Is Face-Sitting the Most Empowering Way to Try Oral Sex?

When it comes to receiving oral sex, many women’s default position is to get on their backs. And there’s a lot to be said for that: You can relax and let your partner worry about what to do. But there’s also a lot to be said for receiving oral on top, AKA face-sitting.

For one thing, it puts you in complete control, and some women find that it also provides a better angle. “It gives your partner full access to what is the most erogenous zone and most essential area to be stimulated for orgasm to occur: your external vulva, including your clitoris,” explains Laurie Mintz, sex therapist and author of Becoming Cliterate. “Many find this a totally empowering position, since the focus is all, 100 percent on your pleasure.”

If straddling your partner’s face sounds intimidating, we get it. If you’ve never tried face-sitting, it can feel incredibly vulnerable. Here’s how to try it without feeling totally out of your comfort zone.

Ask your partner

If the idea of receiving oral sex on top intrigues you, Mintz recommends telling your partner something straightforward like, “I love when you go down on me and I’d like to try this in a new position—with me sitting on your face. Are you game for trying?” If your partner hasn’t gone down on you before, you could tell them that you’d like to try both positions, says Mintz.

Put your weight on your knees

Now that you’re both in, time for the logistics. The first hurdle is figuring out how to get into position. Mintz recommends the following process: First, straddle your partner’s chest with your knees on the bed, scooting forward until their head is between your thighs, and spreading them until your partner’s mouth can reach you.

“It’s called face ‘sitting,’ but you’re really kneeling,” says sex therapist Vanessa Marin, creator of the online orgasm course Finishing School. It’s actually pretty comfortable once you get the hang of it. “You want to hold your weight in your knees rather than resting your weight on your partner’s face,” Marin says.

Support yourself

To make balancing easier, Marin recommends having your partner lay down near the head of the bed and putting your hands on the headboard or wall for more support. That way, you won’t be worrying about keeping your balance and can instead focus all of your attention on your pleasure.

Change up the pressure

The nice thing about receiving oral sex on top is that, much like any position that puts you on top, you can control the pressure by moving closer or further away from your partner, says Marin. Lower or raise your body when you want to experience more or less sensation.

Try having your partner hold still

If you want complete control, you can ask your partner to stay still with their tongue out while you experiment with different motions. Marin recommends slowly grinding your hips back and forth or around in circles over their face.

Try holding still yourself

Alternatively, if you want the feeling of being in control while still having your partner do all the work, you can just sit there and relax, says Jess O’Reilly, Astroglide’s resident sexologist. “The seated partner can stay still and allow the supine partner to use their lips, tongue, face, fingertips, and hands to kiss, fondle, lick, slide, and rub,” she says.

Consider a partially seated position

If full-on face-sitting freaks you out, you can try one of these intermediate positions, says O’Reilly: Have your partner lie down near the edge of the bed and put one foot on the bed and one on the ground, or get on all fours with your crotch near their mouth and face away from them. “You can slowly lower yourself into their face and enjoy the sensation without fully sitting,” she says.

Create a signal

One worry some people have about face-sitting is that they could squish their partner’s face, says Mintz. This is pretty unlikely to happen, since you can hold yourself up with your thighs. But if you’re concerned about it, you can create a signal for your partner to communicate when they need a break, like tapping your thigh or butt. A signal like this can be useful to communicate in general since your partner’s mouth may be, er, busy.

Experiment with different positions

Just as there is more than one way to receive oral sex, there’s more than one way to face-sit. Mintz recommends experimenting with facing away from your partner as well as facing toward them and seeing which you like best.

Know your partner is loving it too

The idea of being on display in this way might make some people uneasy, but chances are your partner is enjoying it. “Know that this is an extremely sexy position that your partner is bound to love,” says Marin. “But you can ease into it by dimming the lights or lighting candles. Or try blindfolding your partner and moving your body closer to or away from their mouth.” But, as with any sexual encounter, don’t assume—communicate with your partner regularly and openly to ensure you’re both enjoying yourselves.

All that said, if getting oral sex on top does not appeal to you—or you try it and aren’t a fan—no need to do it. “Most sex therapists recommend that one try new things and stretch one’s sexual boundaries—but never do anything that is aversive,” says Mintz. “If the idea sounds completely aversive, then don’t do it. If it sounds a bit scary but doable, give it a try. You might love it.”

