kim and Kanye.) “Tristan and Jordyn were definitely hanging close to one another and were being very flirty,” a source claims. Things escalated to kissing from there, per TMZ. Hollywood Unlocked, , the outlet who broke the story, reports this hang-out was actually at Thompson’s house, and guests were instructed to give up their phones. Guests who wanted to use their phones were told “they may as well leave if they needed to do so as Jordyn wouldn’t be leaving anytime soon,” according to a source from HU.

Best NYFW Fall Winter 2019 Styling Tricks

Fashion Week always gives us a lot to talk about, both from what makes its way down the runway to what people are wearing outside of the shows. You leave every season with a list of new trends to try—like tie-dye and square-toed shoes, both of which are big for Fall 2019 but can be worn and shopped right now. You can scour retailers for pieces that are similar enough to what you’re seeing in the new collections, but there’s another way to get the look pretty much instantly: Pay attention not just to what the models are wearing, but how they’re wearing them. These styling tricks can cost $0, but do a lot for your winter wardrobe.

From doubling up on handbags to creating a monochromatic three-piece suit, read on for some of the best and most creative styling ideas from the Fashion Week runways, to inspire your winter dressing.

Tara Gonzalez is the associate commerce editor at Glamour; follow her at @tarigonzalez on Instagram.

8 Reasons You Have Redness on Your Face and How to Treat It

Facial redness is one of those mysteries I’m never quite sure how to solve. It’s apparent when my face seems more flushed than usual—but not always so clear what I should do about it, or even why I have it. Case in point: I’ve apparently spent my whole life with a mild case of rosacea (which I suspected for years, but never confirmed up until a month ago). And last year, when I experienced what turned out to be an eczema flare-up, even the dermatologist I visited had to walk me through a very long series of questions before determining exactly what I was experiencing.

There’s a wealth of information out there on the many types of facial redness, but it can get incredibly overwhelming to sort through it all. Instead of suggesting that you Google multiple variations of “Why is my face red?” and play a guessing game, I spoke to three top dermatologists about the most common causes of redness and how to treat each one.

“Your face becomes red when blood vessels dilate,” says Dr. Joshua Zeichner, Director of Cosmetic & Clinical Research in Dermatology at Mount Sinai Hospital in New York City. “This means that more blood rushes to your skin, giving it a red appearance.” From there, however, it gets a lot more complicated. Ahead, find derms’ best tips for identifying, soothing, and treating any kind of flare-up, from over-exfoliation to seborrheic dermatitis.

1. Rosacea

Rosacea is probably the first thing that comes to mind when you try to self-diagnose facial redness. But, it’s not always the case—so it never hurts to get a second opinion from a derm. “Rosacea is a condition where your skin is sensitive and overly reactive to environmental triggers,” says Dr. Zeichner. “These triggers include extremes in temperature, stress, spicy foods, and alcohol.” It also varies in appearance. I previously thought it showed up as a persistent flush under your skin, but it can manifest in multiple forms. Dr. Jessica Weiser, a dermatologist in New York City, identifies the most common one as erythematotelangiectatic, this is the commonly seen “flat” redness and flushing. But, you might also notice papulopustular rosacea, which she characterizes as redness with a primary feature of “pimple-like pink and red bumps, some with whiteheads.”

As far as treatment goes, there are two things to know. First, there is no permanent “cure” for rosacea, although it can be managed, which Dr. Zeichner recommends you do as early as possible to prevent progression. Second, what you do depends on how mild or extreme your specific case is. There are topical options that constrict blood vessels and calm inflammation, like Rhofade, which Dr. Dendy Engelman, a dermatologist in New York City, suggests. In more severe cases, Dr. Weiser says you may need to consider low-dose antibiotics or laser treatments. In any case, expect to wait a minimum of four to six weeks to see noticeable improvement. The final thing you want to do is keep your skin barrier in good shape. Dr. Zeichner suggests gentle cleansers, soothing moisturizers, and total avoidance of exfoliating ingredients (both chemical and physical). A good tip: Where the rest of your routine is concerned, look for products designed for “redness relief.” (Clinique’s Redness Solutions line is fantastic.)