Fans Think Khloé Kardashian Looks Exactly Like Kim Kardashian in This Photo

On Friday (June 21) Khloé Kardashian posted a selfie to Instagram that left some of her fans scratching their heads in confusion. Why? In the ‘gram, she looks dead-on like her sister, Kim Kardashian. Although the Kar-Jenners definitely look like sisters, they don’t tend to look much like doppelgängers of each other—it’s usually not super-difficult to tell them apart. But with this pic, even we did a double-take: Whether it’s Khloé’s long blond hair or it happens to be the angle she’s posing in, the Good American co-founder is basically a mirror of Kim in the picture.

The photo shows Khloé in a blue scoop-neck tank, arm behind her head, looking off into the distance. She didn’t have a lot to say about the pic herself: For her caption, she just dropped in the dog print emoji. Then again, she didn’t have to say much: Fans immediately began commenting about her resemblance to Kim.

“Is this kim or khole i cant tell,” one follower commented.

“I honestly couldn’t tell which kardashian this was for a moment, I had to look at the name,” another wrote.

“I legit thought this was kim,” another declared.

Meanwhile, one fan noted the pic looks like a combination of both sisters. “Khime perhaps?” they wrote.

The resemblance is uncanny, no? For comparison, here’s Kim with Kris below.

It’s not just Kim who Khloé could potentially twin with, either: Khloé and younger sis Kylie Jenner have done ads for their cosmetics collaborations highlighting how similar they can look. Still, it’s not that often the twinning realness hits quite this level.

Halsey Showed Off Unshaven Armpits on the Cover of *Rolling Stone*

Over the years, Halsey has joined the ranks of celebrities speaking out against prescribed beauty ideals and norms—and that includes grooming choices, like removing body hair. If she doesn’t want to, she doesn’t, and she’s proud about it. After a troll reposted the pic with an “LOL” sticker over her unshaven underarm, she cooly responded to them on Twitter, “It’s an armpit you’ve put a sticker over. Not sure what else there is here to explain?” Now, she’s taken her advocacy for skipping shave day one step further by showing off unshaven armpits on the latest cover of Rolling Stone. In the shot, the “Without Me” singer poses in a white tank with her arms behind her head and her armpits on full display. Halsey of course posted the cover shot on her ‘gram—and people are living for it.

“There is so much yes about this picture idk where to start,” Demi Lovato commented. “Rockstar status,” fellow singer (and Halsey collaborator) Benny Blanco wrote.

Maggie Rogers was excited too: “Here for this armpit hair,” she wrote. Check out the Rolling Stone cover for yourself, below:

Singer Zara Larsson also took to Twitter to praise Halsey’s decision not to shave for the shoot: “I loooove the fact that they didn’t edit the armpits like most magazines would do. Women are not little babies who don’t have body hair. Stunning cover.”

Meanwhile, fans also applauded Halsey for embracing her body hair.

In another high-profile unshaven armpit moment, Amandla Sternberg walked the red carpet at the BFI Film Festival last October, wearing a stunning Valentino gown that showed off their underarm hair. With their trademark sense of humor, they posted a pic to their ‘gram of the look, writing “#drama #armpit” in the caption. Happily, per Halsey’s pic, it seems people are becoming more receptive to a little bit of perfectly natural body hair.

The Best Documentaries on Netflix in June 2019

After the viral success of Making a Murderer, Netflix has churned out dozens of documentaries and documentary series. From behind-the-scenes rock docs like Gaga Five Foot Two to true-crime deep dives like Amanda Knox, the amount of nonfiction content on Netflix is seismic. The streaming platform is also home to important non-original documentaries that stand the test of time, like Paris Is Burning. (Don’t know what that is? Watch it on Netflix!) Besides, you’re probably growing tired of watching the same Friends episodes. So consider checking out any or all of the documentaries on this list to mix it up. And spoiler alert: They’re all fascinating.

A Timeline of Donald Trump’s Inappropriate History With Women

1993: Jill HarthThat same year, Trump also allegedly subjected makeup artist Jill Harth to a “steady string of sexual assaults, as The Guardian reports. He allegedly groped her under a dinner table at the Plaza Hotel’s Oak Room and, later, he allegedly pinned her against a wall in one of his children’s bedrooms and and groped her. “He pushed me up against the wall, and had his hands all over me and tried to get up my dress again,” Harth recalled, “and I had to physically say: ‘What are you doing? Stop it.’ It was a shocking thing to have him do this because he knew I was with George, he knew they were in the next room. And how could he be doing this when I’m there for business?” Harth later formally accused Trump of attempted rape in a 1997 lawsuit.

1994: A 13-year-old GirlTrump has been accused of raping a 13-year-old girl in the apartment of convicted pedophile Jeffrey Epstein. The case, which was recently filed for the third time in New York City, where the alleged rape occurred, consists of two affidavits filed by “Joan Doe” and “Tiffany Doe” which corroborate the victim’s story, as Buzzfeed reports. “Joan” says she was told about the assault after it happened, while “Tiffany”—who was apparently hired as a “recruiter” to bring young girls to Epstein’s apartment—alleges Trump and Epstein raped the victim more than once. Trump’s attorney has denied these accusations, though more information on the case may yet unfold—a hearing has been set for this December in New York.

1995 or 1996: E. Jean Carroll

The advice columnist wrote in a June 2019 New York Magazine cover story that in 1995 or 1996, Trump allegedly raped her in the dressing room at Bergdorf’s. Carroll writes that Trump asked her for advice buying a gift for “a girl,” which led to him asking her to try on a piece of lingerie. According to her account, “the moment the dressing-room door is closed, he lunges at me, pushes me against the wall, hitting my head quite badly, and puts his mouth against my lips.” Carroll alleges that he pins her against the wall, then “the next moment, still wearing correct business attire, shirt, tie, suit jacket, overcoat, he opens the overcoat, unzips his pants, and, forcing his fingers around my private area, thrusts his penis halfway—or completely, I’m not certain—inside me. It turns into a colossal struggle.” She also notes that the friends she told after the alleged assault corroborated her story to the magazine. Trump denied her allegations in a statement.

1996: Five or Six ModelsLisa Boyne, a health food business entrepreneur who apparently shared a dinner from hell with Trump, told The Huffington Post that she and a friend, along with “five or six models,” were seated at a semi-circular table with Trump in 1996. When the models wanted to get up to leave, Trump refused to get up to let them do so, instead forcing them to walk on top of the table where he “stuck his head right underneath their skirts,” per Boyne’s account, and remarked on their underwear and genitalia. “It was the most offensive scene I’ve ever been a part of,” Boyne said. “I wanted to get the heck out of there.”

1996: Alicia MachadoWhile Trump’s behavior towards former Miss Universe winner Alicia Machado wasn’t physically sexual, it was the definition of predatory and verbally abusive behavior. “He was very overwhelming. I was scared of him. He’d yell at me all of the time,” says Machado in a video clip executed by Hillary Clinton’s campaign. “He’d tell me, ‘You look ugly,’ or, ‘You look fat.’ Sometimes he’d ‘play’ with me and say, ‘Hello, Miss Piggy,’ ‘Hello, Miss Housekeeping.'” Trump also body-shamed Machado when she gained 40 pounds after winning her title, which led to her developing eating disorders. “Long after, I was sick with eating disorders,” she recalls. “I wouldn’t eat, and would still see myself as fat because a powerful man said so. This is a man who doesn’t realize the damage he causes.”

After Machado told her story, Trump reacted by slut-shaming her.

1997: Five Miss Teen USA ContestantsBack in 1997, Trump created discomfort for at least five teenage Miss Teen USA contestants—including one who was as young as 15—when he visited their dressing room as they were changing. “I remember putting on my dress really quick because I was like, ‘Oh my god, there’s a man in here,’” former Miss Vermont Teen USA Mariah Billado told Buzzfeed. His response, according to Billado, was something along the lines of “Don’t worry, ladies, I’ve seen it all before.” Other contestants referred to the incident to Buzzfeed as “shocking” and “creepy.” While 11 of the other contestants from that year’s pageant told Buzzfeed they don’t remember the incident, Trump has gone on the record bragging about his access to dressing rooms before. “I’ll tell you the funniest is that I’ll go backstage before a show and everyone’s getting dressed,” he told Howard Stern. “No men are anywhere, and I’m allowed to go in, because I’m the owner of the pageant and therefore I’m inspecting it. … ‘Is everyone OK?’ You know, they’re standing there with no clothes. ‘Is everybody OK?’ And you see these incredible looking women, and so I sort of get away with things like that.”

The 21 Best ’80s Movies You Can Stream Right Now

The ’80s were a pretty glorious time when it comes to movies—and thanks to the age of streaming, it’s easier than ever to revisit your favorites.

In a time before superhero movies reigned supreme at the box office, the best ’80s movies offered up a full range of genres. There are the iconic teen movies like Pretty in Pink and The Breakfast Club created by filmmaker John Hughes (and often starring current Riverdale mom Molly Ringwald) or darker, angstier fare like Heathers. If action movies are more your thing, you’ve got Return of the Jedi or Die Hard. Or you can go on adventures with Marty McFly in Back to the Future or the gang in The Goonies.