2. Eczema

Ah, eczema, the brooding mystery of skin conditions. This one can be surprisingly tough to diagnose, as I found out firsthand when I got my 2018 flare-up. “Eczema and allergic contact dermatitis are difficult to differentiate from clinical evaluation alone because both have inflamed pink dry patches that cause significant itching or a burning sensation,” says Dr. Weiser. If you think you have it, exit your nearest search engine and leave things to a professional. A dermatologist should carefully go through your medical history and personal care products to determine which one you’re experiencing. You might be prescribed a topical cortisone or anti-inflammatory cream to bring down the redness and inflammation. Keep the rest of your routine full of gentle, mild ingredients, avoiding fragrance altogether. Steer clear of retinol and embrace hypoallergenic labels, and you should see an improvement within one to two weeks. “These conditions generally flare with cold weather, change of climate, or change of skin care products, so they tend to respond readily when conditions are optimized,” says Dr. Weiser.

Emma Thompson Quit Luck After an Alleged Sexual Harasser John Lasseter Joined the Project

Since the Harvey Weinstein story broke in the fall of 2017, a steady stream of powerful (and often famous) men have been accused of sexual misconduct. But the era of #MeToo has also seen a cycle of redemption and comebacks for some of these accused men. Louis C.K. is back doing standup. Ousted CBS chief Les Moonves is already working on a new venture. Brett Kavanaugh is sitting on the U.S. Supreme Court.

Now, Emma Thompson has reportedly quit an upcoming film project over the hiring of one such man: John Lasseter, the former chief creative officer of Pixar. Allegations about Lasseter first became public knowledge in November 2017, though claims of a “whisper network” surrounding him existed for much longer, after he was accused of “grabbing, kissing, making comments about physical attributes.”

Lasseter apologized for his behavior, saying, “I’ve recently had a number of difficult conversations that have been very painful for me. It’s never easy to face your missteps, but it’s the only way to learn from them.” Then, this January, he was hired as the head of Skydance Animation, which is set to produce the film Luck.

That’s where Emma Thompson comes in. The actress was slated to voice one of the characters, Variety confirms that she dropped out of the project after Lasseter’s hiring. Skydance has not commented on the departure.

She may not have released a big statement about this decision, but it’s major that a Hollywood A-lister of Thompson’s caliber is walking away from what is likely a lucrative deal in response to the hiring of a man with sexual harassment allegations. This is one powerful way allies in positions of influence can show support for the survivors who have been brave enough to speak out about inappropriate behavior.

We hope to see more of that in 2019.

The Biggest Celebrity Breakups of 2019

We’re only two months into 2019, but there have already been some pretty major celebrity breakups. On January 4, news reports came out that Gigi Hadid and Zayn Malik were taking a break after reconciling last April. “They could get back together, but it’s over for now,” an insider told Us Weekly. And just this week, there have been two breakups: Lady Gaga and Christian Carino, and Khloé Kardashian and Tristan Thompson.

If 2018 is any indication, this will be only the first of more Hollywood uncouplings to come. Last year alone saw the end of several relationships, including, Jenna Dewan and Channing Tatum, Chris Evans and Jenny Slate, Cardi B and Offset, and Ariana Grande and Pete Davidson.

Below, all the celebrity breakups from 2019 (so far). We’ll update this post as more happen.

Sex? Yes. Sleep Over? No Thanks.

At 41, I’m a woman who’s been taught since the day I was born to constantly sacrifice my own best interests, comfort, and often safety, to almost bend myself into a goddamn pretzel at times, for the sake of men’s comfort, needs, and feelings. We women are all trained that way, right?

Men, however, have been raised to be selfish, and that’s not necessarily their fault. Obviously, there are no absolutes; there are plenty of men who are nurturing. But in general, most men (especially straight men) are not raised to put the needs of everyone else first, thanks to toxic masculinity’s hold on our culture. They’ve been told again and again that they’re superior to women and that we are here, more or less, solely for them—to satisfy their sexual impulses, to bear their children, cook their supper, applaud them, be their therapist, wash their boxers. All of it! Remember how Eve was made for the sole purpose of keeping Adam from getting bored?

In that moment with Lucas, I pledged to behave more like men do when it comes to asserting my needs.

As Lucas continued to caress me, I thought back to all the times I’ve let a man sleep over when I really just wanted him to leave. I mean, I’m a huge fan of morning sex and cuddling, but it’s usually not worth it unless I really like the guy or the sex is just that good. Once a guy kept me up all night screaming bloody murder over his bear attack dreams. Another one must have had restless leg syndrome, because he kicked me like a donkey until the sun rose. Most of them snore, have untreated sleep apnea, or breathe so wildly inconsistently that I panic they’ve died in my bed. They don’t do this on purpose, and most haven’t a clue they’ve kept me up all night, but the point is, it usually sucks for me when men stay over.