Here the 21 best ’80s movies available to stream right now:

Cheryl Burke On Being a Bridezilla for her Wedding

Fans of two-time Dancing with the Stars champion Cheryl Burke know exactly what they’re going to get when they watch her compete on Monday nights: a strict, dedicated coach who demands her partners give it their all and then some. Off the dance floor, Burke demands the same of herself. “I’m the same person you see on [the show] she says. “I have an addictive personality and I’m addicted to work.”

That’s why it should come as no surprise that when planning her May 23 wedding to actor Matthew Lawrence, Burke knew exactly what she wanted. She proudly owns up to the many sleepless nights she spent making sure every last detail was checked off. But unlike most brides who cringe at the word bridezilla, Burke says she’s a proud member of the club. A day after returning from her honeymoon with Lawrence, she tells Glamour’s Jessica Radloff what she learned from the experience, and why it’s perfectly OK to embrace your inner bridezilla.

Growing up, I never thought about my wedding. I was not that girl. To be honest, I didn’t believe in it. Fast forward a few decades and I’m bringing my laptop and 200 thank you notes with me on my honeymoon because I wanted to get a head start. Funny how things change.

I didn’t start to even think about my actual wedding until Matthew proposed. And then things really amped up when I hired the incredible Mindy Weiss as my wedding planner. But before that? Nope.

And now? I say embrace your inner bridezilla. I sure did. But there’s a way of doing it without having people hate you. A bridezilla can either be bitchy [to the point where] friends ghost them after the wedding or there’s a bridezilla like me that expected perfection from myself, not from anyone else. It’s the same thing when I’m on Dancing with the Stars. If I know I didn’t do my best, I won’t be able to sleep at night. It’s important for me to follow through with whatever expectations I have for myself.

Laurence and Burke

Amy and Stuart Photography

Everyone says ‘You’re going to forget something on your wedding day,’ and it makes me proud to say I did not forget one thing. I was like, ‘I deserve an award for this!’ It’s so important to me for things to run smoothly and on time. I went to a wedding once that started an hour late, and I don’t appreciate that. I think it’s really rude. Honestly, now that my wedding is done, I’m pretty sure Mindy Weiss would hire me.

I knew we’d get along because she didn’t roll her eyes when I presented a PowerPoint presentation at our first meeting. She was like, ‘It makes my job easier because you know what you want and I can make whatever vision you want come to life.’ She said it’s when clients are indecisive that the process gets frustrating. I get that. If you leave people with options, then there’s too many cooks in the kitchen.

Listen, I’m not telling people to do backflips down the aisle. This isn’t a circus act. I’ve been to enough weddings to know what works and what doesn’t. And what doesn’t work is when you tell your bridal party, ‘Do whatever you want or wear whatever you want,’ when you actually have an opinion. I think it’s rude to give people that freedom if you’re just going to judge them afterward.

But I’ll be the first one to say that choosing a dress was a nightmare. It wasn’t so much the choosing as it was working with the design companies. Oddly enough, I knew it was going to be a nightmare. I play dress-up every single day on Dancing with the Stars, so for me, the goal was to feel like a bride and not like I’m about to put on a show. I just knew what I wanted.

Burke and her wedding party.

Amy and Stuart Photography

I went through two wedding dress designers who quit. To be honest, I think some of that had to do with the crazy contracts they wanted me to sign. Who signs a contract for a dress? When the first designer quit, I was like, ‘That’s rude, but moving on.’ Also, I’m so used to the turnaround being so quick with dresses, that when you don’t send me the sketch and it’s been three months, there’s a problem. Not communicating with me is the worst thing you can possibly do, whether it’s an email or a text. Just respond, even if the response is, ‘Sorry, I can’t right now.’ Otherwise you leave me and my wedding party out to dry. So when it happened again, I was like, ‘Whatever, it wasn’t meant to be.’ And in the end, I’m so happy because my eventual wedding designer, Romona Keveza, was the best.

How and Where to Donate and Recycle Old Bras, Lingerie, and Swimsuits

This may have happened to you: Post-Marie Kondo, you take a huge load of stuff that no longer brings you joy—but could certainly bring joy to others—to donate, only to have perfectly good bras rejected. Surely someone would be in need of practical things like never- or gently-used undergarments, right? Alas, some places don’t accept bras in any condition, which means they’re tossed. But there are plenty of places that do take your old underpinnings—bras, swimsuits, and more—to recycle, repurpose, or resell. Read all about ’em.

You can recycle your bras.

Whether that means getting your new or lightly worn bra on someone who needs it or actually having the fibers turned into something else, recycling your bras is absolutely an option. The Bra Recyclers is a company I found online. (You can find out how to send your own bras in here.) If you shop from the indie label Harper Wilde, your purchase will come with a prepaid return shipping label, so you can ship them your old bras to be recycled.

You can also recycle your wetsuit: Sending yours in to Suga—or dropping it off at specific locations in California and Canada—gets you a 10 percent discount off one of Suga’s products, which include yoga mats made from, yep, recycled wetsuits.

You can donate your bras and swimsuits.

Free the Girls is an anti-sex trafficking organization that accepts donated bras, and it has drop-off locations across the U.S. willing to accept small donations of up to five bras (those with more can send them in). Donated bras are used as part of the founding inventory for female trafficking survivors in parts of Central America and Africa to start their own businesses selling second-hand clothes. There’s even a page on the organization’s website about how to host a bra drive if you want to get friends and family involved.

I Support the Girls partners up with lingerie brand Third Love to collect and distribute bras and menstrual products to women in need around the world, including to refugees, women and girls in homeless shelters, LGBTQ+ organizations, and homes for pregnant teams. You can donate your new or gently worn bras by sending them in or dropping them off at a location near you.

Bras for a Cause is another organization happy to accept donated bras—as well as your “gently loved” swimsuits and lingerie. Everything you send in is passed on to women in need, including breast cancer survivors. Download the donation form, send your bras to their mailing address, and you’ll receive a tax receipt by email after they process your things.

You can take your gently used bras to the mall.

Keep an eye out at stores like Aerie, Soma, Victoria’s Secret, and Journelle for bra drives or trade-ins, which generally offer incentives for customers to bring in bras (and sometimes other clothing)—think store discounts or vouchers (those three stores have done events like this in the past). Aerie, for example, has partnered with Free the Girls to pass gently worn bras on to sex trafficking survivors—and the store will give you a 15 percent discount voucher for your next bra purchase there with any bra donation.

11 Best Face Mists That Don’t Feel Like a Waste of Money

There are two types of people in this world: those who swear by face mists and others who brush them off as overpriced bottles of water. Ask anyone in the former group and they’ll swear by the healing powers of a good thermal water or the therapeutic effects of a spritz infused with essential oils. And don’t even get them started on rose water. Most probably fit into the second group, though—many even within the halls of Glamour. Our hypothesis? They just haven’t found their perfect match. So we gathered dozens of face sprays and put them in the hands of our staffers to get their honest opinions on which they deem to be the most worthy of their money. Because while there are plenty of options out there that probably are a scam, these face mists are so much more than that.

As an Adoptive Mom, I Have Complicated Feelings About The Handmaid’s Tale

My daughter is the best thing to happen to me. Six years later, I’m convinced she’s the reason I went through all the rest: because I was always meant to be her mother. But our once-very open adoption has dwindled over the years, mostly because her other mama has pulled away from us. I think it’s been hard for her, watching another woman raise her child. Even though this is what she chose—even though this baby was never stolen from her like they are in Gilead—I think the pain of being separated from the child she grew and loved has slowly made seeing us something she’d rather avoid. That pain she feels juxtaposed against the joy I experience with motherhood is a dichotomy I have trouble facing.

This most recent season of The Handmaid’s Tale has brought up these gut-check moments even more. That’s not just because of Serena: We’ve also been given insight into Mrs. Mackenzie (Amy Landecker), the woman raising June’s other daughter, Hannah. We don’t know much about Mrs. Mackenzie, just that she’s also a Commander’s wife who was given Hannah after June became a Handmaid. The interaction in the season three premiere between Mrs. Mackenzie and June, who both clearly love Hannah, gutted me. Mrs. Mackenzie said things I could picture myself saying (or at least thinking).

“This has to stop,” she says to June, speaking of her continued efforts to see Hannah. “You brought our child into the world. The Commander and I bless you for that. God knows.”

“I’m her mother,” Mrs. Mackenzie continues. When June flinches at that, Mrs. Mackenzie takes a breath and says, “You’re being cruel, confusing her like this.” “I’m confusing her?” June challenges.

It’s a poignant moment: both women standing their ground. Both clearly believing they are the ones doing right by this child. And while as the audience, we can see that June is the one who’s right, I could still see myself in Mrs. Mackenzie.

It made me wonder: When it comes to my daughter’s adoption, am I the one who knows what’s best?

June in The Handmaid’s Tale.

George Kraychyk/Hulu

I think so. I believe so. And watching that interaction on The Handmaid’s Tale, I also believe Mrs. Mackenzie thinks the same. There’s this moment, after the two women find common ground in sharing what they know about Hannah, where June concedes. “I appreciate the home you’ve made for her,” she tells Mrs. Mackenzie. Because it is a good home. Because her little girl is clearly loved. Because it could be so much worse. My daughter’s other mother has said the same to me more than once.