For me, letting a man into my vagina has always felt way less intimate than letting him into my bed. Sleeping is when you’re the most vulnerable and doing this—naked—with a stranger is actually a really big deal, especially for women. This guy could do anything to me while I’m unconscious: fart on me, mumble belligerently about his deepest darkest secrets, or sleepwalk to my kitchen, grab a butcher knife and cut my head off. The decapitation part hasn’t happened before, obviously, but strange things certainly have.

Plus, I’ve been single most of my life, so I’m used to having the whole bed to myself. Even when I’m dating someone, it takes getting used to having a man wrapped around me instead of my seven hundred pillows. Last year I was living in Spain and my then-boyfriend was here in France. We only saw each other once a month, so we never quite got used to sleeping in bed together consistently. Every time we visited each other, the first night was awful for both of us. The second was better, and by the third or fourth we slept all lovey dovey like they do in movies. But since those trips were usually only a couple days long, they absolutely exhausted me.

I loved that guy and every moment we had together, so it was worth the sacrifice of sleep. But for a one-night stand? Nah. I’m over it.

Most of us learn sex advice from various relationships, from other people’s relationships, and from snatches of porn or movies. It’s like easter eggs in Stranger Things—you start to put them all together to form your theory about how to approach love and life. I learned one gem from my friend Anne, when we went away together on vacation. After she came back from what I assumed was a hot sexy night with a local, she shrugged and said, “Nah. We didn’t hook up. We talked all night instead. He wouldn’t go down on me, so I refused to let him take my clothes off. Those are the conditions,” she said, winking.

Ariana Grande and Piers Morgan Are Done Feuding—and There Are Pics to Prove It

UPDATED (February 20, 2019): At the height of her “thank u, next” era last November, Ariana Grande famously called out Piers Morgan for criticizing feminism and picking fights with Ellen Degeneres, Little Mix, and her mother, Joan Grande, on Twitter. She clapped back at his remarks about how women display their bodies—which he called “hypocritical”—with a powerful statement: “women can be sexual AND talented. naked and dignified. it’s OUR choice.” Now, it looks like that feud is over, all thanks to some “productive conversation”…and a selfie.

On Tuesday evening, Grande and Morgan happened to be dining at the same restaurant in Los Angeles. Morgan tweeted that they “bumped into” one another, which turned into a long discussion ending their online feud. According to his tweet, they apparently spoke for two hours.

“We laughed, we argued, she cried, I nearly did, the drinks flowed & we bonded,” Morgan captioned a selfie of the two at dinner. “Turns out we really like each other. Weird.”

Grande responded with a tweet of her own. “thank u for some laughs and some v productive conversation ! it was nice bumping into u !”

That isn’t to say that Grande and Piers are seeing eye-to-eye on everything now. In fact, Grande’s response to Morgan’s tweets implies that he hasn’t yet converted to feminism….but she’s working on it.

Look out, #FutureFeministPiers may be trending soon.

ORIGINAL POST: This Thanksgiving I’m extremely grateful for Ariana Grande. First she teased the upcoming music video for her instantly iconic breakup song, “Thank U, Next” which will include homages to a quartet of equally iconic movies: Legally Blonde, 13 Going On 30, Mean Girls, and Bring It On. Now she’s taking down British television host and frequent troll Piers Morgan in such a brilliant way that I stood up and gave her a slow clap from my living room.

Here’s the gist of how it all started: Earlier this week Morgan tweeted about Ellen Degeneres’ admiring photos of men and tried to call it out as “hypocrisy” in feminism. “Ellen drooling today over famous men’s bodies on #InternationalMensDay2018,” he wrote. “Yet I’ve been abused all day for complimenting @hollywills on her legs. The hypocrisy of modern feminism laid bare.”

Then he came for Little Mix:

Guess who didn’t like what he had to say? Joan Grande, Ariana’s mom. “Honestly what is wrong with you @piersmorgan ? Didn’t your mother ever teach you, if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say it,” she tweeted. “You came for @TheEllenShow yesterday which was disgraceful, she is an angel. @LittleMix today, did you ever hear of paying homage? And…well never mind.”

Morgan, of course, had some thoughts on that:

Enter one of social media’s most revered queens: Ariana Grande, who was ready to defend Ellen, Little Mix, and a woman’s right to do as she chooses with her own body. “Ellen is an incredible & kind human being.. I use my talent AND my sexuality all the time because i choose to,” she wrote. “women can be sexual AND talented. naked and dignified. it’s OUR choice. & we will keep fighting til people understand. i say this w all due respect but thank u, next.”

But was she finished? Oh no, she was not. She told Little Mix to “keep fighting the fight divas” and then came back for Morgan:

Next, she turned the tables on him with a semi-naked photo he’d posted.

Morgan is continuing to tweet at Grande, hoping perhaps that she’ll appear on his show.

But Grande’s already made her point and moved on. Or as she puts it, “Next.”

22 Best Women’s Pajamas 2019

It’s still winter. Politics sucks, the weather sucks, and we’re all sick of being inside. Our Winteritis stories are for women who can’t read another think piece, who’ve pushed the outer limits of time it’s possible to spend on social media, and who just want to shop online and hibernate until spring is here.

It’s that fun time of the year when leaving your warm bed each morning is painful and fighting the polar vortex with layers of Uniqlo heattech and puffer jackets has become mundane. If you’re anything like us, you’re over it. Fortunately, there’s a new trend that’s perfect for times like these, when you have just enough energy to do the bare minimum: loungewear, which is really just a fancy word for pajamas you can wear outside.

Yes, you read that right: Pajamas can—and should—be worn outside of the bedroom. It’s not something to be embarrassed about, or save for “laundry day.” Wearing them does not tell the world that you’ve slept in, aren’t trying hard enough, or are outright lazy. (Although, it’d be fine if it did.) And as we wait for winter to finally end and spring to begin, what’s easier than rolling out of bed and spending the rest of your day in a pair of pajamas?

When you really think about it, pajamas aren’t so different from the oversized suiting trend that’s everywhere right now. To us, a matching top and bottom pajama set is basically a more comfortable suit. Even better, you can sleep in it. But if we had to pinpoint a moment when loungewear as everyday wear really took off, it’d be when Rihanna wore a feather-trimmed Prada pajama top as a dress to her after party for the Met Gala in 2017. Sure, Rihanna can pull off literally anything—but it’s all about channeling her DGAF energy, right?

With so many loungewear brands launching in the past few years, you don’t even need to splurge on Prada to do so. There’s Ukranian brand Sleeper, which creates embellished feather pants they consider “the perfect outfit for dancing with a glass of champagne.” Lunya and Liana both focus on any-time-of-day sleepwear that puts comfort first. The Sleep Shirt, as their name suggests, started because they created, well, the perfect sleep shirt.

So you could agonize over what to wear when you’re completely over winter, or you could shop 22 of the best loungewear pieces below. We know what Rihanna would do.

Tara Gonzalez is the associate commerce editor at Glamour, follow her at @tarigonzalez on Instagram.

21 Best Women’s Pajamas 2019

It’s still winter. Politics sucks, the weather sucks, and we’re all sick of being inside. Our Winteritis stories are for women who can’t read another think piece, who’ve pushed the outer limits of time it’s possible to spend on social media, and who just want to shop online and hibernate until spring is here.

It’s that fun time of the year when leaving your warm bed each morning is painful and fighting the polar vortex with layers of Uniqlo Heattech and puffer jackets has become mundane. If you’re anything like us, you’re over it. Fortunately, there’s a new trend that’s perfect for times like this, when you have just enough energy to do the bare minimum: loungewear, which is really just a fancy word for pajamas you can wear outside.

Yes, you read that right: Pajamas can—and should—be worn outside the bedroom. It’s not something to be embarrassed about or to save for laundry day. Wearing them does not tell the world that you’ve slept in, aren’t trying hard enough, or are outright lazy. (Although, it’d be fine if it did.) And as we wait for winter to finally end and spring to begin, what’s easier than rolling out of bed and spending the rest of your day in a pair of pajamas?

When you really think about it, pajamas aren’t so different from the oversize-suiting trend that’s everywhere right now. To us, a matching-top-and-bottom pajama set is basically a more comfortable suit. Even better, you can sleep in it. But if we had to pinpoint a moment when loungewear as everyday wear really took off, it’d be when Rihanna wore a feather-trimmed Prada pajama top as a dress to her after-party for the Met Gala in 2017. Sure, Rihanna can pull off literally anything—but it’s all about channeling her DGAF energy, right?

With so many loungewear brands launching in the past few years, you don’t even need to splurge on Prada to do so. There’s Ukrainian brand Sleeper, which creates embellished feather pants they consider “the perfect outfit for dancing with a glass of champagne.” Lunya and Liana both focus on any-time-of-day sleepwear that puts comfort first. The Sleep Shirt, as its name suggests, started because it created, well, the perfect sleep shirt.

So you could agonize over what to wear when you’re completely over winter, or you could shop 21 of the best lounge wear pieces below. We know what Rihanna would do.

Tara Gonzalez is the associate commerce editor at Glamour; follow her at @tarigonzalez on Instagram.